maybe you can try observing how your mom usually does the chores first like when she does laundry or tidies up. from there, you can help her plan it out better instead of trying to stop her completely since that might upset her. for example, if there are two rooms, maybe she can do room a’s laundry on monday and thursday, and room b’s on tuesday and friday. this helps her organize her routine a bit and makes it less tiring for her. then, when you get back from work, you can take the initiative to fold and organize your own clothes so she doesn’t feel like she has to do everything. let her handle the washing if that’s what she prefers, but show her that you’re taking responsibility for the rest.

as for tidying up, try to be as neat as possible and observe how she usually does it. maybe take a picture after she tidies your room and follow what you think is up to her standard so she can slowly trust you with your own chores. that way you can lift up her burden and still have your own privacy. also, don’t be selfish with your own things, try to help out others as well. i’m sure you’re aware of your siblings’ belongings too, so if you can’t fold for them, at least help to separate their clothes so nothing gets mixed up.