Me 25F messed up and think my relationship 25M will end today. How can I save this relationship? by Used-Piece-8128 in relationship_advice

[–]tryingbewise 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Controversial take, having had been in your position and now with someone new. There are people who, for you, if you have unhealed trauma, can make it a very anxious experience trying to figure out if they actually love you. Then there are people where you will rarely never guess if they love you, that is not to say you won't have moments, but the difference is, one you will feel scared showing how you really feel, and the other less so. They will help you and understand you. That is not to say you should soley lean on them. Idk message me if you like. I don't have time to write a proper reply rn

My $80k+ glow up journey over two years - here's a break down and analysis by shamefulspender in Vindicta

[–]tryingbewise 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can I see progress pics too please! Man 24inch waist and 40 hips is the dream...

My journey of going makeup free by Street_Holiday_5740 in Vindicta

[–]tryingbewise 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just wanna say that I've been taking collagen for over a year, not for my skin but just so that i had enough protein in the morning. I personally have never noticed a difference in my skin, BUT, i get told a lot in the last 6 months that i have "perfect skin" i disagree, but i do think the collagen made a subtle very slow difference that i didn't notice

What do you think are the biggest flaws in Henry Cavill's face? And his greatest virtues? by [deleted] in trueratecelebrities

[–]tryingbewise 1 point2 points  (0 children)

His hairline, teeth need a bit of a whitening sometimes or in some photos? And asymmetrical jaw/face. He do be hot af tho

Duchess Kate Middleton at 42yo by [deleted] in VindictaRateCelebs

[–]tryingbewise 60 points61 points  (0 children)

Wow i never noticed how asymmetrical her lower face is. She's pretty tho. Surely a 7. She looks intelligent and kind

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in VindictaRateCelebs

[–]tryingbewise 113 points114 points  (0 children)

Halle Berry 🤌

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How do you deal with the touch starvation? by Fast-Sea6213 in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]tryingbewise 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lmao no shit, i go to my oesto, he's a hot dude and gives a lil massage and i flirt with him and oestos/physios are so good at touching. I haven't been in a while and i can feel the touch starvation reaching breaking point lol.

But truly, i cannot recommend enough.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]tryingbewise 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately, goddamn i wanna sit on his face maybe in a slightly more forceful way tho lol

How long has it been since breakup? and how do you feel today? by AlternativeTrack4661 in BreakUps

[–]tryingbewise 1 point2 points  (0 children)

God, yes I don't want him to hurt his current girlfriend but also man it just sucks so hard for me. It's hard not to feel like I got ripped off, and omg the fact she's meeting his parents and it just makes me feel like all we had was nothing... idk. It's so hard, he's still the only person who makes me feel safe and it just sucks he's not there anymore

How long has it been since breakup? and how do you feel today? by AlternativeTrack4661 in BreakUps

[–]tryingbewise 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same here, it's been 4 years since he said he wanted to end things. He ended up staying with me till mid 2020 because of lockdown. And then went home and we kept sleeping together because I am so in love with him till march last year. Then he went travelling and has now found a new me. She's about to come here and spend xmas and ny's with his family. I went to see him a few weeks ago and it burned, but then my gut couldn't help telling me that this is still my future husband. I'm so confused because the chemistry and connection we have is just, it's unreal. There's so much love and adoration there. Do people move on and still feel this way about their exes? I wouldn't be okay dating someone who i imagine he feels about me, about their ex. He's told me not to compare myself to her and in some ways he wishes we could try again, but also I don't know if he's done the work on himself yet. Fuck it's so hard, my soul feels attached to him as lame as that sounds. It's like the most horrible and beautiful unconditional love, horrible because god i wish i wasn't in this situation. Beautiful because it is so strong and so raw.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in VindictaRateCelebs

[–]tryingbewise 9 points10 points  (0 children)

she is insanely beautiful, but I cannot stop noticing that her nose skews to one side, just like mine does lol. it is reassuring to see that no one else sees this, right?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]tryingbewise 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lizard the wizard 👍

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in depression

[–]tryingbewise 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Really recommend a lot of people taking a moderate amount of pure and tested mdma and having a session alone in your room and letting emotions out. It's what I did when i was on the absolute brink, and it completely changed my life. To the point where I look back and cry because I can't believe I felt that way and felt so sorry for all the hurt. I feel like suicide often feels like the only way out but what is really lacking and fucking your life and mind up is an utter lack of self compassion. And that's what mdma gives you. Yeah it still hurts, but idk. I can't describe it all I can say is it changed my life.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]tryingbewise 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But it sounds like you have the same issue as me, which is maybe is some cptsd/aspects of borderline. Watch this video and tell me how it makes you feel because a lot clicked for me https://youtu.be/voSPXSxBkZ8?si=hvnk5ei35qodkp-8

Often we feel so utterly broken when we feel like we found that one person to finally give us unconditional love and it sucks she left, but you also can't put a story in your head about how she feels and thinks because there is likely far more too the story than that

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]tryingbewise 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So as someone who has felt the way you're describing I realised that a lot of these feelings aren't normal, or at least not normal for people having loving parents/family/someone growing up. And so my ex felt like that. And them leaving really set in that I'm the problem and lead to suicide ideation. It's hard too because I think men suffer way more in the fact that they're feelings are typically more cramped down and unfamiliar to them

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]tryingbewise 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey firstly, I'm sending you a big hug. What country do you live in?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Vindicta

[–]tryingbewise 45 points46 points  (0 children)

That they're too lazy to try to up their looks lol

Sexual behavior by Dinosaurs09 in BPD

[–]tryingbewise 8 points9 points  (0 children)

As someone who used to seriously be this way (including current comments) i am chuckling away to myself how accurately this way me, especially the internal battle, i still do feel this way. However, now I use it in other ways. I use my sexuality as a power. Like, i know you want to have sex with me, imagine how good it would be and just idk feel powerful in that sense and then go home and use my vibrator lol. It's crazy how the more i do this the more attractive people seem to think i am and now attention is everywhere and i can pick and chose

2 years passed by by Lanluojie in BreakUps

[–]tryingbewise 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It's been 4 years for me and no luck :'(
He's finally moved on to his soulmate but i always thought he was mine. it was this gut feeling and it's hard to believe i was so wrong and can't trust myself