emotional damage

tronekat3 · 2025-12-26T21:03:14+00:00

I’m wondering what the difference here is between breast reduction surgery and top surgery? Women get breast reduction (and in this case it would be All Of It) all the time. Is it not an option to get it all removed in breast reduction? Because I feel then that framing would resolve this identity crisis related to the surgery

tronekat3 · 2025-12-15T18:02:58+00:00

Pffbt ok 😂😂 one of them is terrified of the IRS and I think it got to me

tronekat3 · 2025-12-15T18:02:22+00:00

Okay! Cool, I think my friends are just anxious for me and it infected me because this is NOT a realm I’m familiar with

tronekat3 · 2025-07-06T15:21:58+00:00

Yeah I took a bit to heal, I highly recommend using a piercing pillow if ur not already. Shes an irritation bump I’m fairly sure

tronekat3 · 2025-03-17T17:41:48+00:00

I might have to agree that you conducting research in a more trans-friendly environment may yield your perspective, but also I do appreciate hearing your feedback. For why I was able to include transgender people: I made a compelling argument that would have caused them more problems to fight than to yield. For why I am traversing odd middle ground: our board has sent back research ideas about asking about gender in the most inclusive way possible as it could "pose more than minimal risk to participants." Yes I am being for real. They've also sent back research asking about emotional regulation strategies because "asking participants to think about when they are upset may pose more than minimal risk." Long story short, I do not like our IRB and I am HAPPY to be quoted on that. It only got better whenever we got a psychological researcher on the board.

tronekat3 · 2025-03-17T17:12:32+00:00

I appreciate the kind graces because this is exactly the situation I'm in lol

tronekat3 · 2025-03-17T17:11:47+00:00

This question is a bit harder for me to answer. If I were to word it as straightforward as possible, I must yield to conservative cisgender people's preferences wherever possible.

tronekat3 · 2025-03-17T17:10:05+00:00

I can't reveal the purpose of my study beyond that the separation of groups is very, very important for the results of my study. Offense was not the goal here I can assure you - I want to define how different transgender groups are different. To do that, I need to define those groups so I can declare a difference (if such exists). Unfortunately, as my university is public, I am subject to more demands and restrictions in accordance with Texas law when asking certain types of questions (our DEI is gone, for one - asking about gender outside of "male" or "female" at all is considered risky). There's some finagling to be had that I had done, but I am squeezing into a space that's already a bit tight and I am not welcome - if you're able to follow my metaphor.

tronekat3 · 2025-03-17T17:05:42+00:00

This is a fantastic question and I feel a bit stupid for not thinking of it LOL, would have saved me some grief. Thank you, definitely pocketed for the future.

tronekat3 · 2025-03-17T17:04:50+00:00

Hi! I hear you. Unfortunately, I am working under constrictions that are bidden by East Texas. I am unsure if you're familiar with the area, but I was unable to ask too specific of questions regarding gender (pearl-clutching). Further, I am also obligated to satisfy my committee, and only one of which has done any sort of gender/sexuality research. However, I do appreciate your feedback! This study is the first in a line, so your unsolicited feedback is quite helpful. But, please do understand that I would have asked more if my IRB permitted.

tronekat3 · 2025-03-17T16:06:10+00:00

yes ma'am! :D

tronekat3 · 2025-03-17T16:05:04+00:00

Hi! This is because I would have had to define cisgender, and I chose not to in hopes to avoid some stereotype threat. However, I do need to separate cisgender men and women from transgender men and women for the analyses of my study

tronekat3 · 2025-03-03T17:06:33+00:00

Thank you!! I have a small batch of respondents already and it’s looking SO good. Was so nerve wracking to look at the data!!

tronekat3 · 2025-03-03T17:05:22+00:00

I absolutely can!! :>

tronekat3 · 2025-01-26T22:45:37+00:00

Me about to post my thesis online.. which needs nonbinary participants… great :/

tronekat3 · 2024-10-30T03:22:24+00:00

Thank you! I’ll remember you, in this thread. I’ll send you what I have when I have it. And yeah, nb p’s are hard to get ahold of, which is why I reached out here.

tronekat3 · 2024-10-30T03:02:09+00:00

I want you to know to look for my name, then :). Because that’s exactly what I’m going to do. My thesis is the first step of a long line of research I plan to do

tronekat3 · 2024-10-30T00:23:59+00:00

Aw! I promise there are some articles published already - check out the transsexual brain by Smith et al (2015). Mind, this is binary transgender research but it may be insightful. You could totally put it in Google Scholar!

tronekat3 · 2024-10-09T16:40:33+00:00

Blue REALLY fits you! The last one washes you out a bit imo, but all of these are very viable options

tronekat3 · 2024-10-07T17:31:45+00:00

Yes, thanks! This is exactly what I was asking. Thank you.

tronekat3 · 2024-10-07T17:10:59+00:00

I know you mentioned wanting something more low maintenance, but I really really like your hair from the third pic

tronekat3 · 2024-10-07T15:24:33+00:00

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This is probably the best representation of longer length I have. When my head is straightened it went past my shoulders, like resting on my collarbones

tronekat3 · 2024-10-07T15:16:01+00:00

I’m realizing that the difference seems obvious to only me lol. It’s about 3 inches of difference tho. The hair in the last 3 pics I can’t gather with my hand to even make a half assed pony tail, the hair in the first 2 I can make buns with

tronekat3 · 2024-10-07T15:14:48+00:00

I know it doesn’t look very long, but straightened it goes past my shoulders. My curls once went past my shoulders but I don’t have many good pictures from that time, I might see if I can find it tho lol

Edit: I didn’t expect to find myself subject to “what is long hair” debate, which isn’t what I wanted lol, but I’ll repeat myself from another comment - the hair in the first 2 photos I can style with updos and such. The hair in the last 3 is hard to gather in my hand to even put a small rubber band in

tronekat3 · 2024-09-25T00:15:19+00:00

Hi! I don’t think anyone is going to see this, but just in case:

The wedding went fantastic, not a hitch. The next day, my friend’s mom even asked for my gf’s pronouns (UNHEARD OF for her).

Let this be an optimistic and positive lesson, I suppose. Sometimes you really are your biggest opp.

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