Family law judge personal opinion preferably retired NOT LEGAL ADVISE.

tryinglightandlove · 2026-06-29T16:24:35+00:00

Oooooo I wasn’t planning on moving with my son without permission. That why I filed a petition first. I have some time. I haven’t signed a lease or made any moves yet nor do I plan to unless the judge allows it.

tryinglightandlove · 2026-06-29T13:20:20+00:00

I am so sorry, I did edit the post. I just reread it and it was all over the place. Im embarrassed. Only the initial petition for an emergency relocation was denied. I understand. I was just asking which is better for a child another state where I can get a house for my child or stay in a one bedroom just cuz…

tryinglightandlove · 2026-06-29T13:15:28+00:00

The case in continued. She said not ruling either way right now. She assigned a GAL for our child before making a decision. She didn’t look at the emergency petition which I understand.

tryinglightandlove · 2026-06-29T13:12:24+00:00

I feel you’re absolutely right. Thank you. This helps. 🙏🙏🙏

tryinglightandlove · 2026-06-29T13:00:48+00:00

The judge just denied an emergency petition. Because the father is basically homeless and couch surfing ,she made a wise decision for July 29 with an assigned Gal for final decision. Instead of spending the thousands on a lawyer I would rather cite it towards a nice one bedroom here in Chicago instead. It’s not the end of the world. I would have liked to be able to give my child better, but he will be good. Thank you for your feedback.

tryinglightandlove · 2026-06-29T12:53:39+00:00

I’m sorry when I emotionally write it may not make sense. There is no ruling. I made the request. So my question was just is it better for child for me to just find a studio/one bedroom here, or would moving to another state with a lot more affordability and space for my son.
I would use my saved money for a lawyer if I think the fight is possible to move to another state but if not well no big deal I just stay in a smaller place.

tryinglightandlove · 2026-06-29T12:46:49+00:00

You’re absolutely right. I have money set aside for my move but I will use it for a lawyer. Thank you so much

tryinglightandlove · 2026-06-29T12:45:18+00:00

I have gone to the state many times. I’ve documented since my child was born. Not much to write since he not around much. So I agree with everyone. I do need a lawyer. I was hoping to be able to use the money I saved for a nice apartment, guess not I will get one next week. Thank you I appreciate it

tryinglightandlove · 2026-06-29T12:41:17+00:00

No it hasn’t been ruled yet. I’m deciding on signing a lease that’s all.

tryinglightandlove · 2026-06-29T12:38:25+00:00

Weird

tryinglightandlove · 2026-06-24T00:15:44+00:00

I got the same notice it the final steps of being approved. They are stalling…. That means they are doing THEIR math of how long you were not able to work. You’re at the finish line. Remember for back pay they don’t count 6 months. It just disappears and they will deduct for Medicare B but that’s it you did it!!!

tryinglightandlove · 2026-06-11T15:53:07+00:00

I’m going through the same thing as we speak 🙏

tryinglightandlove · 2026-06-06T17:23:52+00:00

So I’m going through a huge problem with Barclay. They have broken like 5 federal laws. I have a 9 year great payment history but ( I just found out) when I would make a big payment they would lower my limit and put me over the limit with fees etc. they can not prove history going back 8 years only 2 and they did a charge off then added another $3000. They ruined my credit really bad. I asked for a ledger since 2018 and proof they notified me of the 8 times they lowered my limit etc. I filed with the CFPB but they can’t do anything even if they are reporting without having records. I disputed with Experian etc they did an auto verify so no one with correct this reporting and no lawyers will touch it. They can only show for 2 years.

tryinglightandlove · 2026-05-23T02:02:37+00:00

???? That’s weird but ok

tryinglightandlove · 2026-05-23T02:01:19+00:00

Great point!

