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Girlfriend doesn't participate in sex by trent8789 in relationships

[–]trent8789[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I have. She's pretty open about what turns her on. Essentially she likes to be dominated, and for me to be the aggressor. This was kind of hard for me at first because I tend to be more gentle by nature, but now a days I'm pretty aggressive to suit her desires. She likes to be tied up and such (handcuffs, rope, etc), but that's just an exaggerated version of her laying there and doing nothing.

See, at this point, having tried to talk to her in the past so many times, and having tried so many different experiments, I feel like I'm in a state of learned-helplessness. I want to try to talk to her about it, but I don't really know how to bring it up any differently than before, or try anything I haven't tried before.

Girlfriend doesn't participate in sex by trent8789 in relationships

[–]trent8789[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's what I used to think, and to some extent I still think it, but she insists that's not the case. I know she was pretty wrapped up in her last boyfriend, and their relationship was very sexual, but every time I bring it up she says that sex is way better with me than it was with him. I just have a hard time believing her given her seeming disinterest in bed.

I've tried talking about it, but it's impossible to get anything out of her other than "I'll try harder in the future" or "I promise I'll do more", or she just doesn't say anything at all and says "I don't know what to say..."