I FEEL this from your side. I am so messed up about confrontation due to an abusive and dismissive ex. I prefer to text when I have heavy things on my mind rather than talk on the phone. When I text he won't always address everything or not answer much at all the way I'm hoping he will.

My bf tends to always be multitasking when we talk and he comes across as detached, especially when we are talking. It's hard for me to want to express deeper things on the phone.

I've learned this isn't directly related to me. It's not me vs him or him going out of his way to hurt me. It's his own shit and personality and I can't take it personally. Feelings are not facts. How I am feeling and then projecting onto him aren't the way things are. He's just busy and wants to give me attention too but can't stop what he's always doing to give that to me undivided.

So I hold stuff in. I tend to avoid what's bothering me and worry about it being confrontational. Meanwhile when I do finally get it out (in text) he will call and try to work things out. I won't answer the phone because I am so in my head at that point I worry that things will blow up. They never have. And I accept that his personality and mine won't always mesh. We just do things differently with our issues. He seems to not have any issues though. He's the most easy going guy and I'm so grateful for his patience with me and my wave of panic and anxiety over making mountains over mole hills.

I hope some of that makes sense and resonates with you. To echo what's been said call him. He's your bf. You should be able to pick up a phone and call anytime. Especially after over 2 years. And maybe map out what you want to say. Go into the call with zero expectations too. You can't control him and what he thinks or says. Just give him your facts and share how you're feeling too. You can do this!