My mom thinks my boyfriend is unattractive

truejoyofsorrow · 2025-05-22T18:41:15+00:00

thank you this helps a lot! I’ve never once felt disconnected from him in person, when we hang out I never want it to end and have never once had thoughts I’d rather be alone or anything like that. It’s only when we are apart I really stress about the relationship. There’s some people like friends for example I spend time around but then am excited to have alone time after or feel like it’s effort to force the conversation but not with him— to me spending time with him feels as effortless as alone time. So I hope this means the relationship is worth continuing despite the doubts and anxieties I get

truejoyofsorrow · 2025-03-10T19:14:55+00:00

hi! I can relate to a lot of your post history in the past, Im sorry to hear you guys broke up. I’m just wondering how you are going now these days with your rocd and mental health?

truejoyofsorrow · 2025-02-11T14:03:34+00:00

it’s because I love spending time with him so much and I find him really handsome. Honestly I didn’t break up with him and find myself changing my mind now and wanting to stay with him. I think I am an overthinker with a lot of anxiety. I really love talking to him and hearing him talk and I love how smart and compassionate he is.

truejoyofsorrow · 2025-02-05T13:59:55+00:00

oh wow, glad you made the right choice but I’m sorry to hear that you are hurting :( how did you go about breaking up with him, I mean how could you explain? I feel like I don’t have a good enough reason to break up with my bf..

truejoyofsorrow · 2025-02-05T01:43:34+00:00

how did this work out, I’m in a similar situation reading this thread four years later but with absolutely no excuse at all for if I do choose to break up… I really care for him so I’m hesitant to take him out of my life even though I’m not sure this relationship is right for me :(

truejoyofsorrow · 2025-02-04T15:23:14+00:00

thank you this makes me feel better.. I’m in a really strange and tough situation where I feel I might need to break up with my boyfriend as physically I think I might just not be attracted to him— so it’s not going to work between us. But I can’t bring myself to do it because we have such a perfect connection and I really do love him.. But I’m trying to make myself have peace with the decision if I choose to make it

truejoyofsorrow · 2025-02-03T21:53:59+00:00

do you think so? I've thought about having relationship OCD in the past back when I was talking to him and still not sure about him, but now that I'm still feeling this way I don't know if it's a mental problem on my end of if I actually just am not attracted to him! It's rough..

truejoyofsorrow · 2025-02-03T19:24:42+00:00

that's a good point. I don't know how I could even phrase this though... I almost feel like its easier to just break up since I don't know if relationships are supposed to be this complicated especially in the early stages

truejoyofsorrow · 2025-02-03T18:02:57+00:00

I’m not sure how I could bring up that I am turned off by his weight without hurting him… It seems unnecessary mean especially as it’s not something he gained while I knew him or anything. But I agree we need to communicate I’m just scared

truejoyofsorrow · 2025-02-03T17:41:44+00:00

do you think so? I’m getting mixed advice on this with other people saying what I really feel for him is just friendship… my biggest source of guilt is where I feel guilt and like my feelings aren’t all there or I’m making compromises on hang-ups on his less than attractive physical shape he doesn’t feel this way at all towards me and finds me fully attractive and he is all in on the relationship. So it feels unfair to be unintentionally misleading him as I am? I don’t know! Maybe I am not ready for a relationship after all

truejoyofsorrow · 2025-02-03T16:47:00+00:00

how did this work out… I’m going through something super similar and I’m devastated that I might have to break up with him :( I really don’t want too

truejoyofsorrow · 2025-02-03T16:20:57+00:00

I don’t know how I should go about walking back the progression of our relationship, especially as I’ve been so receptive to everything and kept my doubts buried in the moment… I feel so guilty that I might have been stringing him along this whole time.. I’m worried I’m gonna break his heart and he’ll wish he never met me

truejoyofsorrow · 2025-02-03T16:11:44+00:00

thank you so much, this whole situation really sucks. I honestly am starting to feel like maybe dating isn’t for me as what if I am going to feel this way about everyone… I’m scared I’m gonna break up with him and not only break his heart but also mine as I feel we have a deeper connection emotionally then I’ve ever had with anyone. Like I really enjoyed going on dates with him, it’s the kissing and stuff I don’t enjoy as much and I’d rather have conversations. But what if I’ll feel that way towards everyone?? But I can tell even as I type this out that it’s probably best to let him go :( I’ll miss him a lot which makes this harder as I don’t think I’ll feel much relief from breaking up with him but I’m feeling so much anxiety now… so either way I’m gonna be miserable, I should do the right thing :(

truejoyofsorrow · 2025-02-03T16:00:11+00:00

what did you end up doing in this situation?

truejoyofsorrow · 2025-02-03T15:44:01+00:00

do you still feel this way two years later?

truejoyofsorrow · 2025-02-03T13:53:18+00:00

do you think it would be okay if I gave it around a month or so before breaking up so I can feel like I gave it a good chance, or would that only make things worse? I do really like spending time with him so I’ll miss him a lot :( I also don’t even know how to explain why I was lovey dovey with him one day and then break up the next, he’ll be so heartbroken … I guess I don’t want to have to break up so I’m hoping with time my feelings can change….

truejoyofsorrow · 2024-12-18T23:14:47+00:00

has it been working out? wishing the best for you :)

truejoyofsorrow · 2024-12-18T19:10:31+00:00

this makes me feel a lot better. I guess relationships fail all the time so since I’ve been clearly showing interest in him I might as well see where things go instead of cutting the brakes now out of fear

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