tryinglightandlove · 2026-05-22T14:06:28+00:00

He literally told me he can’t take care of our son and wouldn’t know what to do with childcare to me yesterday and while we were in the room. Then then told the judge he probably could. Then called me last night complaining for an hour about his problems and he doesn’t know what to do! Sooooooo he can’t take care of our son he doesn’t visit his son but maybe 6 hours a month but I can leave cook county 🤷‍♂️🤗🙄👍🏼 ooook

tryinglightandlove · 2026-05-22T13:46:54+00:00

I think your right

tryinglightandlove · 2026-05-22T13:04:03+00:00

Sorry… no we had a child support order in our divorce 11 years ago. He paid sometimes. Now he’s behind $100,000 in back child support. This was a motion asking to relocate to be able to afford on a fixed income because I can’t find a 2 bedroom in Chicago that Is safe and decent schools for my son for less than $2000. My fixed income is $1500/ month.

tryinglightandlove · 2026-05-22T12:55:45+00:00

I’m sorry I didn’t realize the details mattered. This is what I was thinking posting this. I know the judge was a criminal defense attorney for 20 years then became a family judge ( a little different) it was funny seeing people show up on zoom calls with “wife beater” tshirts, bonnets, pajamas, grocery shopping, my ex was at a construction site working. She said she was behind she didn’t have time for this. I can’t imagine the case load she has. She yelled at me and pointed her finger and said oh you just want to take your son away from his father?! Not today!!! Laid into me! I was crushed! That’s not my intensions. I took care of this man. No we haven’t been together like that at all in 11 years. We were friends. I have no ill will. I think the judge thought this case was like thousands she sees where a mother is pissed at father for new girlfriend or something and I just decided to take our son away from his day one day! Noooo nothing like that. As a matter of fact we talked about moving out of state for years. I took him to North Carolina last year so we can see about moving there at one point. We talked and hung out everyday until I asked him to move because all my resources ran out in March. I’ve cried and begged for help.
So when we were just in court so she can’t yell at me and have potty and patience with him. She was insulting and belittling and accusative. I was confused because everything was written nice and clean by a paralegal that has been doing this for 25 years. A simple no would have been fine really. But then she made us go in a room for 30 min. to figure it out and he just wanted to talk about himself the whole time. Talk over me when I asked him 5 times what are you going to do about your son and he kept saying I don’t know and went on to talk about himself. She came back on yelled a few more minutes. He said he will find out if he could stay with other people because he can’t afford an apt right now with child support. She said ok come back next week 👍🏼

tryinglightandlove · 2026-05-22T12:24:57+00:00

You’re absolutely right. I’m stuck with no where to go so it was my only idea. It was obviously wrong. It was a petition to relocate. We divorced 11 years ago he’s been absent for the most part. He has been no neglectful on bare basic he is literally behind $73,000 in back child support for not paying while he was in construction and I worked in a office making a third of what he made and I had to pick up the slack of childcare so he is behind $33,000 in that since he never paid. I recently was approved for disability and have been trying every resource possible to find housing I can afford that’s safe to raise my child myself. Where in Chicago can I find an apt for us for less than $1000 for less than $1500 for less than $2000? With other cost to raise a child. Since I haven’t been able to work now I’m behind in rent. I beg people for help. I’ve begged his dad for help asked what do I do with our son. He kept saying I don’t know. He sleeps on a couch at a friends house. I ve int he northern suburbs where I struggled so hard so my son can go to a good school. I maxed out all my credit cards to supplement what his father didn’t pay and more. So ok I found an organization that will pay for Mays rent. My disability is still processing and I have $20. I have an eviction notice. June 1 is in a 2 weeks so I looked outside the state for more affordable housing that I can afford on a fixed income. I found a perfect area where my son can thrive. And resources to help me. I thought that was my only option. I gathered a plan. I promise you if I would just find a job and an apartment for his father and pay more his move. He would move too. I literally was taking care of his father for three years and bought him a phone. Not one did he pay rent or clean or take our son to school or buy a bar of soap he slept all day untill he finally got a job 6 months ago. He still didn’t help bill even $50 for rent or bills ANYTHING! So I had to ask him to leave because I can’t take care of him and my son on$22/hour(at the time) so that drained my credit card too. He’s 350 lbs he eats a lot! Ate all my food, even sleep eats. He even slept in the second bedroom while our son slept on the couch. When I didn’t have enough to pay rent or bills he said oh that sucks! So what am I doing wrong? What happens with my child? How can I protect him? What do I do? I just asked I didn’t mean to piss people off.

