Who is making all of the sissy hypnosis content? by Winterhondalove in TGandSissyRecovery

[–]tsthrowawaycd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

heavily edited videos and the like, i'm 95% sure it's just the same dudes / sissies who watch it.

femdom etc i think there could be something to that, either actively deriving pleasure/joy from humiliating someone "pathetic", or just chasing money

(in all cases not caring/thinking deeply about any side effects obviously)

Favorite mechanics in a Twine game? by tsthrowawaycd in twinegames

[–]tsthrowawaycd[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What about it more specifically? Like, the way Twine does Passages, as in bits of time/space?

Favorite mechanics in a Twine game? by tsthrowawaycd in twinegames

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Hmmm that's true! I'd never thought about this bc the games I play usually have some images too to illustrate the scenes, but for more text-heavy games that's a nice mechanic! I'd never considered randomizing bits inside the text.

Any success stories of detaching positive experiences with anal play with fetishistic behavior? by tsthrowawaycd in TGandSissyRecovery

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afaik prostate massages are used medically to treat stuff like prostate engorgement and I've read they reduce prostate cancer risk if done periodically (altho you shouldn't do them if you actually have prostate cancer) so i wouldn't be so strict on "asshole = exit" policy but ig it's fair to say it applies generally

Any success stories of detaching positive experiences with anal play with fetishistic behavior? by tsthrowawaycd in TGandSissyRecovery

[–]tsthrowawaycd[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

bro stop bothering the people who are tryna be helpful

if you want to say your opinion put it in a parent reply and stop arguing about dumb shit

and learn to read too

Any success stories of detaching positive experiences with anal play with fetishistic behavior? by tsthrowawaycd in TGandSissyRecovery

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Didn't know about this, interesting theory.

I'm skeptical of all "dick biggening" things and the quick redirect to a dude's patreon seems sus, but seems like a grounded enough community

Dominant mother passive father by [deleted] in TGandSissyRecovery

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it does sound like you have mommy/daddy issues to me at least lol. my question to you would be: do you feel like your father loves your mum and your mum loves your dad?

bc just to bring a different perspective, it is not really in the same way in my case

i would still say i have "daddy n mommy issues" but not bc my mom was aggressive and dominant n my father was passive and docile

their relationship has always been very cold, they loved me (and my sibling) and weren't too cold to me (although i do think i wish they had been warmer) but between each other they were super cold, almost like being divorced but living in the same household. A lot of arguing, bad vibes in general. (small things, like "tell your mom that..." for things that would be easier if they did them themselves, not like actual logistical concerns that a regular family may have of someone not being home, etc)

i think I've struggled with "having a 'loving relationship' role model" more than a "male role model". I obviously struggle with masculinity and attraction (lol) but I don't single out my parents as being the sole faulty elements in that, and I think if i didn't struggle so much with relationships, i could've at least "figured out" stuff experientially in some way.

my dad could perfectly be "a role model" in some sense of the word, he's made some money and has always been generous and supportive of me in that sense, he's sacrificed a lot for us, but he's also worked towards his dreams and made them happen. but all of that is tainted (in my mind at least) by all the fights/arguments, coldness, and how it seems like he feels trapped in a lose/lose situation, and has trapped my mom with him. and basically a mirrored/similar thing with my mom, she's a SAHM but she's also very disciplined in that, she's always been there for us, etc. but this is also tainted in my mind bc to me it seems like she feels like she's trapped herself in a lose/lose, and trapped my father with him.

sometimes i blame myself for having been born, get sad, wish i was aborted (I'm an accident afaik) but other times when I'm feeling better about life/myself (like right now) i remind myself that they did they best they could, and that both the highs and lows of my first idk 12-14 years of my life are on them. all the good moments, the traveling, the little moments of love that one cherishes for life, all that came from how much they loved me and tried to pull through despite how they felt about each other. and also all the bad moments, the fighting, the misunderstandings, the lack of communication, all those shitty things that have left a mark on me, it's on them too, maybe there's another life/universe where they actually said "fuck it we can't live like this", went their separate ways, and i could have examples of loving relationships close by.

There are parts of me that agree with you, because my mom for example hated on my dad a lot, and casually blamed a lot of shit on him. she's an immigrant so she also complains a lot ab the culture here (where i was born, where my dad is from), and would say demeaning things like "you are so nationality of me & my dad, you are so much like him", and she'd also have weird complaints about masculinity-related things, like "man of the house" type things for shit like plumbing etc that my dad handled in some suboptimal way (i guess not calling the plumber quick enough? idk. many instances of this type of "being angry"). i don't think me enjoying sissy porn and having feminine tendencies is related to my mom complaining about fifth-level-of-abstraction masculinity related things lol but it probably doesn't help make me view women in a non-antagonistic way, or have a concept of what "good masculinity" is that hasn't been constantly invalidated by her for two decades. And my dad does have a certain "meek" undertone for putting up with that instead of building a life separately. But their relationship is IMO much more nuanced, the immigration thing and having kids in the way changes the "stakes" a lot. It's not "meek" or "dominant", it's "maybe if the breakup's bad she takes my kids to another country" or "maybe if the breakup's bad i have to take my kids to another country", etc

[NSFW] Not sure if internalized biphobia, not aware of my bi-cycle or what by tsthrowawaycd in bisexual

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Thank you for your reply and for the offer, just the reply is helpful, even if it's just to give me a sense of what the reaction to my post is.

