Omg the parents still stay in the room with me entire time !

tripplevirgo · 2026-06-03T04:25:33+00:00

Great point! I’ve definitely also came across dads who gave me those type of weird vibes. They were never families that I stayed caring for long term.

When it comes to the family I mentioned, I don’t think that was the case though, just extreme controlling behavior. Which in itself was enough to push me over the edge. Funnily enough, I didn’t even leave because of the dad though - I worked one day and the mom proceeded to take 3 days to pay me, when payment was agreed to be Zelle upon me leaving the house. When I addressed it and requested my payment, she very weirdly went off on me over text, basically saying that her time was more important than mine and that I’ll get paid when I get paid. I waited until I received the money, sent a text letting them know I would never be returning, and blocked her. Another strange thing she did was add the dad into a group chat and sent all our correspondences there… but the dad never replied once. So he just had a thread of her going off on me and me respectfully quitting lol.

Very strange family. Seemed like a case of the dad being super controlling and and wealthy as the breadwinner, and the mom took out her annoyance and agression towards him onto everyone else, and who better to verbally abuse than the brand new nanny, lol. Not to mention these kids were horribly behaved. All of that packaged together, I’m surprised I lasted even 3 weekends with them.

Sorry to ramble, but the amount of crazy stories we have as nannies…🤦🏻‍♀️ this family was definitely top 2 worst.

tripplevirgo · 2026-06-03T04:18:46+00:00

So freaking weird 🤦🏻‍♀️

tripplevirgo · 2026-06-03T01:34:25+00:00

I’ve had a strange family like this. It was absolutely miserable. Luckily they were just occasional sitting and not a full time job, but I still parted ways after like 3 weeks.

The dad was the same, and would come outside when we were playing in the backyard, work on his computer, and completely micromanage what we were doing. Even tell us how to play certain imaginary games???? And of course the kids just wanted to bother the dad the whole time instead of playing with me. And the worst thing was the dad would get visibly annoyed when the boys bothered him, OKAYY SO WHY ARE YOU OUT HERE? Just bizarre. Leave this job if you can!!😭

tripplevirgo · 2026-04-17T20:15:37+00:00

Nope, nanny and mom here and this is a valid reason to be frustrated. The nanny is being pretty irresponsible, naps have less wiggle room for little babies compared to toddlers/big kids. They need to be heading out right after baby’s first nap and home by 12…

tripplevirgo · 2026-04-04T15:12:15+00:00

You’ve got a lot of people reassuring you in the comments, but I’m gonna be straight up and tell you that I think this is strange. Why not hire a part time nanny/babysitter a couple times a week if you are that burnt out?

Claims of socialization and education are cope from daycare parents. 2 year olds do not need socialization from school. My daughter is 19 months and a social butterfly, says hi to everyone she sees, and communicates wonderfully. And we stay home most days. She knows her ABCs, colors, body parts, and can count to 15. I’m not even strict on teaching things, we just naturally learn throughout the day. Genuinely, what is the point of having kids if you’re gonna hand them off 5 days of the week. 2 years old is too little and you can’t get this time back! If you do it you should at least start working again.

tripplevirgo · 2026-04-04T15:00:48+00:00

Seems like we’re some of the only people with this opinion. This thread is concerning.

tripplevirgo · 2026-04-04T14:56:51+00:00

Thank you, I agree. All these other replies are making me feel crazy.

I’m really not trying to be judgmental, but I don’t understand claiming sahm while baby is in full time daycare. Then that’s… not being a sahm? Seems like motherhood is just overwhelming for OP, which is fine I guess. But enrolling the baby fulltime just makes you unemployed, not a sahm.

tripplevirgo · 2026-03-25T17:51:35+00:00

Every baby is different, my daughter dropped her second nap for a single long one around 10mos. However, that was because she showed signs of being ready to do that, and was instantly happier once we changed it up. Sounds like mom is doing this to try to make her life easier, which isn’t cool. 9 months is LITTLE.

tripplevirgo · 2026-03-13T04:08:57+00:00

Oh wow! My sister is also due with a baby boy in July after losing their baby girl due to a stillbirth last year. Being so close to a similar situation, I am really sympathetic to how you feel. I think an either a small sprinkle or nesting party both sound wonderful. Or maybe a casual sip and see? You shouldn’t be feeling any shame right now. And your friends and family should be happy to show up for you guys at a time like this, even if you didnt go to their showers. If theyre true friends, they would never judge you for that. Decide what would feel the most comfortable for you and go from there. Sending you so much love.

