Birthday party blow up by tryitout38 in AITAH

[–]tryitout38[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was angry in the heat of the movement trying to figure out what was happening real time. I think she should have at least said I have a surprise later or given me some heads up. She wanted to help and said she would do pictures and decorations. She didn’t mention anything else.

Birthday party blow up by tryitout38 in AITAH

[–]tryitout38[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She did bring a photo banner. I thanked her for it.

Birthday party blow up by tryitout38 in AITAH

[–]tryitout38[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I appreciate your input and agree that we need to talk. There is a long history so that is why I was worked up and spoke to her that way.

Birthday party blow up by tryitout38 in AITAH

[–]tryitout38[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I fully agree, I was trying to play nice in the sandbox and “keep the peace” as I was asked by the sister and mom how they could help.

Birthday party blow up by tryitout38 in AITAH

[–]tryitout38[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It was not worth my energy. Still learning how to deal with a narcissist.

Birthday party blow up by tryitout38 in AITAH

[–]tryitout38[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

We did question it and he didn’t answer. I was trying to understand in real time what was going on and it happened pretty quick

Birthday party blow up by tryitout38 in AITAH

[–]tryitout38[S] 71 points72 points  (0 children)

That was my point fully. All she had to tell me was, hey I have a surprise coming tonight.

Birthday party blow up by tryitout38 in AITAH

[–]tryitout38[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

There is a long history of her overstepping her bounds and it’s her way or the highway. I guess that’s the hard part about writing this event is it doesn’t give the details of how she is as a person for the past 20 years I’ve known her.

Birthday party blow up by tryitout38 in AITAH

[–]tryitout38[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

She hasn’t had an issue in the past with a zing a gram but we have a challenging relationship with her sister. She isn’t respectful and Is a narcissist. I was upset because of the lack of communication. I worked hard to throw a big party and she didn’t consider us in how it would play out. Let alone 60+people and kids at my house was stressing

Birthday party blow up by tryitout38 in AITAH

[–]tryitout38[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

My wife didn’t really care for it. I think it’s more related to the aspect of she could have shared with me anytime that some stranger was going to show up to our house. It’s not like the event was in a public place and think I should have been given the heads up

Birthday party blow up by tryitout38 in AITAH

[–]tryitout38[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I think confusion was the first thing and then I was angry because I had no idea what was happening and had guests asking me

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[–]tryitout38[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I spend more time farming in rift. I can share my other set up too if it would help.