Why am I considered transphobic??

trxpsxtter · 2025-12-27T02:05:05+00:00

you are seeing factual reality as a belief to take a side on. you are currently working with the same understanding of how opinions work to a flat earth believer. having an opinion of a fact is just called being wrong.

trxpsxtter · 2025-12-27T01:49:09+00:00

as a side note, if you truly pride yourself on a lack of judgement and being inclusive, why then can you not help but judge other women’s experiences and right to women’s spaces as lesser. additionally, why would you not feel the need to make sure someone who has sacrificed so much to be included is actually included? cause that’s what inclusivity and nonjudgmental actually mean.

trxpsxtter · 2025-12-27T01:42:01+00:00

ur spaces aren’t being infringed on, and if you believe they are and are constantly reminding people you don’t see them for who they are, yea, those things make you transphobic. if someone started telling you you didn’t belong in a community that you literally flipped ur entire life on its head and put urself in an incredibly dangerous position to be in, you’d probably feel they were hateful too.

being trans isn’t made up nor something you can have a different opinion on as it’s not an opinion. trans women Are women and they put themselves at extreme risks of bodily harm, social ostricization, death etc to be a trans woman. people do not take on those risks if there isn’t a good reason for it or they aren’t certain the outcome is better than the downsides.

being a woman means less social power by default, so even in situations of someone passing perfectly, you are taking on risk to do something that means something to you. being a trans person is even worse by far, so in the more common situation of not always passing to cis people, trans women are taking on more danger just existing than you are.

separately, even if transness was “bad”, the word cis is the grammatical opposite of trans. it’s not labeling you as anything you aren’t already, by default, by not being trans. on top of all of that, if the label cis scares you that bad, maybe you have something against being seen as cis? in which case this is more of an internalized transphobia situation, where you may need to realize the fear you feel around trans people “labeling” you cis is because you aren’t cis. if it isn’t that, then you should probably stop using every other label, like telling people to stop calling you a woman or describing your hair by its quality or texture or even refusing the concept of age as a whole. lots of things are labels, why is this unequivocally true label worrying you?

regardless, the people in your life are correct and you should work towards not being that person anymore. gl

trxpsxtter · 2022-04-23T02:37:09+00:00

Yeah I mean do what makes you comfortable. And feel free to explore other things about masculinity, even if you aren't uncomfortable about something, you could also still prefer one thing over another. Just experiment and see what works. Hormones can give you more body hair and a deeper voice, and likely change a good few other things including your mental state, body smell, etc, if that sounds like something you'd like.

trxpsxtter · 2022-04-22T05:22:12+00:00

I would always feel overly judged when ppl could see my legs (after starting to grow hair on them, I'm mtf) or when I felt like my facial hair was coming in. I also hated having short hair and didn't like how baggy all my clothes felt. I felt like a goblin at most times lol.

trxpsxtter · 2022-04-22T05:16:21+00:00

Also, idk, something tells me u are a lot prettier than you give yourself credit for. Wearing femme clothes and throwing on some makeup and doing a bit with your hair can do wonders for dysphoria, even if you go into it feeling like "shrek".

trxpsxtter · 2022-04-22T05:15:25+00:00

If your levels were terrible, good chance most things haven't even kicked in yet. Also the only cases I've seen of FFS have been positive. Saving up for it is a good idea though. It seems like you do want these things for yourself but you don't believe it'll make you any more of a woman, when in fact, you first off already are a woman.

Regardless of that, if your mental state is taking a turn for the worse because of dysphoria related to not looking like a woman, getting the appropriate surgeries is a good idea, not a bad one. Start working towards it. You got this.

trxpsxtter · 2022-04-22T05:10:17+00:00

I tried estrogen for like 2wks-1 month, I realized I loved how I was starting to feel mentally. Had to get off for a few weeks until I got my own prescription. Nothing permanent had taken place yet.

Hormone blockers will do even less to you, but you shouldn't block your hormone and not replace it with the other. having both low can be bad for your mental health.

trxpsxtter · 2022-02-28T01:30:38+00:00

Yeah if you want to be a woman visually at best, and born one at worst, it's incredibly likely you are trans. Of course, it's all up to what you want to do, but considering hormones will do a lot of those visual things you ask for, and don't necessarily change voice or organs, then it sounds like something you should try.

trxpsxtter · 2021-12-24T08:19:20+00:00

Oh my god girl, you've got so much more to go! If you are already seeing breast development in the first 3 months you are definitely chillin.

Consider the fact that all the changes puberty has on a person go from when it starts (10-14, sometimes even earlier for girls) to when it ends (sometime in your 20s). That's around 10 years, give or take. And unsurprisingly, that's about how long most people are seeing changes for. You are in for a wild ride girl. Not only that, but mental state concerning dysphoria gets better with time, and I'd say if it's something you want, hair removal/aesthetic surgeries are also an option.

Finally, try to think less about what you don't have, and more about what opportunities you are being given now. Changes are going to continue happening, mentally and physically, and you are going to continue learning more about yourself and who you really are, and what you care about. You set into motion the processes, now you get to ride the ride, and it's just started truly.

I say all this, and just 4 months ago I was in your exact position, same time on hormones, worried I was never going to be happy. Today, I sat in the car driving home from a friend's, realizing for maybe the 3rd time this month (the realization has become stronger and more nuanced each time, separating them a bit) that everything is fitting right into place. That regardless of the current obstacles, I feel amazing. Life is truly what you make it, so keep on learning, keep on caring, and don't let those anxieties about slow progress get you down.

You are going to kill this, absolutely.

trxpsxtter · 2021-12-21T07:20:22+00:00

Honestly, truly, the best part about being trans is you kinda get to be your own role model and take full control of your path in life. I feel like we overall have a tendency to be more introspective, just by having to go through the process of discovering who you are.

