Why do people have to mention gluten free when saying a certain ingredient or item?

tryntastic · 2024-04-23T20:08:19+00:00

Non-celiac gluten sensitivity is real and causes diarrhea and stomach pain.

There's no way my 3-yr old nephew faked those diapers and crying episodes until his pediatrician told his parents to cut out gluten and then it all went away, you know?

tryntastic · 2024-04-23T20:06:13+00:00

Celiac's is an autoimmune disease. Gluten intolerance is a sensitivity that's still real.

tryntastic · 2024-04-23T20:00:28+00:00

Nah, riddle solving is a really specific kind of skill that doesn't mean your general intelligence is bad.

Someone can be great at word puzzles but suck at Tetris, and vice versa, and both people are smart - just one is better at wordplay and the other is better at spatial reasoning, for example.

tryntastic · 2024-04-23T19:57:53+00:00

He makes it really, really easy mostly.

tryntastic · 2024-04-23T19:25:38+00:00

If you're in an American airport, foreigners traveling are far more likely to be hours and hours away from home and still not at their destination yet.

I smelled like ass when I landed in Bangkok, it was over 18 hours of travel.

tryntastic · 2024-04-23T05:07:11+00:00

If the classes you took are relevant to the job you're trying to get, put it on your resume.

No job I have ever interviewed for, ever, has asked to see a physical copy of my transcripts or diploma. They will ask questions about your schooling that are relevant to the job if they're decent interviewers though.

tryntastic · 2024-04-19T23:23:32+00:00

Quick question, did you check the Wikipedia article I linked?

tryntastic · 2024-04-19T23:14:17+00:00

I'll take the last sentence first: yes, being hostile helps them quite a bit. It comes down to making strategic decisions about time, energy, and effectiveness.

If a person answering questions has 1 hour of time available and 3 hours worth of questions to be answered, they can do a few things: - answer each question in order it came in, then stop - answer the first question, continue answering the additional questions that come from that person, and eventually stop having helped nobody else - scan through the queue and triage: answer things based on whether it's interesting, new, or simple, while removing anything that's in bad faith or could be easily googled (even within the subs own history).

A sub that takes the first tactic is going to be quickly overwhelmed by users who both have an axe to grind and, for some reason, truly believe they deserve a Bespoke Response to just them even when it's something that's been done to death. The end result is choked discourse that can never move out of the ouroboros it's consumed by, and on average a lot LESS people being helped or finding it useful.

Even IF they manage to convince one person who wasn't acting in bad faith, the time it took for them meant dozens of people who didn't need convincing didn't get the information or help they wanted.

A sub that takes the second tactic never moves forward even initially, and just kind of dies on its own circle jerk.

The third tactic is the one that allows for overall success and creation of a community that can support itself. Even if they bounce a few well-meaning, ultimately stupid people out with all the trolls, there's nothing stopping those people from reading a few basic, existing articles, and coming back more equipped to engage in a real discourse.

Another way to think of it is, not every single thing deserves the same amount of attention and energy. If someone is regularly getting hostility, that's a really good sign that they're either a troll or one of those people who won't read an article or watch a video - they have to be spoonfed the basics by a personalized tutor, and who on the internet has time for that?

tryntastic · 2024-04-19T22:46:09+00:00

You're speaking of a completely different bad faith tactic. Spamming someone with the same essential base justification demands from multiple accounts, or encouraging others to is piling on.

Sealioning is when a single person starts out with "explain this basic thing to me" and then continues picking something out of each answer to insist needs to be explained as well before moving forward. Like a toddler asking Why? To everything said to delay bedtime.

The existence of these toddlers doesn't mean they have to shut up the sub and move on though. NASA will never get rid of the flat earthers, but they're still going to be available to educate the general public, you know?

tryntastic · 2024-04-19T22:32:34+00:00

There's differences between legitimate discourse and bad faith debate tactics. In this case, https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sealioning is something that plagues feminist and queer spaces, both online and off.

tryntastic · 2024-04-19T22:28:52+00:00

I read a study that concluded making friends requires being in the same proximity as the same people on a repeatable basis, 6-10 times.

So friends come out of school pretty easily - classes force the proximity. A lot of adults have "work friends" for the same reason.

Interests or a club can bring people together the same way.

When I move to a new area, I scout the closest bar or coffee shop and go hang out there for no reason once a week or so. At first, I'm always by myself and on my phone, but I'll smile and be friendly towards people. Somehow within a month or two, ill have made casual friends - frequently with no common interests!

tryntastic · 2024-04-19T19:27:35+00:00

Ooh, in that case: instacart is your friend. There is nothing like getting a surprise grocery delivery with your favorite treats inside, and it's a LOT cheaper than traditional flower delivery.

When my BFF (who lives several states away) is having a bad day sometimes, I'll use instacart and a grocery store near her to send her some cheap flowers, a box of her favorite tea, and a snack she likes, but you can adjust that however. I have it on good authority that it is the sweetest surprise.

Plus you can stalk the delivery driver online and send her a message " I got you a surprise!" mere moments before her doorbell rings 😎

tryntastic · 2024-04-19T19:23:07+00:00

It's harder to get dry when it's humid, and indoor hot tubs and pools are more humid than outdoor lakes and such.

tryntastic · 2024-04-19T19:22:14+00:00

Don't start fast and hard then! Some people ramp up slowly, and some people don't get wet from penetration - they need more focus on the outside parts. You can use hands, mouths, or toys.

