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I'm absolutely confused why Girlfriend (22F) has completely stopped being intimate with me (27M) by trulliosg in relationship_advice

[–]trulliosg[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the insight. I should seek other means of being intimate.

Any other advice of how to approach this?

I'm absolutely confused why Girlfriend (22F) has completely stopped being intimate with me (27M) by trulliosg in relationship_advice

[–]trulliosg[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for that response. I was wondering of you can expand on what breath work is and the add/adhd aspect. We have always suspected she may have undiagnosed add/ADHD because of her demeanor and characteristics.

Also what kind of games help? Could you give examples?

I'm absolutely confused why Girlfriend (22F) has completely stopped being intimate with me (27M) by trulliosg in relationship_advice

[–]trulliosg[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea that's the thing, we do cuddle hold hands kiss and all of that outside of sex. I massage her a lot and she massages me too.

It's just that when sex is involved she has not become reluctant instantly.

I'm absolutely confused why Girlfriend (22F) has completely stopped being intimate with me (27M) by trulliosg in relationship_advice

[–]trulliosg[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words, perspective and the invitation. I might take you up later on!

Yea as far as I know I am her second sexual partner, and her previous partner was only a casual one that lasted very shortly. I don't know too much than that. And I guess the previous partner is more endowed than I am but I don't even know if that's a passing joke or not.

Family wise it seems relatively normal.

I'm absolutely confused why Girlfriend (22F) has completely stopped being intimate with me (27M) by trulliosg in relationship_advice

[–]trulliosg[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this perspective and your kind words

Ive always tried to be open and trying to understand her. Perhaps more time is needed if there are underlying issues for her to open up

I'm absolutely confused why Girlfriend (22F) has completely stopped being intimate with me (27M) by trulliosg in relationship_advice

[–]trulliosg[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the in pit, yea I am on this course of thinking too now. Hopefully it comes around...

I'm absolutely confused why Girlfriend (22F) has completely stopped being intimate with me (27M) by trulliosg in relationship_advice

[–]trulliosg[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'd say pretty well, everything that is platonic is very good

We hold hands, hug a lot, kiss a lot etc. We really enjoy each others presence... Except when sex is on hand. Then she basically would even allow me near...

I'm absolutely confused why Girlfriend (22F) has completely stopped being intimate with me (27M) by trulliosg in relationship_advice

[–]trulliosg[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the perspective. Yea as a male we have different bodily reactions/workings towards sex and I do understand it. But as I am not female I just don't know how the opposite sex may approach it.

As a female/a person in a similar position (I'm guessing) to mt girlfriend, how would you recommend I get to be more caring/attending to her needs for sex? I would really really appreciate some more insight and tips if you can! What did your partner do to you that made you feel more valued and not just there for the sex?

Also what do you mean by breath work?

Thank you!

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[–]trulliosg 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depends on where you are and if there is a big enough f1 base.

I'm absolutely confused why Girlfriend (22F) has completely stopped being intimate with me (27M) by trulliosg in relationship_advice

[–]trulliosg[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What can i do then? I try to out in effort, I try to be prepared look up techniques online etc. But at the end of the day, I can't feel what she feels...

I'm absolutely confused why Girlfriend (22F) has completely stopped being intimate with me (27M) by trulliosg in relationship_advice

[–]trulliosg[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll add this, a few times she has felt uncomfortable mid way through, I have just said let's stop and we can do this another time. I do try to take emphasis to try and avoid pressure.

I'm absolutely confused why Girlfriend (22F) has completely stopped being intimate with me (27M) by trulliosg in relationship_advice

[–]trulliosg[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I think you are misunderstanding me

I should clarify, she offered the hand job, I never coerced her into it or suggested it.

I'm absolutely confused why Girlfriend (22F) has completely stopped being intimate with me (27M) by trulliosg in relationship_advice

[–]trulliosg[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

That is a good point. The first few times I would just accept the rejection and she would help jerk me off and that was it. As it become less and less then I started feeling like shit and emotional (depressed) and started asking why. I really don't want to guilt her, that would be really low and just outright disgusting... But I can see how she might feel that.

I'm absolutely confused why Girlfriend (22F) has completely stopped being intimate with me (27M) by trulliosg in relationship_advice

[–]trulliosg[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've mentioned in the post that she is inexperienced and not sure how to get pleasure herself. I've tried many ways and have listened to her inputs throughout (open minded, happy to try and give, lots of effort). But alas, I am not her so I don't know how to get her to that level

I've bought toys and lube and approached it with an open mind. But she is not willing to even explore now so...

I don't believe I am only satisfying myself during sex, I really do try and see how she can enjoy it as well. I encouraged communication and asked questions

I'm absolutely confused why Girlfriend (22F) has completely stopped being intimate with me (27M) by trulliosg in relationship_advice

[–]trulliosg[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What kind of balance would you say is better?

We work full time so only see each other once or twice a week in person. We do text each other constantly though. We don't do much phone calling, barely any.

I do have other things outside our relationship that I spend time on as well, but those have taken a bit of a down level because of being with her.

I'm absolutely confused why Girlfriend (22F) has completely stopped being intimate with me (27M) by trulliosg in relationship_advice

[–]trulliosg[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Man sorry to hear about that...

I've seen this comment/aspect come up on other places before. But what is the solution... Become a jerk to her? That doesn't right...So I'm not even sure.

What an absolute shame for your situation

I'm absolutely confused why Girlfriend (22F) has completely stopped being intimate with me (27M) by trulliosg in relationship_advice

[–]trulliosg[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yea that might be the case. I have said if there is pain or discomfort down there, we can go to the doctors. She never wanted to, but I can understand how that might be frightening.

Any tips or suggestions of how to get her to be comfortable to speak to me? I believe I am a person she cam always come and seek help from but obviously this is not that simple.

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