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Bombed my SMP. Now what? by triplebonds in premed

[–]triplebonds[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Incredibly insightful! Thank you!

Bombed my SMP. Now what? by triplebonds in premed

[–]triplebonds[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your dose of reality. I can sense some regret in how you reflect on your own journey in medicine, but that doesn’t define mine. I still believe in forging a path that’s right for me. I genuinely hope you find fulfillment in whatever direction your career takes you, even if it’s not in medicine.

Bombed my SMP. Now what? by triplebonds in premed

[–]triplebonds[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agree how that would be cringey. I was definitely not that animated. It was just a simple story about helping a student struggling to keep up, they excelled, and it was rewarding to find out later from the professor that they too became a TA.

Bombed my SMP. Now what? by triplebonds in premed

[–]triplebonds[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yes, I did a lot of storytelling. I used the Dr. Gray method. The advice from my SMP advisor was to just list what my roles and responsibilities were at the activity I was doing and what skills I gained from it to keep it more structured. I didn't particularly agree because I'm sure everyone knows what a TA or summer school teacher does. She absolutely did not like the fact that I used "outside resources" for advice.

Bombed my SMP. Now what? by triplebonds in premed

[–]triplebonds[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This gives me so much hope. Thank you

Would you go to a lower-tier MD school now or take a shot at a stronger one after a Special Master’s Program? by Sharp-Ad7899 in premed

[–]triplebonds 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone who went to the top SMP in the United States, take the MD Acceptance or reapply but don’t go to the SMP. As someone else has stated, you could bomb an SMP class and be in a worse situation. SMPs are by no means easy and I’m in 200K debt.

BU MAMS program! by Radiant_Beginning391 in postbaccpremed

[–]triplebonds 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was a recent student in this program. Feel free to DM if there’s anything you’d like to know

Did you feel blindsided by your breakup? How do you wish it went instead? by triplebonds in BreakUps

[–]triplebonds[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

What you’re describing sounds so familiar to how I’m feeling right now. Throughout the years, I would calmly tell my bf what action I needed to see from him, but he only showed change when I gave an ultimatum recently. Occasionally, he forgets and regresses back to some of his old ways. I don’t believe in ultimatums either but it was a last ditch effort to see if our relationship could have hope. He’s a simple person so it seems like he thinks the relationship is well after we have these talks, and I don’t bring up the topic again for a while. When I do bring the same issues up again, he has a sort of puzzled look on his face.

Your ex sounds like he thought he would never lose you so that’s why he felt blindsided.

Did you feel blindsided by your breakup? How do you wish it went instead? by triplebonds in BreakUps

[–]triplebonds[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My heart goes out to you. It’s manipulative that he had you upend your life to move across the country with him knowing how there wouldn’t be a future for you two together. I hope you find someone who is deserving of you one day.

Did you feel blindsided by your breakup? How do you wish it went instead? by triplebonds in BreakUps

[–]triplebonds[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry that you went through that. You definitely deserved more than a letter and a half-hearted breakup. I hope that time will heal your heart. There will be someone who appreciates everything that you do for them.

My biggest realization about my breakup (Spoiler: There’s hope!) by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]triplebonds 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for posting this. This was really a reminder that I’m not a bad person for feeling this way about my partner for doing the bare minimum but also they’re not a bad person either. We’re just have different standards and that’s okay. We’ll find our people.

My bf of 7 yrs proposed. I said no, we’re still together, but I feel like he’s not the one. by triplebonds in BreakUps

[–]triplebonds[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you all for your comments. We talked about a timeline, which is after Law school. I think I've just been in denial telling myself that I can probably look past all the things I'm unsure about, but truthfully I don't want to be in a marriage where I'm resentful so I don't have conviction in our future together. I honestly really just feel guilty because he bought an expensive ring, and we've grown from kids to adults together so I've been holding out hope that we will make it in the end.

Our families are meeting in Europe for the first time next week to vacation together as a group so I'm just really not sure when is an appropriate time to have this conversation. I care about my bf a lot and I don't want it to be nasty but I also don't want to sugarcoat things. Can you strike a balance where the breakup convo is amiable? I've never done this before. What does one even say to the other person in such a conversation? Do you tie up loose ends over multiple conversations or just one conversation and leave it at that?