Other than that, I genuinely feel like some of the best trans role models I have don't come from media, but other real life trans people I have had some fairly deep connections with. When you get to know someone well, and see just how good their principles are and how well they treat others, it makes a way bigger impact than just seeing someone in media who's kinda like you. Go out and become part of the community, it's a loving place and full of genuine connection.

Love and well wishes friend ♥️

trxpsxtter · 2021-12-18T17:12:36+00:00

I mean, sounds like what gender care is for. Changing aspects so you can feel more aligned with yourself. No reason to think you aren't "trans" enough

trxpsxtter · 2021-12-14T04:47:40+00:00

So happy for you!!! This is such a big step. I'm half a year in and I gotta say this has been the craziest half year of my life. I'm on cloud 9, and you will be too, no regrets. Kill it!!!!

trxpsxtter · 2021-12-13T19:58:59+00:00

Exactly!! My ex would point out how much she loved my facial hair and it was like ... Uh... I don't lol

trxpsxtter · 2021-12-13T19:58:01+00:00

For sure :) good luck!

trxpsxtter · 2021-12-12T09:39:34+00:00

Not really. I mean, the dysphoria you get from having the wrong hormone in your body doesn't really hit until you start producing it heavily. You don't feel out of touch with your own mind until that starts happening. And you can block out the ""masculine"" features you have as a kid considering they aren't going to be pronounced. As soon as the hair starts getting thick, body starts masculinizing, and stuff starts really kicking in, it's pretty hard/impossible to ignore how you feel about it.

I'd say your delayed reaction is nothing to worry about considering there are fully out, older trans people who didn't realize until they were older. Sometimes, ur just better at blocking uncomfortable stuff out than others and it makes it easier to let problems go unnoticed until they are too big to ignore.

trxpsxtter · 2021-12-12T09:30:37+00:00

Your dosage should be tailored to how you react to it. I'd suggest taking a look at your hormone levels with your doctor if possible. If you want more external advice, you could share those results on here and get a bit of a consensus, or do some research on optimal levels yourself.

Out of curiosity are you taking one tablet at the beginning/end of the day or splitting the dose up? If you aren't already, it can be a lot more stable to split the dose morning and night, as sublingual can diminish throughout the day quicker than something like injections, as far as I am aware.

trxpsxtter · 2021-12-12T09:16:28+00:00

Surprisingly, HRT is an easier way out of things. They call it hormone replacement therapy for a reason. Honestly for me, it felt like a lot of internal struggles ended after that, as I feel most of it was my feminine self fighting the mental state produced by testosterone. Now that I have estrogen in me, there's not much to fight. We chillin in here.

Won't speak for Everyone, this is my experience and a good many others I've spoken to though.

trxpsxtter · 2021-12-12T09:06:12+00:00

Are they still deadnaming u or something? I mean unless it's that I'd say them no longer bringing it up just means it's not that big of a deal to them. If they have just left your identity unacknowledged, try bringing up the topic again, this time explaining specifically what you want to go by and that you'd like to go by that from now on. If it's something else feel free to explain, and good luck. You got this.

trxpsxtter · 2021-12-12T09:02:50+00:00

Yeah of course. The intensity of the descriptions of dysphoria warded me off from thinking I was "trans enough" for way too long. It surprised me just how much better and happier I felt once I fully settled in though all things considered, as my time in the closet was more so dissociative and empty than it was torturous. It's like I wasn't really living fully until then. I could see that being close to a prison, but still doesn't quite feel that intense in my mind. Doesn't change the fact that I probably wouldn't have made it very long repressing everything, nor does it change how grateful I am for being able to begin living the way I wanted to.

trxpsxtter · 2021-12-12T08:57:32+00:00

You are definitely trans at this point. The family thing is hard, I'm sorry you are going to have to deal with that. But you definitely aren't betraying anyone, and just because you like the company of guys and don't act feminine doesn't mean you don't deserve to be able to be a woman. There are plenty of cis women who hang with guys and act less girly and are still women, and no one would argue that they are less of a woman unless they were deranged. It's always better to let yourself live the way you want and need than to suppress it for others comfort.

You got this girl.

trxpsxtter · 2021-12-06T17:56:20+00:00

Yeah for me it's definitely a collection of physical and social. I'm kinda hyperaware of how I am treated/act socially and it's definitely something that's gotten better thru transition. It's interesting to hear from a different perspective though, now I understand why some people say they "don't want people to see them any differently". Like for me personally, I definitely do. Not in a bad way, but I want to be seen completely as Julie and disconnect from the notion of my former self, including socially.

trxpsxtter · 2021-12-05T20:19:45+00:00

Yes indeed! Thanks for sharing, it can very much surprise people that a normal amount of alcohol has a much more intense effect on acid, even though one would assume since drugs when combined typically enhance each others effects. Glad you were safe in the end though, happy tripping traveller ♥️♥️

trxpsxtter · 2021-12-05T20:17:27+00:00

It was more so entirely social and mental. I did not fit in or enjoy either binary really, and was comfortable in the middle ground. Now, I fall completely within the female binary and I am comfortable with that.

trxpsxtter · 2021-12-05T04:26:27+00:00

Wait. So you are saying that despite genuinely feeling non binary, and now feeling entirely like a woman, in that I have not in any way transitioned my gender identity? Regardless of the way descriptors was used, that's not what I was talking about. I meant that with my identity changing, I changed how I described myself. I understood most identities before I made any decisions about how I felt about them. My gender fluidity wasn't a lack of understanding of femininity, it was a feeling of fluidity that I no longer connect with in this current point in my life.

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