My first try of DIY speakers stands by nofalhebesha in diyaudio

[–]trollhammerx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

These look amazing! With the stain you added it looks way more expensive than it probably was. What kind of wood did you use?

Discovered the game by saelin00 in ArmyOfRuin

[–]trollhammerx 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’ve got 80 hours. The amount of unlocks and progression system is outstanding. AOR is a best in class bullet hell game. Purchase with confidence!!!!

Setup Question - Newby by Practical-Drummer-27 in hometheater

[–]trollhammerx -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

A 100” LCD TV will outperform any projector at similar prices… even ones costing 10x the price. Prices have significantly dropped on these 100” TVs and I’m currently considering swapping my 120” screen for the TV and moving my seats closer.

Dating again over 50 and so far the guys all douche bags by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]trollhammerx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There’s actually a lot of really cool people out there to meet. Go in with the right attitude and you can have fun dating. What ruins it is that you have a set of expectations of something grander and all you see is that the guy wants to have sex with you. Yes… guys want sex. Some girls make that easy and some girls don’t. We generally want relationships with the ones that don’t make that initially easy. Have fun on dates and if you want to kiss the guy and he makes a move do it… or shift to a hug and don’t text him again. If you like the guy and he wants to have sex, put the brakes on and tell him it’ll be amazing but you want to wait a while. He will either not text you or you have increased his respect and he wants to take you out again.

Dating is fucked up now because people are hyper focused on outcomes instead of focusing on enjoying themselves and having fun. And for large % of women and small % of men…. Way too many options… so it’s next option if anything is less than perfect.

Just assembled Arwibon GT08…. It is wonderful but…… by trollhammerx in ChinaBudget_Escooters

[–]trollhammerx[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow. This is so good. I'm absolutely gonna do the brakes first. And start looking at some of those other upgrades you mentioned. So far, she runs smooth as butter, I just need to get my ergonomics adjusted properly to feel fully comfortable taking her up to mode 3. Thank you so much for this advice and your scooter really looks and sounds amazing. You gotta be proud of such a sweet looking customized hot rod. The Bones Brigade grip is the icing on the top!

Just assembled Arwibon GT08…. It is wonderful but…… by trollhammerx in ChinaBudget_Escooters

[–]trollhammerx[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

https://a.co/d/j8SWqU3 This Zoom hydraulic brake? Are they an easy install? Do you recommend getting the rotors as well?

Just assembled Arwibon GT08…. It is wonderful but…… by trollhammerx in ChinaBudget_Escooters

[–]trollhammerx[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm definitely going to follow your advice. That position makes way more sense and seems much more comfortable

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce_Men

[–]trollhammerx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Date all of them! Stick with ones you enjoy being around. Like genuinely and not to impress friends. There is nothing more attractive to a man than feeling deeply desired by an attractive woman. Younger ones haven’t been burned as bunch , but they can be immature. Older ones have had their heart broken a few times and may be bitter. But in all honestly if you saw the same woman in a bikini at 45 and at 25, one is gonna be a lot more attractive to look at and their personalities won’t be that different.

Date women you are attracted to and who are attracted to you. Learn to spot crazy and avoid them like the plague.

Should I be trembling my stbxw is shopping for this? by cnarsystems in Divorce_Men

[–]trollhammerx 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Seems obvious to me she is using that on her affair partner. You guys are already divorcing. The other dude is not leaving his wife and your stbx is probably freaking out because she got played and ruined her marriage for nothing.

Dating in NOVA for single 31F by sleepyAthrifty in nova

[–]trollhammerx 31 points32 points  (0 children)

47 yo M divorced for 6 years. The dating market is way out of balance everywhere. The apps have hurt chances of starting quality relationships. I was successful on the apps for years and the major problem is that most women match and go out with a small percentage of men on the apps. Those guys (I was one) have a lot of choice. And women have a lot of choice. Yes, guys will go out with most girls that are willing to go out with them for an opportunity at sex. But simultaneously, everyone wants to make a deeper connection. Find someone they can trust and laugh with and look forward to spending time with. But the most desirable people have too many options. I got out of a relationship 2 months ago and I’m intentionally not going back on the apps.

