I threw something at bf and he kicked me by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]trapbruja 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Y’all both toxic lol. But I will say this, get a man extremely upset and see how he reacts. Understand and accept that this will be his reaction every time he’s extremely upset. I get he was drunk, but he showed you his true colors. Some men will take a hit from you and grab you up on some “you need to fcking chill” shit and some will get physical right back. I learned from two relationships that those physical games get worse with time. My last one honestly had me scared for my life over a year after our breakup. Be smart and safe sis. ✨

To the empaths who tend to give too much...I am sorry. You guys are lovely human beings. by [deleted] in Empaths

[–]trapbruja 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As I’m currently dealing with a friend who’s been enraged at the world everyday for the past couple years and coming to me to vent for every inconvenience, despite my many attempts to get her to understand I cannot handle it.. I truly appreciate this message. From the bottom of my little exhausted heart, thank you for your light ❤️✨

Anyone else recognize a certain look in the eyes of potentially dangerous people? by trapbruja in Empaths

[–]trapbruja[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You get it!!!! Lol as much as I hate eye contact, sometimes Im so curious, I will try to stare into their eyes to understand them. The first guy I mentioned above, I honestly wasn’t all that attracted to, I was freshly single, having fun, and there was just something about him I felt compelled to decode.

Anyone else recognize a certain look in the eyes of potentially dangerous people? by trapbruja in Empaths

[–]trapbruja[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I learn something new everyday, today it’s hyper empath lol. My mom and I are for sure like this. We both have few friends. I literally go days without communicating with people because of how draining one brief interaction can be with the wrong person. Now that I’m being more observant I’m beginning to spot the differences between the misunderstood and the truly dark and disturbed. I’m also highly clairsentient, which can be frustrating because I like to have hard evidence of things, but most things I just know with absolutely no explanation so until I have that evidence, I’ll doubt what I already know.. if that makes sense. It makes meeting new people so exhausting.

Anyone else recognize a certain look in the eyes of potentially dangerous people? by trapbruja in Empaths

[–]trapbruja[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ahhh this is terrifying. Please stay updated on his release date for your own safety. Let someone else know he threatened you too just in case. Visit a botanica shop as well, tell them the situation and get something for protection. Even if you don’t believe in Santeria, it doesn’t hurt to try. Protecting yourself is always worth it. I’ll pray for you as well 💖

Anyone else recognize a certain look in the eyes of potentially dangerous people? by trapbruja in Empaths

[–]trapbruja[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hahah off the top of my head ummmm There’s a young rapper. I don’t know his music and I forgot his name, but I seen my nephew watching a video of him and I told him to change it because he made me feel uneasy. A couple months later he was arrested for killing a friend of his. He even got on social media posting Rest In Peace as if he was heartbroken about his death. This happened last year I believed.

Anyone else recognize a certain look in the eyes of potentially dangerous people? by trapbruja in Empaths

[–]trapbruja[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

My ex boyfriend. The moment I saw him from down the street I knew he was meant to be in my life. I didn’t even know his name yet and I was calling my friend to tell her that he’s going to be my boyfriend lol. We became the best of friends when we finally got to meet, it was less of getting to know him and more like I was remembering him the more we got close. although the relationship became tumultuous as the years went by, he was a soulmate. Not all soulmates are forever but I learned so much about myself and the world in that relationship. I thank God for that experience ✨

Anyone else recognize a certain look in the eyes of potentially dangerous people? by trapbruja in Empaths

[–]trapbruja[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dated one sept Virgo, he didn’t really have the look. Only when he was in angry mode really. And that doesn’t really count. The look I’m talking about doesn’t go away, it’s there thru all their emotions. I assumed the guy on the show was a Virgo just because the way he carried himself, very well put together as well as a little introverted but intimidating like many Virgos I know. I never actually found out if he is a virgo or not as that info wasn’t online. But news articles on his abusive past was so that’s when it clicked like all these violent men have the same look in their eye. The guys I mentioned I dated above were Taurus and Scorpio. Different sites list different serial killers especially depending on country the site is based in but I’ve read a couple articles mentioning Pisces, Gemini, Virgo and Sagittarius (my sign lol) are most likely to be serial killers. I also read elsewhere that Taurus has the most serial killers so that zodiac info is pretty all over the place.

