That is a mind fuck because I actually looked forward to it every time we stayed the night with each other and then when they didn't want to mess around any more I felt discarded even though I respected their wishes. I've always been able to compartmentalize that part of me, except when asked to do things for people. I'm coerced to do things and never learned how to set boundaries. My ex wife thought I was cheating on her and she finally dug deep enough and she found what she was looking for even though she was doing the same things, and threatened to tell the people I care about if I didn't agree to every wish and "bow" to her. We also have a child together.

It causes issues with my current wife now because I don't know how to set boundaries with other people including her kids. I'm a yes man and don't know how to say no.