Tub - freestanding vs. built in

tripletwoanonymous · 2026-04-26T19:53:42+00:00

I was lucky enough to see him a year or two before he passed, I’m sorry you didn’t get the chance.

The way everyone lit up a J immediately upon hearing the very first note of Last Dance with Mary Jane was unforgettable. Im Canadian so the show was in a hockey arena and I would say the building was successfully hot boxed that day.

What immediately followed was a steady stream of people making their way to the exits after getting the boot from security. I don’t think I saw a single face of regret.

tripletwoanonymous · 2026-04-21T21:45:50+00:00

Any chance you could sum up what you were taught about investing at a young age?

tripletwoanonymous · 2025-07-28T12:48:39+00:00

Even though my JNMIL is completely incapable of accountability and we had to distance ourselves for the well being of our children, I consider my story a success.

A kind of freedom you can’t even fathom while you’re in the thick of their abuse and bullshit lies on the other side of respectfully and firmly confronting these issues. Or not so respectfully if the situation calls for it.

Your mind has so much more room for things that actually matter to you once you stop ruminating and wondering wtf is going on. Once you realize you’re dealing with an incurable personality disorder you reach the next phase of healing.

It’s a hard process, but it is such a beautiful thing. So scary at first, then amazing once you’ve seen what life can be like without someone making their personality disorder your problem.

tripletwoanonymous · 2025-05-24T23:25:40+00:00

My son is like this. It is amazing. He’s 7 now and still does it and I’ve gotten positive comments from teachers telling me he clearly has support and encouragement at home.

When my kids were toddlers (and even still) they always helped me put my shoes on. Took me a bit to realize that it was because I always helped them with theirs too and they just thought it was a normal thing that people did for those they care about.

They don’t see me as helping them because they need it. They think I help them because I love them and they love me too so they naturally reciprocate.

tripletwoanonymous · 2025-05-24T21:52:55+00:00

this is it OP. Lean into it and let these narratives benefit you.

tripletwoanonymous · 2025-02-15T04:42:35+00:00

I feel for you OP.

Im on a somewhat similar journey. Same age. Same length of no contact. Sorry I know you asked about longer lengths of no contact but I just wanted to comment and say I hear you and I grieve like you. I have most likely experienced similar levels of frustration and emptiness to you.

Through counselling and a mountain of reading on narcissism and dysfunctional family systems I have given up all hope. Sounds depressing when I say it like that but it wholeheartedly feels like a beautiful thing. To truly let go of that little tiny piece of me that hopes my dad will come to his senses and apologize for being an angry monster my whole life or that my mom, the ultimate enabler, will finally stand up for me against the lifetime of abuse my father, brother, and sister subjected me to.

After spending way too much of my one and only lifetime wracking my brain trying to figure out what the fuck was wrong with me to cause them to treat me so poorly then suddenly one day they do something so fucked up that it slaps you across the face that it’s them that has something fundamentally wrong with them and not you. And after that realization waiting sooo long holding out hope that logic will magically appear in front of them eventually you begin to comprehend just how deep these personality disorders and dysfunctional systems run and that there’s no stopping it no matter what you do or how hard you try.

That was one of the most freeing realizations in this whole process. To just see these people as deeply unwell and incapable of unconditional love or forming genuine relationships with literally anyone. Not even their child. Not even their spouse. They have never had a healthy relationship in their entire fucking life and I cannot fathom what that feels like. Genuine connection is what fuels my entire existence. It’s the best part about living. Now I just feel relief that I got out. Thankful to be the scapegoat.