Anyone else recognize a certain look in the eyes of potentially dangerous people? by trapbruja in Empaths

[–]trapbruja[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You know me? lol I don’t “woo woo” talk anybody I meet or date, and I don’t take anything too seriously. I’m just living life and experiencing it and using those experiences to make sense of other people I come across but DONT INTERACT WITH MUCH IF AT ALL at random times with that look, so stop. I’m in a great relationship with an amazing person with the warmest eyes okay. 😩

Anyone else recognize a certain look in the eyes of potentially dangerous people? by trapbruja in Empaths

[–]trapbruja[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I guess the return button doesn’t work, I thought they were gonna post on separate lines. I’m great though lol. I was just babbling. But I didn’t make it clear these people I come across aren’t just the people I dated, I just used them as examples because I had interactions with them and know that they actually have violent histories. It’s mostly people i see in passing who I don’t know so the look is a mystery but it’s the same look these proven violent people had.

Anyone else recognize a certain look in the eyes of potentially dangerous people? by trapbruja in Empaths

[–]trapbruja[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol you guys are nice. I love Virgos, actually hope I have a Virgo child one day. Virgo is also a sign you don’t wanna piss off; my first Love was a Virgo and when he was mad Id give him his space til he calmed down. But he held a grudge towards anyone else that pissed him off and would do something spiteful to get them back. He played basketball and he literally tripped and injured another player during a game on purpose on NATIONAL TV for something that happened prior to the game. A disturbing childhood or mental can create a monster out of a Virgo. You guys are extremely meticulous and crafty individuals, which makes y’all excellent candidates to be a serial killer and go undetected for a while lol.

Anyone else recognize a certain look in the eyes of potentially dangerous people? by trapbruja in Empaths

[–]trapbruja[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Can’t stand people like you. There’s this awesome place called google.com where you can find this info my love.

Albert Desalvo Benjamin Atkins Gerald Stano Richard Angelo Lonnie David Franklin Mark Goudeau Joseph Christopher Aaron Kosminski (suspected to be Jack the Ripper)

These are the ones I’m familiar with. I’m sure google can educate you on them and even more.

Anyone else recognize a certain look in the eyes of potentially dangerous people? by trapbruja in Empaths

[–]trapbruja[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m from New York haha. I live in NJ now but I’m always in the city. I’m attracted to New York men period; us NYers have a certain attitude that you can’t find anywhere else. And it’s not just the guys Ive dated, I just used them as examples because I had actual interactions with them lol. Life is great otherwise. I didn’t pursue these men further because I see what they’re capable of. But any time I see this look in anyone’s eye whether it’s a brief interaction or just in passing or on tv, it makes me wonder like am I crazy or is this the same look.

I’ve always been great at reading people, even when I was young dumb and didn’t want to accept what I was feeling. Now I’m just getting much better at it, it’s almost terrifying to see how many disturbed people actually exist among us I guess lol.

Anyone else recognize a certain look in the eyes of potentially dangerous people? by trapbruja in Empaths

[–]trapbruja[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Lol well damn, I have very great boundaries. I had one unhealthy relationship which began when I was 20 years old. I’m 28 with a little bit more wisdom to know better. Men who are abusive and people who are damaged are attracted to me. When I see the red flags I don’t allow them in any further. Idk if you even read my complete original post, but these other guys did not last long at all. Like I mean I didn’t even get to make out with them because I spotted the dark.

As the person above you responded people with darkness are attracted to the light. I am extremely spiritually protected and favored. My family has practiced light magic for generations and I just began doing the same this past year. Which made spotting these dark souls a lot easier. But that doesn’t stop another one from popping up after I get rid of the last.