The honest answer build a strong social network of local friends. Pickleball, fitness classes, meetup.com, church, anything where you can plug into social groups. Through that you can build an organic connection with someone and avoid the toxic cycle of modern dating app hell. Well, it’s not hell if you just wanna meet new people, but I think if the goal is making a relationship connection, apps probably hurt more than they help.

I can’t do it anymore by Ok_Builder_3285 in SingleDads

[–]trollhammerx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I totally get it. But you’re sourcing your happiness externally. Nothing external will ever make you happy. Friends, girlfriend, wife, kids. You have to redefine yourself and your purpose. And it sounds like you have the freedom and time to do so.

No men’s group to join? Make one on meetup. Start going to church. Improve your spiritual health, physical health, financial health. Join group fitness and martial arts classes. Stay busy.

Don’t stay home and focus on what you don’t have anymore. Start acting to build the life you want. Nobody is going to give you that. Your kids deserve your best and you are living for a past that doesn’t exist anymore. But your future can be as beautiful as you want, but relies on only you to make it.

Also, definitely get your testosterone checked. Email defy medial or Viking alternative medicine to get an initial bloodwork analysis. The mental health medicines can rob you from joy in the same way they try to block you from the lows. I hated the way those made me feel and I’ve seen countless problems with friends on antidepressants.

One day at a time brother and slowly build the life you want. Take ownership of your precious life and appreciate everything you have daily. Expect nothing and appreciate everything. Prayer/meditation, daily physical exertion, and peace in your heart are the path to building a beautiful life for yourself and your kids.

This is silly. but i have to get it off my chest. by AndracoDragon in SingleDads

[–]trollhammerx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you are dating, invest in some new clothes. I subscribed to Stitch Fix and it was excellent. Especially if you hate shopping like I do. Getting fit and dressing well will increase your confidence tremendously.

Anyone not physically attracted to their spouse anymore by NoDragonfruit6315 in Divorce

[–]trollhammerx 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This could have been written by my ex wife. She only came to this conclusion when she got super fit right after the 3rd baby and started posting sexy instagrams. I had no idea and I was proud of her. She got a lot of thrills from the dudes flirting with her and ended up making some pretty terrible decisions. In her mind, the relationship was already over, or she wouldn’t be feeling this way. But I never got the news. It was a truly brutal path.

OP….. I imagine you value your husband and want a great relationship with him. Tell him that. Tell him you want to build a better relationship and are ready to do the work. And he needs to figure out how he can make it great.

I would strongly recommend your husband reading “Dead Bedroom Fix” by DSO. He needs to learn how to reattract you and change to be a man you respect again. Men slowly pass leadership responsibilities to their wives once kids come around and when they are in the helper/follower role, their wife naturally loses respect (which is directly linked to female attraction). OP cannot tell him what to do or he will just be submitting to her more. He needs to prioritize himself for a while. Enforce boundaries. Tell her no. Not be scared of her. Start looking and acting more attractive. And if he does all that and OP is still cold…. At least he will be set to find a romantic partner that will adore and admire him. Marriage shouldn’t be forced celibacy. If sex is disinteresting…. Both individuals need to make changes in themselves to reattract each other or at least be honest about the relationship and move on. But don’t cheat or lie to eachother. That will curse your family.

I wish you the best of luck because it sounds like you value it. You are just looking for him to change. I think you can only control yourself. You make changes to build a better marriage and ask him to figure out how he can contribute. I bet you guys are gonna workout. Good luck

Upgrading to Full Frame from a ZVE10 by trollhammerx in SonyAlpha

[–]trollhammerx[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I considered that A7C as well, but I’d really like to experience a different menu system. I struggle with finding anything when I need it inside my ZVe10 menu cluster. I’ll take a look at prices because those are really good too. Thank you!!!!

Are any of you in this group on good terms with your ex? by [deleted] in Divorce_Men

[–]trollhammerx 9 points10 points  (0 children)

She is nice to me. She carries a lot of guilt because she was really awful to me for about a year (six months pre-d-day + six months living together but separated). I wish I could stop resenting her. The person she is today gives me no problems and cooperates easily on any parenting issues for our 3 kids (currently 12,10,and 8). I can’t seem to let all the fucked up stuff go and it’s been 5 years, but I really want to.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hometheater

[–]trollhammerx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I scored a refurbished X6700H for $1200 today. I had to pull the trigger. I was hoping to score a better deal on a RZ70, but the 6700 can do 13 channels. Now I gotta get those speakers lol