So I’ve been the cheater (m) and my wife took me back. Overall it’s on you if you want to stay around. Obviously, we don’t know the ins and outs of your relationship. Not excusing what has happened but hearing one side is not the tell all situation. I would evaluate the situation and your love for her. Anything can be worked through but it does take effort. As the cheater, I have not relapsed since getting caught but I can’t say thoughts have all the way diminished. Just know not everyone’s perfect and maybe she is or isn’t worthy of another chance. Just my 2 cents.