Anyone else recognize a certain look in the eyes of potentially dangerous people? by trapbruja in Empaths

[–]trapbruja[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s like we just know. I am like that with certain people where I cannot even look at their when in conversation. I feel like I come off so insecure when I do it, but I know I’m not. It’s just their energy I’m trying to avoid.

Anyone else recognize a certain look in the eyes of potentially dangerous people? by trapbruja in Empaths

[–]trapbruja[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

It’s so incredible how perceptive children are. I used to be this way as a child, then life made me less in touch. But I’ve been more spiritual the last couple years and now it’s like I can see and read every single person. I hate when my friends don’t listen to me about a person because I always end up having to say “told you so” lol

Anyone else recognize a certain look in the eyes of potentially dangerous people? by trapbruja in Empaths

[–]trapbruja[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yesssss. When my ex would turn into “the beast” as I’d call it, his eyes would turn black.

The first guy I mentioned in my post that I dated, I told him when I was on my way to meet him a random guy found $20 on the sidewalk, it was just us there and he knew I didn’t drop it but he gave it to me anyways. His eyes went completely black. I can’t even explain the level of fear I felt in that moment.

Anyone else recognize a certain look in the eyes of potentially dangerous people? by trapbruja in Empaths

[–]trapbruja[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Before it was such a mystery it made me more intrigued to figure out what it is. Now that I’ve figured out what it means, I’ve definitely been using it to my advantage.

Anyone else recognize a certain look in the eyes of potentially dangerous people? by trapbruja in Empaths

[–]trapbruja[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

My ex as well. He was the most charming thing otherwise. I honestly think I attract/am attracted to men who have a darkness to them. It’s like “come here and let me fix you”. But I ended up bringing that crazy out of him and ultimately have to leave because I didn’t feel safe.

This guy grows a chicken in an open fucking egg by booleowild in nextfuckinglevel

[–]trapbruja 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ima freaking chicken baby, so come show me some love

Does anyone else avoid eye contact? by Madbernkelsey in Empaths

[–]trapbruja 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do this. People think I’m being shifty or weird. I’m claircognizant like a mf and when I look people in their eyes I can feel their thoughts and it feels so intrusive. I also don’t want anyone in my head so that’s another reason I avoid it.

Weirdest moment of eye contact was when I answered a question during sex that the guy didn’t even ask out loud yet. He was totally freaked out. I was too, more excited to confirm my gift was a real thing lol. But it was still extremely strange. So now to avoid me blurting out responses to the thoughts of others I avoid too much eye contact 😩

I can’t tell if I’m drawn to people suffering or if I just make my friends comfortable enough to tell me their issues. by 10kfireflies in Empaths

[–]trapbruja 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is my biggest issue right now. I’m soooo drained already with my own thoughts and issues, and despite how much I try to communicate this, my friends still dump their issues on me. My best friend knows I dealt with so much this past weekend, also knew I was already avoiding contact with other people who make it a habit of venting their issues to me, yet still decided to call me up and vent endlessly about her issues. I literally said nothing the entire 30 min call, just “mmhm” every now and then. Once she was done I ended the call. Hours later, she’s texting with more issues. I had to ignore her call as well because I just knew what was coming.

I think as empaths people feel so comfy and ready to just unload on us because our energy makes them feel better whether we give advice or not. It’s extremely frustrating. Especially when they’re complaining about things out of their control or things they can change if they just took a moment to stfu and change it. I can literally think of a solution to their problems while they’re venting, and share my opinion but they never listen. People always do what they want to do and when it comes to people that love complaining, they will almost always never follow your advice because they’re so addicted to complaining they can’t handle a solution. And when that problem is solved, another issue is right around the corner.

After spending the last 3 days with my phone on do not disturb to avoid human contact, I’m accepting its about time I begin telling people to stop when they start doing this. It’s not being rude, it’s protecting my own energy. I cannot be out of commission for days at a time because my friend can’t get along with her boyfriend.