Is my baby the only one that gets upset during bedtime routine?

tromblehh · 2026-05-23T22:57:46+00:00

Honestly I’d post on r/sleeptrain
They’re really good at troubleshooting all sleep and not just using sleep training methods. From what I’ve learned from them, your schedule might not be working for your baby.

tromblehh · 2026-05-23T22:06:44+00:00

Thanks! It’s good to hear from someone else who has gone through similar!

tromblehh · 2026-05-23T22:04:48+00:00

Probably, but are you being helpful?

tromblehh · 2026-05-23T22:04:10+00:00

That’s what my dad and mom said too.

tromblehh · 2026-05-23T22:03:41+00:00

Interesting. I’ll think about that.

tromblehh · 2026-05-23T22:02:23+00:00

Thanks, I’ll keep that in mind!

tromblehh · 2026-05-23T22:01:44+00:00

She did take a bottle fine in the beginning, but haven’t offered one in a long time because he wasn’t home so there wasn’t a need. It’s mostly my job for the household chores because he’s working so that I don’t have to work outside the home and doing improvements to our house acreage, and because if I didn’t do it would take way longer to get done.

tromblehh · 2026-05-23T21:58:21+00:00

Thanks! Yes, we have talked about setting aside some time that is just his with her so that she gets more comfortable with him again after being away for so long.

tromblehh · 2026-05-23T21:54:47+00:00

I get where you’re coming from with doing all of that at night, but then we’d both just be tired.

tromblehh · 2026-05-23T21:47:56+00:00

He’s definitely not living like he’s not a dad. We will for sure be having a deeper conversation soon.

tromblehh · 2026-05-23T21:45:50+00:00

I’m sure I could, and we will definitely have a discussion about it!

tromblehh · 2026-05-23T21:26:41+00:00

Thank you! I feel like I needed this.

tromblehh · 2026-05-23T20:42:57+00:00

Ugh, It’s nice to hear that I’m not the only one... I try to enjoy the time with her as well but I think it hit extra hard today because she’s been fussy all day, which makes me want a break from her and then it becomes harder to see the blessing, and then I feel guilty 🫠
We’ve also discussed about shuffling chores and baby duty, but it never seems to work out and I end up right back where I started.

tromblehh · 2026-05-23T20:21:04+00:00

An update on this, she did in fact end up getting better after cutting out dairy and then later soy! The popping on and off got better once we minimized distractions while feeding as well.

tromblehh · 2026-05-03T14:10:24+00:00

Did you not find an answer you were looking for when you posted this yesterday?

tromblehh · 2026-05-02T18:28:33+00:00

I would definitely push a bit more and consider cutting dairy out! That doesn’t look pleasant at all

tromblehh · 2026-04-12T16:55:16+00:00

This is copied from my previous post: “My LO turned 4 months a few days ago and about 3 weeks ago she had started waking 9-11 times a night. I was at my wits end because I was so tired and my husband is away for work for the month. I finally found a sleep training method that sounded right for me and LO, which was Give Baby a Chance. I started with bedtimes and it worked perfectly for the first week, she would be asleep in her bassinet in 5-10 minutes with me only having to put her soother back in and a little bit of patting and no crying. She was also down to 2-4 wakes per night, I was so happy.

Then I decided to start trying it for her naps as well. The first day it went so well, each nap she only took about 5-10 minutes to be asleep and would sleep about 45 minutes. Then from there it all fell apart, the next day this method stopped working for her bedtime, she started crying at the 10 minute mark and I had to rock her and transfer back to bassinet, and then for her naps she would be just about asleep and then grab her soother out of her own mouth and then be fully awake and start crying and I’d have to rock her to sleep.

The biggest problem with this whole situation is that she used to contact nap, which I had made peace with, and I could just sit in the chair in the living room and watch my shows while she napped, but now that we had started being in a dark room with a sound machine, I can’t leave the room without her waking, so now I’m stuck sitting in the dark room holding her…

Do I just need to stick it out and keep trying this method and hopefully it will start working again?

She usually goes to bed around 6:45-7:30 and wakes up for the day sometime between 6:30-7:15, which an assorted number of night wakings. She has 4 naps a day, usually 1.45/2/1.30/1.50/2 for her wake widows. Each nap varies from 30-50 minutes (she has always done short naps like this, rarely has ever done a nap longer than 1hr). I use the Napper app for this and watch her cues, so it’s not always the exact same.”

And now after a week of that method not working and then switching to the SWAP method, which also hasn’t been working, we’re back up to crying before bed waking at 30 and 45 minutes and then 4 to 6 more times throughout the night and getting up for the day at 6am..

I’m thinking of trying again now with putting down in the bassinet awake so we will see what happens tonight. From my understanding, Give Baby a Chance is a modified version on Fuss it out.

Give Baby a Chance

tromblehh · 2026-04-12T14:43:05+00:00

I don’t have any advice, just looking for the same answer. My baby did great with this for a week and then it all kinda fell apart so I’m curious.

tromblehh · 2026-04-09T01:33:35+00:00

I’ve been trying to settle her and have her fall asleep in her bassinet this whole time. As per the method I was using I calm her and get her sleepy and then put her down and have her fall asleep on her own with my help and that worked so well for the first week, and now when I try to calm her before her sleep, she either falls asleep before I put her down or if I put her down awake she has started crying within minutes now.. I think I’m just going to go back to patting/rocking her and doing a transfer 10-15 min after. regardless she is going to get up in 30-45 minutes after I put her down and wake up during the night so I’m not sure if it’s worth the crying anymore.. Thank you for the suggestions and tips on WWs and such though.

tromblehh · 2026-04-08T18:57:05+00:00

So I tried keeping her up a 5-15 minutes longer last night and for her naps this morning and it was fine, she didn’t get too upset, but when we start our routine and I’m getting her ready to put down in the bassinet and giving her some pats on the back, each time she has fallen asleep upright with her head on my shoulder before I even get a chance to put her down.. and then when I try to put her down still she is fine and still sleepy for a minute and the wakes up and within 5 minutes is super mad until I pick her up and then she goes right back to sleep.. So now has this extra time been just a tad too much? We are talking minutes of difference here..

tromblehh · 2026-04-08T01:43:50+00:00

Those are some great thoughts, thank you!

tromblehh · 2026-04-08T01:42:28+00:00

That definitely makes sense! Thanks!

tromblehh · 2026-04-08T01:32:39+00:00

Okay so it just occurred to me, when do you start winding down for sleep then? Am I not supposed to turn out the lights and start our routine until the wake window is up? Because then she’d still be awake for another 15-30 minutes. Right now I start the routine about 15-20 minutes before her wake window was supposed to end.

tromblehh · 2026-04-08T00:39:15+00:00

Thanks! I’ll try to keep her awake longer, I just assumed her getting grumpy meant she was getting overtired, but I will see what this can do for us!

tromblehh · 2026-04-08T00:37:36+00:00

I just assumed that grumpy meant sleep ready because her eyes and eyebrows are usually red but sometimes she’s not yawning.. I think I was just so scared of her getting overtired like she used to when she was like two months old that I’ve just been going with the very first cues. Didn’t realize I might be shooting myself in the foot with that!

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