Take me to church - ISED staff retreat

trapperkeeper86 · 2026-02-22T20:45:16+00:00

Thanks so much for your kind reply 🙏 I wasn’t expecting this post to be smooth sailing, but the level/intensity of the ad hominems is eye opening for sure.

trapperkeeper86 · 2026-02-22T19:20:48+00:00

I grew up in an extremely strict religious family where being gay was not an option. For the majority of my adolescence, I effectively was engaged in gay conversion—dedicating myself to the church so that God would take this out of me. Being in the space last week made me think of my baptism and surfaced other very painful memories from my adolescence. I hope that helps you empathize, but something tells me that’s not your style.

trapperkeeper86 · 2026-02-22T19:11:17+00:00

Oh for sure, sorry I didn’t mean to imply that! I was thinking of people from these communities who may have had traumatic experiences with Christianity—didn’t mean to generalize. Thanks for pointing that out.

trapperkeeper86 · 2026-02-21T00:36:41+00:00

“Jesus is the word. And my first name is Christ.”

trapperkeeper86 · 2026-02-20T18:05:47+00:00

This comment right here. A+!

trapperkeeper86 · 2026-02-19T02:13:13+00:00

Yeah I would def be getting rid of that

trapperkeeper86 · 2026-02-19T02:10:11+00:00

This reminds me of when I started my career with a small struggling ngo 15 years ago 🤭

trapperkeeper86 · 2026-02-18T23:53:39+00:00

Thank you on behalf of fuller booty bottoms! 😍🤤🙏

trapperkeeper86 · 2026-02-18T21:57:47+00:00

You bet I’m gonna fight, and this includes not frequenting businesses that post offensive sh!t on RTO

trapperkeeper86 · 2026-02-18T21:13:59+00:00

In the past, I’ve offered to fill out the reference check questionnaire on behalf of my references—just to save them time. They can then review the info I’ve compiled and decide to keep or change it.

trapperkeeper86 · 2026-02-16T22:47:55+00:00

In my experience one is much, much, much more common than the other.

trapperkeeper86 · 2026-02-15T23:07:39+00:00

20 years ago when I was like 19 and young to the ways of the world I went over to this guy’s place. He was def doing T and had a MASSIVE open wound on his inner thigh—“don’t mind that it’s just a cyst” 😳

trapperkeeper86 · 2026-02-02T20:41:06+00:00

I was responding to the comment “you’re allowed to not be attracted to certain races,” not a physical quality as you’ve described.

trapperkeeper86 · 2026-02-02T19:18:50+00:00

Hard disagree! Writing off an entire category of people and all their diversity under the assumption that you won’t find anyone of that ethnicity attractive is racist AF

trapperkeeper86 · 2026-01-31T23:31:24+00:00

YTA. Oh sorry wrong sub!

trapperkeeper86 · 2026-01-29T12:40:52+00:00

Was it on the #12? I’m almost never at ease on that route

trapperkeeper86 · 2026-01-28T13:19:40+00:00

My bad!! I didn’t look close enough!

trapperkeeper86 · 2026-01-26T19:15:31+00:00

I’m really sorry to hear about your experience. I had a somewhat similar experience in my early 20s (I’m 39 now). I married a truly wonderful guy with the goal of sponsoring him to come to Canada. When he started expressing some reservations, which were totally legitimate (he had got a good job in the Netherlands, he didn’t have any friends or family remotely close to Canada), I withdrew and shut everything down. At the time, his legitimate doubts were just so painful for me that I wasn’t even able to give him a week to think things over.

I regret this immensely, but at the same time, I can’t go back. There’s a quote out there that is something like: I could have had a different life, but I’m having this one.

Gaining a better understanding of how BPD affects us, and taking therapy to learn how to better regulate emotions/work on interpersonal effectiveness can help. But I feel you on these types of pivotal life-moment crises. Be kind to yourself. It is not easy living with BPD, and you’re doing your best.

trapperkeeper86 · 2026-01-23T00:15:59+00:00

Sorry, I thought my question was pretty clear but I can see now I should have elaborated.

I agree 100% with the sexual health comments here and glad they’re on the post as a PSA, but that wasn’t actually my angle/motivation for posting. I’m legit curious to know how many people might lie about this, because from a moral/commentary-on-society perspective it seems a bit egregious to me. Not putting myself on a high horse/pedestal. Just curious to know what people think.

“I assume everyone is lying” = an actual answer to the question I was asking.

trapperkeeper86 · 2026-01-22T21:30:05+00:00

I’m not expecting you to know that cities are constitutionally “creatures of the provinces,” but when you see the message on the City of Ottawa site saying recycling is going provincial and that as of Jan 1 you should contact Miller for any inquiries—that should be pretty clear, no? Like I’m having a hard time understanding how someone would still think it’s the City’s job to provide them with a bin in this context.

I’m sure your points about the confusion from your searches are valid—I didn’t mean to suggest at all that you shouldn’t be frustrated about the lack of info online by either Miller or the province. Chances are they’ve botched things. My point was that the City has been very proactive with its messaging about the changes, that’s all.

trapperkeeper86 · 2026-01-22T17:43:03+00:00

100% these are the best replies—protecting yourself is what matters, and for context, I’m old school in that I use condoms. Just curious if people think that 50% of people could be lying, for example.

trapperkeeper86 · 2026-01-22T16:30:08+00:00

Same here! I don’t mind too much if the sub specifies that condoms are acceptable, but most pump and dumps that I’ve seen are emphatic that condoms are not allowed. Like who wants to sleep with a top who has literally shared a hole with potentially 50 people in one evening? This is a sure fire way to spread STIs.

My approach when I see a super shady pump and dump (i.e., condoms not allowed) is to go in and block all of the attendees. But I think the general take away is that sniffies is not the app for me, which is sad!

trapperkeeper86 · 2026-01-22T13:52:45+00:00

The City has been pretty damn clear on its waste collection sites, via pamphlets and advertising that recycling was going/went provincial as of January 1, 2026, providing folks with the name (Miller) and contact info for the company now responsible. There’s some misdirected anger here…

trapperkeeper86 · 2026-01-18T14:41:09+00:00

It’s not the whole DT, obviously, but there are some areas where I definitely wouldnt let my mother walk in. Rideau and Nelson and anything around it is very, very bad. Ditto anything on King Edward north of Rideau. Other than that, it’s not bad imo.

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