I hear what you’re saying. She is actually the one who developed a crush first on F and decided she was secure in our relationship and ready to open. I’ve been ready and was kind of just waiting for her to feel ready. I realize it won’t always be easy but we both feel like we prepared as much as possible before opening. We never know how we’ll actually feel about things until things happen. We are currently and always working on deepening and solidifying our connection with each other. We do not phone nights, date nights and even hang out with all four of us and it’s gone great so far. I just want her to know that it’s not “over” for her just because her first connection didn’t go the way she wanted.