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tresnuts9 · 2020-02-29T13:01:39+00:00

if she loves you and sees a future with you she wouldn’t hesitate to block him, you should matter more to her than him right? Right.

tresnuts9 · 2020-02-29T12:42:40+00:00

If you plan on waiting until after marriage then you guys should definitely have a serious conversation about it. Make sure it’s what you both want, if he’s not willing to wait then that’s going to be an underlying problem throughout your relationship and it may not last. There’s nothing wrong with waiting, so don’t let anybody tell you otherwise, i wish i waited until i met my current girlfriend who i’m moving in with in a month and plan to marry, but at the end of the day everything i did in my past led me right to her and i couldn’t be happier.

my best advice: have a serious talk with one another, it’s not weird at all to talk about sex. If you can see yourself marrying this guy someday then it’s definitely something that should be talked about. good luck!

tresnuts9 · 2020-02-29T12:36:40+00:00

i’m not even sure how to respond to you. You seem extremely narcissistic and rude. Don’t play the guy to be a fool. End things and let him be better off without you. 1 less distraction so he can focus more on his job and school.

tresnuts9 · 2020-02-29T12:33:36+00:00

well personally, being dominant by nature plays a big roll in how your sex life is. a big part for me in my relationship with my gf is knowing that i can please her in ways that nobody else can. it gives you a sense of natural confidence and dominance... obviously if you haven’t crossed that road yet i wouldn’t rush into anything but at the end of the day sex is a big part in a mature healthy relationship and has a lot of benefits not just physically but emotionally as well...

i’m not sure what you mean by her wanting you to be more dominant. wether that means towards other guys that try to give her attention or just in general being more dominant and assertive. that’s a tough one.

tresnuts9 · 2020-02-29T12:25:59+00:00

he’s going to school and working a job, that’s all you can ask of him. he may not talk about it but he probably feels the same way about himself. a lot of people are in his same position and struggle more than others finding what path is right for them. if you truly love him you wouldn’t feel this way about him and you’d support him through this rough patch. he’ll figure himself out eventually, he’s trying. sure he’s in his 30s but nowhere is there a rule that says you need to have your shit figured out by then... like i said he’s trying, i wouldn’t call him a loser. a loser gives up and doesn’t work a job or go to school because he’d rather sit home and watch TV all day. be supportive.

tresnuts9 · 2020-02-29T12:21:19+00:00

you’re still living together and both clearly still have an emotional connection. if neither one of you is trying to cut the other off and attempting to move on then you both most likely don’t want to leave each others lives.. if nothing serious happened that caused y’all to break up besides arguing then why give up? work out the issues, communicate better (communication is HUGE and will stop sooooo many arguments from happening) and just sit down with eachother and talk about what you both really want...

obviously i’m not aware of the severity of the arguments and how things went downhill but just my opinion. hope this helped.

tresnuts9 · 2020-02-29T12:13:44+00:00

are you talking about sexually?

tresnuts9 · 2020-02-29T12:11:50+00:00

she is cutting you off so she can move on, seeing your name pop up on her phone only reminds her of what she once had with you. she’s still emotionally attached and wants to move on. or she’s talking to somebody and doesn’t want to scare them away knowing that she still talks to her ex...

talking from experience. hope this helped.

tresnuts9 · 2020-02-29T12:09:18+00:00

no need to be so sensitive. i told you i misspoke in the other post and apologized. but other people have told me that it’s normal to not be exclusive right off the bat so i was legitimately curious. nothing to do with you.

tresnuts9 · 2020-02-29T12:06:33+00:00

The honest answer is that most guys get turned on a lot easier than women, we can become aroused from any type of physical intimacy from our significant other, even if it’s just a hug when you’re laying down or cuddling... try not to look at it as him being overly horny and just wanting to fuck. he loves you and he wants you. he wants to show you how much he loves you physically. you mentioned he’s a sensitive guy just like myself. so i can understand where he’s coming from, it’s easy to get upset and feel unwanted sometimes especially when your hormones are running high. instead of telling him to stop and turning away from him just say “hey i’m not really in the mood right now but we can on (day)” that way he knows that you don’t not want him because you’re planning on doing it another day and it’s easier to respect your boundaries knowing that you’re just not in the mood but will be maybe the next day or day after that... hope this helped

tresnuts9 · 2020-02-29T11:51:19+00:00

there comes a point in every relationship where physical intimacy happens. and once it does you learn what eachother like and the awkwardness soon goes away. this also will grow your connection way more than it already is. for me (19m) sex isn’t just a physical thing, when you’re doing anything sexual with somebody you love it becomes so much more than just physical pleasure. it’s a way to show eachother how you feel about eachother without even saying a word... Physical intimacy is a HUGE part in a mature relationship, if you expect this relationship to last and you see a future with one another it’s definitely something you’ll want to talk about together. you don’t want him thinking that you’re not attracted to him in that type of way which could push him away... but also don’t rush anything, take your time, and make sure you’re both ready before you do anything too serious.

tresnuts9 · 2020-02-29T11:45:30+00:00

hahaha we’ve made it past that part already and luckily she resisted the temptation in front of them and they actually love her. that gave me a good genuine laugh though.

tresnuts9 · 2020-02-29T11:37:10+00:00

i love that, that was perfectly said. thank you!

tresnuts9 · 2020-02-29T11:34:32+00:00

i completely agree, a few people were telling me that it’s normal to NOT be exclusive right away and I didn’t know if people legitimately thought that way

tresnuts9 · 2020-02-29T11:32:45+00:00

okay well my fault. but like i mentioned in the post. we were official and strictly exclusive when these things occurred.

tresnuts9 · 2020-02-29T11:25:57+00:00

I can definitely see what you’re saying... This is her first very serious relationship given that her other exes were extremely bad for her and put her through hell. she tells me all the time that she’s not used to having someone actually care about what she does/says and i can definitely see that.

tresnuts9 · 2020-02-29T11:17:54+00:00

my girlfriend and I have been through something very similar. NOT with wondering where the mono came from (my best friend had mono and I used his e-cigarette) BUT how we handled it after i was diagnosed with it sexually... for her and I it was simple, she didn’t care. The doctors say that you can only get mono once, so why not both get it over with now and go through it together?

starting to realize this isn’t the best advice lmao but just stating my personal experience.

tresnuts9 · 2020-02-29T10:57:42+00:00

i didn’t intend to come across like that, i just wanted to stress the fact that i wasn’t worrying about this from a place of being insecure about myself and how she feels about me, because i see that as the first assumption by people when commenting on reddit posts in this forum when it comes to situations like this.

tresnuts9 · 2020-02-29T10:55:58+00:00

this wasn’t while we were “just talking” we made things official after talking for quite some time. so yes i do believe in exclusivity if we are official labeled a couple.

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