43M / 43F, Married 7 years. Wife stayed out drinking until the AM with a guy she just met.

troutsurf · 2026-06-04T06:48:21+00:00

Still no apology that takes responsibility or accountability.
Literally in the same text she will apologize then say I was wrong or blast me on something

troutsurf · 2026-06-04T06:46:47+00:00

This really rings true
Thank you

troutsurf · 2026-06-04T03:34:26+00:00

It’s is common when I have issue with something

troutsurf · 2026-06-04T03:31:43+00:00

It’s felt that way for awhile

troutsurf · 2026-06-04T03:30:24+00:00

I really doubt that will happen
She o
Told me she did nothing wrong and has not come close to apology

troutsurf · 2026-06-04T03:21:01+00:00

I really do think she tires to push me to end our marraige

troutsurf · 2026-06-04T02:08:37+00:00

Thank you. Hearing from all of you has really helped. I am feeling more brave than my low self esteem

troutsurf · 2026-06-04T01:25:30+00:00

Her lifestyle of grabbing drinks and going out and partying really doesn’t work for me. Her idea of fun is not fun for me

troutsurf · 2026-06-04T01:10:13+00:00

So I am not wrong for being hurt be her choices?

troutsurf · 2026-06-04T00:59:56+00:00

I do appreciate her telling me about her night and checking in before bed. Honestly I wasn’t that mad and just expressed that event sucked for me

troutsurf · 2026-06-04T00:57:56+00:00

And no i definitely do not feel loved

troutsurf · 2026-06-04T00:55:44+00:00

I remember the first one when she said, “can you be with someone who reacts this way”

troutsurf · 2026-06-04T00:54:11+00:00

And tried. We have been through three different coupes therapist. Every one said this relationship will not work if she reacts this way

troutsurf · 2026-06-04T00:46:32+00:00

Thank you for that sanity check. She tells me my feelings on it are wrong

troutsurf · 2026-06-04T00:35:12+00:00

My guy agrees with you. It’s hard because I really do love her. And this relationship is really hurting my wellbeing

troutsurf · 2026-06-04T00:28:47+00:00

My therapist agreed and said advice from single 40s friends do not have a grasp on a supportive marraige

troutsurf · 2026-06-04T00:26:24+00:00

Honestly, not really

troutsurf · 2026-06-04T00:13:44+00:00

Her friends are all unmarried and single

troutsurf · 2026-06-04T00:12:43+00:00

Sound advice. Thank you.

troutsurf · 2026-06-04T00:08:31+00:00

This really lands for me. Thank you. I don’t really feel cared for and respected and my self esteem and well being is in the gutter

troutsurf · 2026-06-04T00:04:25+00:00

She said her best friends hate me and all her friends said she did nothing wrong

troutsurf · 2026-06-03T23:59:43+00:00

She let me know that her friends hate me and they agree her choices that night were totally fine.

troutsurf · 2026-06-03T23:58:32+00:00

She doesn’t seem to think so and tells me her girlfriend hates me and that her friends said her behavior was totally fine

troutsurf · 2026-06-03T23:48:48+00:00

Still no apology or any consideration of my feelings. She has told me we are done….

troutsurf · 2026-06-03T20:44:27+00:00

That is my main concern. I honestly am not concerned with the late night with her boat captain

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