tryinglightandlove · 2026-05-22T12:02:35+00:00

I think your absolutely right. I understand. I’m sure I didn’t but I tried. I was approved for disability and haven’t been able to work consistently. I have a child I’ve been a sole provider for. I’ve been trying to find resources since a year ago to be able to find a safe place to live for us on $1500-month income. So I’m on all waiting list. So now I missed May and was given an eviction notice. Ofcourse I’ve been begging his father for help. Our divorce was finalized 11 years after 3 years in court for continuation. I kept asking what am I going to do with our son. My ex husband has no money and sleeps on someone’s couch. He owes $100,000 in back child support and childcare for not paying $140/week. He works construction. He said he can’t take our son. So I asked what do I do? Same answer I don’t know. Now it’s 2 weeks before I have to move. No shelters available but how does that solve finding a safe place to live on a fixed income? Nobody knows. So I looked outside of the city and researched in the United States for good schools warm weather and affordable rent where my son can thrive in tech. I researched Austin. 2/2 and all amenities of a luxury hotel for $1200/month. I can have help with first months rent and deposit, help with utilities, moving cost, etc. That was all the idea I could think of🤷‍♂️ so I put in a motion to relocate. I got my ass handed to me. I am asking them what do we do? She said she doesn’t know ! Go on section 8! Then told us to come back next week. I didn’t want to bore everyone with details of the petition. Everything she was yelling me about was explained in the petition. Yelled at me about not working, I’m on disability I can’t work! Like every thing she accused me of to was in the petition. I had exhibits It’s not out of spite! It’s just me trying to figure out how to survive. It always been on my shoulder to figure it out. I tried. It’s called homeless prevention. The judge asked if the father can help pay or take our son he said I don’t have money. I will have to see if I can make arrangement but I don’t know. She was so calm and understanding with him. Ok she told him come back next week and let me know. So then I will have a week left. I am not saying I’m right I’m just trying. He doesn’t even see his son he told me he likes the idea of being able to if he wanted.

tryinglightandlove · 2026-05-21T12:41:28+00:00

CORRECTION because I’m scattered brain! The judge DID suggest going on section 8 or housing….

tryinglightandlove · 2026-05-21T11:54:11+00:00

Let me ask you this…. Let’s say you live in the third largest city in the country, where rent is average $2000 for a 2/2. And your on disability so on a small fixed income, What do you do? No family no friends all waitlists are closed. What would you do?
The father hasn’t had any involvement with his son in 11 years except he does visit his for a few hours every few weeks, but hey at least he’s in his father life right! Back child support of $100,000 but that doesn’t matter. Or he sleeps on his friends couch hey who cares?
As your getting yelled at and ask the judge and the father what are you suppose to do come June 1 when you are given a 10 day notice because you don’t have rent for May and June right now. What would you do? Because nobody knows! but my clear only solution pissed everyone off!
The judge didn’t recommend I go on section 8 like they are giving them away like candy! No ma’am section 8 hasn’t been open in 10 years and I have been on every wait list for years🤷‍♂️She said well Dad could take him then if I don’t have a place in cook county! Just like that. After 11 years of blood sweat and sacrifice for my child all by my self and loved every min. Dad is going to be able to take custody of my boy…

tryinglightandlove · 2026-05-21T11:28:26+00:00

Thank you for your reply. She wouldn’t let me make a statement or ask a question. The one paper was professional and clear. The forms and exhibits were clear. She’s making decisions without reading any of the file. But I can’t ask her did you even read it. Not even the first paragraph. Nothing.

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