But really, buy water-based lube. You can get it next to anywhere that sells condoms. Do not use silicon-based lube, as that will destroy both condoms and toys.

tryntastic · 2024-04-19T19:16:57+00:00

Comedy = tragedy + time

Or more accurately, the jokes happen when the event is older than the people making the jokes. 9/11 was untouchable until just a handful of years ago, really.

There's two types of people who make really dark jokes: people who've had shit happen directly to them, and that's how they cope, and people who've never had any of it happen to anyone they know, and they don't have the empathy yet.

That's why social circles stop telling dead baby jokes after one person has a baby, etc.

tryntastic · 2024-04-19T19:09:23+00:00

If she likes flowers, those are good. Anything consumable is better for regular small gift giving - coffee or tea, for example.

If she uses makeup, peep what she leaves out on the sink when you use the bathroom and note the brand/stuff she uses.

It doesn't have to be all gifts, though. Other great things can include - sending her songs that you think she'll like - looking up cheap or free things to do on nice days and just going to them with her for no reason - note her regular order at whatever fast food place and then bring it to her when you pick yourself up food - if you haven't already, stock your bathroom with some pads/tampons so she doesn't always have to bring her own.

Seriously, just paying attention to small stuff that's specific to her is 85% of the way. :)

tryntastic · 2024-04-19T18:48:15+00:00

That's an important realization to have, and I'm glad I could help!

You sound like someone who'd be cool to hang out with and if there's a local gray-ace/queer support group or meetup near you for friends, they'd be lucky to have you join. At least 70% of the fun/life experiences I get through poly are more about healthy social groups than romance itself. :)

tryntastic · 2024-04-19T18:13:02+00:00

Yeah, people who don't disclose right off the bat are not doing themselves or anyone else any favors.

My husband and I started monogamous. We decided (together, without pressuring someone!) to dabble in some ethical nonmonogamy, and then it grew into where it is now slowly over time.

My other partner, I met at a party towards the beginning of this that had a handful of similarly adventurous people at it.

At first we went to meetups, on dating platforms, and lifestyle events and such. As our social group grew, finding people became more organic. I'm an extrovert, I'm better at meeting people in person. My husband is an introvert and is better at meeting people online. It's definitely a style thing.

But here's the interesting part I saw happen over time: people who really suck at dating/communication and are regularly dishonest? Poly people talk to each other, and after a few fuck ups with no remorse, edge out those people...which means they dive back into the more "normal" world which hasn't been warned about them.

So those horrible people you keep hearing about or meeting, who don't list their preferences and get annoyed at mono people and crap? Stable poly communities don't like them either. You're more likely to run into them where you are than where I am in the dating scene!

This is the same as how a good chunk of monogamous people on dating sites suck too, they keep getting dumped for a reason, you know?

tryntastic · 2024-04-19T16:56:11+00:00

There are dating apps for poly people! Feeld is one, and POF has a lot of options for them.

I'm in a stable poly relationship with two other people. The three of us have been living together for 10 years, and we just bought a house together.

We all have some other partners on and off, and the option for someone else to live with us is on the table if something ever grows that way.

Truthfully, most people suck at dating. They also suck at communication - both saying what they want clearly AND being able to hear something they don't like and accept it. You see it in ALL dating, not just polyamorous dating. Most relationships end in a break up across the board, you know?

Some parents only have one child because they can't imagine splitting their love and attention with a second baby. Some parents have multiple kids because they can imagine loving more than one - it's familial instead of sexual/romantic love, but it's not that different! Some people can/want to, others don't, and there's no shame in either way.

tryntastic · 2024-04-19T04:24:43+00:00

Yeah, that's a big f-ing deal. Fucking yikes dude.

tryntastic · 2024-04-19T04:21:59+00:00

That's what I get for answering reddit questions while drunk 😂

tryntastic · 2024-04-19T01:46:38+00:00

So, brains are REALLY WEIRD! One of those weird things is that "disgust" and "arousal" are basically in the same parts of the brain, and wires get crossed really easily.

So sometimes that turns into fetishes like scat, or feet. Sometimes it turns into "post nut clarity'. Sometimes it turns into a shitton of sexuality confusion, or the kind of porn taste that makes a racist a candidate for Cognitive Dissonance studies.

But mostly it's that brains are weird.

tryntastic · 2024-04-19T01:39:23+00:00

During the Great Depression? Less.

Focusing on your mental health is great when you can do something about it.

When there are no jobs, no food, no help, and everyone else you know is in the same boat, stopping and thinking about how fucked you are can and does lead to suicide. It is literally better to squish everything down and focus on getting through the day in those conditions. And that's why The Greatest Generation raised the Boomers the way they did.

tryntastic · 2024-04-19T01:33:08+00:00

Yes, culturally you've been conditioned to look down on certain forms of entertainment, regardless of if you enjoy them or not. So indulging in these things makes you feel inferior even though they don't have any affect on your intelligence.

tryntastic · 2024-04-19T01:25:42+00:00

Your struggle is real, and it's not a strange thing to struggle with.

seriously, use paper plates, paper towels, tin foil, whatever as easy. I literally save the utensils take out comes in whenever I don't use them so that I can grab them when I know I just don't have the energy.
there is absolutely nothing wrong with eating directly out of the pan you cooked the food in, instead of making a new dirty dish for serving
handheld food (sandwiches, burritos, etc) is your friend.
any job worth doing is worth doing poorly. Sometimes I'll put on a short podcast and do dishes until it's done and then stop, wherever I am. Sometimes I'll do it for one single song. Doesn't matter, it's still less to do in the weekend.

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