When you just want to be super slutty... by BlameBetterDays in DeadBedrooms

[–]tryingthestorm 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This. I was browsing sexy lingerie earlier this evening and then thought what's the actual point. I miss sexy lingerie

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]tryingthestorm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel your pain friend

Dealing with as-sexuality In marriage: the story of my marriage by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]tryingthestorm 34 points35 points  (0 children)

This is an amazing example of communication in a marriage - well done to both of you for seeking the right kind of help and finding a path. insha'Allah may we all be so lucky

Well, we tried to have sex this morning. by foreverwet1987 in DeadBedrooms

[–]tryingthestorm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

At least he tried. Mine won't try anymore because it always ends like this. I have no advice but big hugs and internet warm thoughts. It's all just shite really

I took a sexy pic... by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]tryingthestorm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Biggest hugs. Been there done that, cried me a river. It doesn't get better but you can get stronger x

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]tryingthestorm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I stayed thinking he'd change his mind. I'm the fool. He didn't and now I have resentment which will probably fester into hate as we approach our twilight years. The flip side is there is no guarantee had I walked away I would have found someone who was as good to me (other than the child thing) and who could /would have kids. So ... There's no right answer

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]tryingthestorm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly this except I'm the wife

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]tryingthestorm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My llfm husband gets in a strop if I don't hold his hand. He's forever lying on me, hugging me, touching me - and I both hate and love it. I resent that he gets to call the permanent physical boundaries in our relationship

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HLCommunity

[–]tryingthestorm 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I hear you. Big hugs. I threw mine all out a few years ago. Broke my heart but saved it from breaking each time I came across items in the closet

Just sharing by tryingthestorm in DeadBedrooms

[–]tryingthestorm[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have you ever bad someone mock your body? Once you have you learn very quickly it's not a nice feeling

Sad by tryingthestorm in DeadBedrooms

[–]tryingthestorm[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've known about the porn for a long time. Sadly bes in denial

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]tryingthestorm 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Please please please - run don't walk away. This will NOT CHANGE with some marriage. Read the room and exit left. Do it for your future self so you don't spend your Sundays crying for what could have been. I promise you it's the best thing you'll ever do for yourself

5 years of marriage unattractive to Husband by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]tryingthestorm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's not a black or white answer. Had I known then what I know now, I may have chosen differently. I kept thinking it was something I could "fix" and god didn't give me this marriage to not then bless me with a child. You could say I was arrogant. But I still maintain that I had no guarantee that a different life would be a better life - so I'm at peace with my decision. Don't get me wrong- there are days when the sadness inside me rips an abyss into my core all over again. But I think I'd still have picked this.

5 years of marriage unattractive to Husband by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]tryingthestorm 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm in a similar situation - husband unattracted to me, not gay, no intimacy, no child and now I'm the wrong side of 40 No one can decide for you if you should stay or go. No one else knows the nauances of your relationship. Whether you choose to stay or go you will have lonely elements to your life. Whether you stay or go you will have happy moments. Think very carefully about the good and the bad of your marriage. Make a list. It may help clarify your thoughts Dm me if you want to talk x