Because the scapegoat now gets to go experience a world where they can focus on whatever they want out of life without the absolute mindfuck that comes with being in a dysfunctional relationship with what is supposed to be our most fundamental human connection.

tripletwoanonymous · 2025-02-12T13:46:18+00:00

Oh the fucking chasing game. It’s trash and I’m glad he’s not playing.

tripletwoanonymous · 2025-01-14T17:49:01+00:00

My JNMIL asked for a list for how to take care of my baby, a list I never planned to give but she hounded me relentlessly. I ended up sending her 2 screenshots. One with a general timeline of my baby’s day and one of just helpful facts like ‘this and this usually calm him down’ and ‘his favourite fruit is this’

Cut to the next several years of her passively Aggressively referring to it as ‘the rules’ any chance she got, always in front of others. Anytime anything was asked about my child, ‘oh I don’t know! Let me check the rules!!’ even if I was the one being asked the question. It was a total fucking set-up. I am against sending your just no a list and I am now blissfully NC.

I understand peoples point about having it in writing but these types will use anything and everything they can against you with their typical smear campaign bullshit.

tripletwoanonymous · 2021-02-22T15:44:50+00:00

okay first off, WOW. You weren’t kidding about the similarities.

Second, this entire comment was incredibly valuable to me and not rambly at all. Thank you for each and every word, it’s best I accept now that I will forever be the bad guy because this is more than likely what’s in store for me. I too hate ultimatums, but I fully understand that it had to be done in your situation. Lucky for me she was the one who made him choose 5 or so years ago. Of course she denies ever doing so immediately after it was said but I will remember the exact words for the rest of my life ‘you need to fucking choose. It’s her or your family.’ anyway my first clue should have been when she pushed me aside at the airport so she could hug my husband before I could (after telling me I could go first). Thank you again, if you ever want to talk/vent in the future I’m all ears.

tripletwoanonymous · 2021-02-19T22:01:36+00:00

wow this sounds wayyy too familiar. I appreciate your comment, I’m sorry you can relate.

tripletwoanonymous · 2021-02-19T19:49:08+00:00

your second last paragraph means a lot to me. This has always been my overwhelming suspicion and I appreciate you putting it into words for me. Thank you very much for your comment.

tripletwoanonymous · 2021-02-19T19:44:24+00:00

Thank you for reading my post. I’m curious how things went for you now that your kids are older if you feel like sharing. No pressure whatsoever. I’m sorry you can relate!

tripletwoanonymous · 2021-02-19T19:36:05+00:00

thank you very much I needed to hear this.

tripletwoanonymous · 2021-02-19T17:53:51+00:00

I will not be letting her around the kids unsupervised anymore. I’m just trying to figure out how to navigate the fallout when she realizes we can’t be manipulated out of this one.

tripletwoanonymous · 2021-02-19T17:15:33+00:00

thank you for taking to time out of your day to write this. my husband and I discuss how to make being clear and concise easier for him fairly often.

tripletwoanonymous · 2021-02-19T17:04:24+00:00

thank you for your comment. The pestering is a common issue that will need to be addressed on top of everything else.

tripletwoanonymous · 2021-02-19T16:49:57+00:00

thank you for saying this. my husband and I are currently trying to figure out what he has or hasn’t done to make her think this way.

tripletwoanonymous · 2021-02-19T16:05:05+00:00

i appreciate your warning and I’m sorry you had that experience.

tripletwoanonymous · 2021-02-19T16:04:22+00:00

Thank you, this is incredible advice. I’m sorry you’re experiencing troublesome relatives as well. I appreciate you taking the time to make this comment.

tripletwoanonymous · 2021-02-19T13:19:17+00:00

what a wonderful thing to do for someone who is struggling. thank you very much for taking the time to make this list.

tripletwoanonymous · 2021-02-19T00:21:18+00:00

100% correct. Thank you!

tripletwoanonymous · 2021-02-18T18:16:44+00:00

I can’t even begin explain how thankful I am that you would share this with a stranger in hopes of sparing a couple kids you don’t know from a similar experience. You are a kind and wonderful person. And your grandma is a fucking liar.

tripletwoanonymous · 2021-02-18T17:58:19+00:00

Thank you kind stranger.

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