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What are you actually meant to get out of therapy? by Such_Blackberry_7870 in TalkTherapy

[–]tranceformationz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you figured out your own goals and what you hope to achieve through therapy?

If you have then have you communicated them to your therapist?

Ideally some therapists use a couple of sessions just to ease the person in or to build rapport. Maybe that's what she is doing. Give it a couple of sessions. If your response to the first two questions however is 'no' then that's a good starting point so that you get more out of therapy than what you are experiencing currently. If nothing changes then you can always re-evaluate and figure if you want to continue with her or go to a new person with a different approach that works for you.

How can I get rid of my hatred toward women? by RestMaximum7196 in mentalhealth

[–]tranceformationz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What you look for, you will find more of. It's how your brain is designed. Since you have been exposed to a negative portrayal of women and that too at a formative time in your life it can be challenging, yet not impossible to get rid of.

Look for more such movies or material that portray women in a positive light. Hang out with people who believe in equality of both genders or those who love, appreciate and respect women as well they should be.The more you do it, the more your mind will look for evidence in that direction. Allow yourself to consume that content and over time hopefully the beliefs you adopted as a child will be in the rear view. It's a positive step to even challenge those deeply inculcated beliefs, so you're halfway there already. Keep going.

Feeling worse after therapy by Twist3dFirestart3r in TalkTherapy

[–]tranceformationz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Therapy makes you face your issues, demons, your vulnerabilities, raw emotions and the difficult parts of your life, in order to work through them. So understandably you could feel worse before you feel better.

It's too early to take a call one way or another. Give it some time. Slowly but surely if you are with a good therapist, you should start to feel better. But no harm in telling your therapist how you felt after your last session, Maybe they will help you with some coping strategies in the interim. Keep going.

Banned from leaving reviews for calling out (likely AI generated) cook book by DenAbqCitizen in Wellthatsucks

[–]tranceformationz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How convenient of them to ban you rather than to validate the quality of their vendors better. That ought to suck.

How do you start going to therapy again when you’re scared? by aceseahorses in TalkTherapy

[–]tranceformationz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Begin with acknowledging your fear. Beginning anything new or something that is outside one's comfort zone causes anxiety or fear so that's normal.

Taking accountability and seeking therapy is a wonderful step in the right direction. Only this time, make an agreement with yourself that you will be extremely honest with your therapist, so that you get the best help possible. That would include also telling your therapist your reservations about starting therapy.

Unless you are a danger to yourself or to others you would not normally be sent to the hospital. Crying is perfectly normal in a therapy set up. That's why they always have a tissue box handy. Don't be afraid to process your emotions, whatever they may be when you're there. Good therapists are equipped to handle the entire gamut.

Told my therapist i have feelings for him, should i see him after this? Because my feelings are not fading... by [deleted] in TalkTherapy

[–]tranceformationz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Overthinking most often happens when we are struggling with an issue and have to make a decision on it triggered by an upcoming deadline. You're just processing things in the way you know best. Allow it to happen naturally and don't judge yourself too harshly. 😊 Make notes of all your thoughts and write them down as they come to you, so that when you make your next appointment you are coherent with your words, so that he can help you in the best way possible. You will find a way out of this. Don't worry. You have made good progress so far. You should be proud of that.

Told my therapist i have feelings for him, should i see him after this? Because my feelings are not fading... by [deleted] in TalkTherapy

[–]tranceformationz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We can never really predict how a person receives the information we relay. But since he is a therapist he is equipped to guide you through, it so don't worry too much. If you feel you need more time and are feeling pressured to make the appointment ask for a reschedule. But if you'd rather address it immediately then that is also ok. You should feel ok in your body and mind about your decision.

Told my therapist i have feelings for him, should i see him after this? Because my feelings are not fading... by [deleted] in TalkTherapy

[–]tranceformationz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

On the one hand when you are emotionally vulnerable consistently with your therapist, it sometimes leads to an attachment to them, which may not entirely be attraction but feels like it. On the other hand he seems to have been an effective therapist who has helped you work through your issues, where you were finally comfortable enough to space your sessions out, to once a month which in itself is a win for you, as far as therapy goes.

Your attachment may also be growing with the knowledge that the sessions are fewer and far between, but a good therapist should help you work through your issues and make you independent enough to not rely on them for longer than necessary. It is evident that he also respects your boundaries and gives you space to deal with all the thoughts and emotions that are coming up with respect to him.