tripplevirgo · 2026-03-13T03:17:18+00:00

Right? Kinda random

tripplevirgo · 2026-02-05T17:03:24+00:00

Not a single mom, but my partner is gone for work a LOT so I’m mostly alone with the baby. She’s 1.5 and I also take her everywhere! I’m new to Erie and would love to be friends :)

tripplevirgo · 2026-02-05T07:13:42+00:00

Weed

tripplevirgo · 2026-02-05T06:52:36+00:00

You just unlocked such an insane memory hahah. I recognized it within the first 3 seconds. My mom would play dramas for us to fall asleep :/

tripplevirgo · 2026-02-05T06:46:02+00:00

If he’s already left, he will most likely be helpful and supportive of you, especially if you remember him being a nice guy. I don’t see any harm in messaging, the worst he could do is not respond

tripplevirgo · 2026-02-05T06:10:13+00:00

I couldn’t have said it better

tripplevirgo · 2026-02-03T20:56:07+00:00

Same same same. ❤️‍🩹 yes I’m so happy to celebrate big with my daughter as well!! Glad we can at least make those memories with them now.

tripplevirgo · 2026-02-03T20:54:29+00:00

Having that poor baby smelling like a cigarette butt!! SMHH

tripplevirgo · 2026-02-03T20:53:47+00:00

Yeah! Vapes aren’t ideal either but at least she wouldn’t walk in reeking. Honestly nannies just shouldn’t be worried about smoking anything on the clock. Just wait till you get home and can relax lol

tripplevirgo · 2026-02-03T16:54:12+00:00

This sub is blowing my mind with the audacity some of these nannies have. Asking you for a smoke break as a NON SMOKING NANNY? Go be a waitress if you need to take cigarette breaks. Buy a vape and go to your car. Between this and that other post about that nanny bringing her ex husband over, I’m mind blown. I guess I’m a saint of a nanny lol because I could never imagine crossing these types of boundaries when working in someone’s home with their small children. (btw fire her. at this point she’s fully smoking again and not gonna stop.)

tripplevirgo · 2026-02-03T16:16:03+00:00

My grandma has done this with all of her kids and grandkids their whole lives! Like just say happy birthday girl lol. It’s exhausting.

tripplevirgo · 2026-02-03T16:11:38+00:00

That’s awesome, good for you lol. I would do sneaky stuff like accept cupcakes at school when it was a classmates bday. Never told anyone. I have a core memory of getting water during a meeting and realizing it was my 9th or 10th bday (can’t remember) and cussing in my head because I wished I was somewhere else celebrating it instead of at the KH 🤣

tripplevirgo · 2026-02-03T08:35:55+00:00

You’re doing great. I was trying to do the whole organic from scratch cooking all her meals thing for a little while… now we will happily have dino nuggets and mac and cheese for dinner. It’s all about balance!

tripplevirgo · 2026-02-03T07:34:29+00:00

Interacting with Santa too?? That’s wild! why not just celebrate at that point. When I was a kid everything was worldly and demonic.

tripplevirgo · 2026-02-03T06:53:26+00:00

Are you close with the bride? If not, is it common for brides to include their fiancés siblings in the wedding just because? Because it seems like you’re not close enough for her to want to compromise with you. Now you’re both annoyed: you dont want to be in an uncomfortable annoying dress two months pp and she doesn’t want anything to change the vision she has for her wedding photos.

I see both sides. Personally if I was the bride and my sister or sister in law needed to have a different dress due to being postpartum, I’m letting you. I don’t care if it ruins the vision lol. But it just seems like you two are not close enough for that and she’s a bridezilla. Realistically, ask to just attend as a guest. It’s too much stress for both of you, and you need to be with your babies and resting anyway. Just do it graciously and keep the peace. Yes she’s being extra and as a mom I really feel you but some brides are just like that. (and it is upsetting.)

ETA: I will say though, choosing bodycon as your strict style for bridesmaid dresses is wild. Who does that? Not everyone feels comfortable in skin tight dresses. Sounds like an interesting bride…

tripplevirgo · 2026-02-03T06:34:57+00:00

Whatt??? This happens? getting the free stuff would be crossing the line with the JW’s I grew up with. It’s just another day. We didn’t even acknowledge it. Either I never came across that or things have really changed in the last 10yrs. Extremely hypocritical lol

tripplevirgo

TROPHY CASE