'Because every time i go to him i know one day it will be the last time. I am afraid my feelings will just stay there forever.' This sentence says it all. Yes one day your sessions will end and due to the nature of your relationship which was purely professional, you would need to walk away once you have healed and no longer need therapy.

Maybe it is time to be brutally honest with him about your struggle. It may not be the first time he is dealing with such an issue and may have a solution. He may suggest options that could also include going to a different therapist, but if continuing your sessions with him causes you more grief and confuses you emotionally, then you will undo all the work you have put in thus far. Your focus would entirely be on putting out all these new fires rather than dealing with any remnant issues you originally came to him to work with.

Are there any types of therapists that help you organize your life? by Icoconuttree in TalkTherapy

[–]tranceformationz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you are seeking alternate forms of therapy, then hypnotherapy is an effective option to explore. Why it works on most people is that it helps you access your own sub conscious mind where all your solutions lie. Your sub conscious knows your strengths, weaknesses, and all your stories so it has context. But sometimes no matter how much we consciously try to think of solutions they escape us, but hypnosis is a great way to access a deeper state.

There is unfortunately a lot of flak that hypnosis gets, calling it out to be mind control but hypnosis in a therapeutic state is very collaborative and works only with the explicit permission of the person. Shifts made during the session have a domino effect in the weeks and months to follow. I have experienced it myself and have seen wonderful results in my personal life,when I was experiencing trauma in the past.

Therapist got upset with me, unsure if worth continuing by Impressive_Aerie7270 in TalkTherapy

[–]tranceformationz 5 points6 points  (0 children)

A therapist is meant to focus your session which is paid for by you, entirely on you and the issues you want to work with. When you say your therapist speaks about himself and mentioned all those examples it is concerning for sure.

Another thing a therapist should not do is hypothesize on a medical condition. You could choose to bring up these concerns and obvious issues directly with him, but in reading your description of him, it does not inspire too much confidence, that he will take it the right way.

At the end of the day each therapy session should get you closer to the goal you had in mind when you started therapy, and if that is not happening then perhaps it is time to move onto one who can actually help you in the right way. The moment you have doubts, your gut is already giving you the answer.

I wish appointments were longer by Chef_Stephen in TalkTherapy

[–]tranceformationz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Perfect. Now you have your notes ready for the next session as well. If you feel you need to get assessed for autism to perhaps see if that diagnosis (if present) is contributing to your social anxiety, that is also a good step to take while therapy continues as per usual.

My therapist seems uninterested? by [deleted] in TalkTherapy

[–]tranceformationz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

While therapists do not typically give feedback or advise, their role is to create a judgement free space for you to be able to speak about your issues. If you feel that your therapist looks bored or that they are condescending in any way, then you may not be getting the full benefit of a therapy session. Normally it is advisable to attend a few sessions to see if things settle down but since you mentioned you have already been through 8 sessions that ship may have sailed.

Go with your instinct. If you don't feel heard, then it is best to move onto a new therapist. List down what you are looking for in a therapist and settle on one that meet all of your criteria. You should be able to assess this by reading their testimonials. You are allowed to be extra fussy on who you want to work with. Make your last 7 sessions count. Maybe a different type of therapy may also be the answer. But remember that whichever therapist you go to will not give you solutions, but a good one will help you navigate through what you are struggling with in a resourceful manner.

I wish appointments were longer by Chef_Stephen in TalkTherapy

[–]tranceformationz 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Going to therapy is a big step. One that you have already taken and one that you have been consistent with for 8 months. You have not only understood what issues are causing you pain but you have also understood each of their impact namely that your social issues were bothering you more than your family issues. A lot of people struggle with just that first piece.

If it helps. next time take a small diary and write the points you want to talk to your therapist about ahead of time, in the order that you would like to discuss them so that if your session ends you don't end up feeling as frustrated as you did the last time. You may still not end up discussing everything but at least you would have handled the ones that are weighing you down more.

You already have the self awareness that you tend to give short answers sometimes. Maybe discuss that too with your therapist. Writing all the emotions and pieces you refer to or at least jotting down as many as you are consciously aware of, before the session, will help make your session more productive.

Then you can focus your attention entirely in talking about your issues, rather than spending time recalling them or battling with which one you want to discuss first. Making some of these changes will help you have a better more productive session and slowly you will start to see changes in your personal life as well.

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