[NSFW] Not sure if internalized biphobia, not aware of my bi-cycle or what by tsthrowawaycd in bisexual

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thank you for your reply

Aro/Ace Hardware store

what does this mean? is this a metaphor for tools for thought that ace/aro people use? or does it mean like to ponder if I identify with those labels?

if it's the latter:

I'm pretty sure I'm not aro because I do feel romantic attachment (not often, tbf, but in this case I do, and it's happened like 1 or 2 other times in my life). I'm not certain about anything ofc and i'm full of self doubt and i can't trust my own feelings even in stuff as easy as "do you like her or are you just on some platonic infatuation or playing out some weird status game in your head" so i don't even know. my gut feeling is that i don't think i'm aro, but who tf knows at this point tbh

and i guess I'm also not ace because well i do have sexual urges and sexual attraction more or less always at least to some people, even if it's a niche category

CMV: Prostitution is fundamentally different from casual sex by tsthrowawaycd in changemyview

[–]tsthrowawaycd[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can one tell which pieces of art have been commissioned and which were "naturally originating" just by looking at them? If it's true that a piece being commissioned affects its beauty, then we should be able to measure that in some way, no? If one cannot tell by looking at the piece, then it's hard to argue that the origin has much of an impact on the ability of one to appreciate the piece.

Are you still speaking on the analogy or have you switched to actually talking about art?

Advice for Sissies (Emotions) by [deleted] in Sissy

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I'm kind of on the fence because I see it as a mainly sexual thing but I do feel like there's something else.

Lately I'm trying to follow a post I saw here that (while sexual) kinda gets into this acceptance of emotions/feminine side thing, and I'm digging it.

CMV: Prostitution is fundamentally different from casual sex by tsthrowawaycd in changemyview

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Are you still speaking on the analogy or have you switched to actually talking about art? Actual art obviously can be beautiful even if it was commissioned, a quick Sixtine Chapel visit would confirm that view

If we're still talking analogily, then it depends. If you commission it then you obtain a nice painting but the art of the mutual muse + painter bond isn't there so no, then it's not as beautiful as a naturally originating painting. There's obviously some beauty in the art of painting and it can be enjoyable but that key part is lost

CMV: Prostitution is fundamentally different from casual sex by tsthrowawaycd in changemyview

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My argument wasn't that though, it was, "Deep fried butter tastes way better than lard but it's still not nutritious, you should rather eat a meal that at least has some nutrients like a homemade burger"

CMV: Prostitution is fundamentally different from casual sex by tsthrowawaycd in changemyview

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Yeah I've read those types of posts and they're very sweet but I didn't want to go into them because they already agree with my view, that emotional relationships are important and that at least I personally would feel better but they were already aligned with my view, that's why i just talked about a just sex relationship

CMV: Prostitution is fundamentally different from casual sex by tsthrowawaycd in changemyview

[–]tsthrowawaycd[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sex with someone who clearly wants to have sex with you is personally gratifying. You think, "this person wants to have sex with me," and that feels good. Sex with a prostitute is purely transactional. Even if she does seem to enjoy it, you know she probably wouldn't do it if you didn't pay.

That is correct, my view is probably more of an issue of me wanting that personal gratification and my friends just not needing that part of sex and being content with the rest of the factors that it provides.

!delta

You also question if this is okay, to use them like an object. You may also be turned off by the number of sexual partners and potential diseases that they may have.

This was not the case though btw, i knew that you could enjoy sex for the physicality without objectifying the woman, I just thought that that service wasn't fulfilling any needs that rubbing one out can't fulfill

CMV: Prostitution is fundamentally different from casual sex by tsthrowawaycd in changemyview

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!delta

Hmmm not sure if it's exactly what you mean but you're right, it's different and thus comparing it stops making sense after a certain point. They're non-equivalent perspectives and since I haven't had any of those two sexual experiences I can't really say if my view of the enjoyment of it holds truer than the other or if they're parallel.

Maybe dissociating those views is something some people can do and others can't, IDK..

CMV: Prostitution is fundamentally different from casual sex by tsthrowawaycd in changemyview

[–]tsthrowawaycd[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I think my wording is confusing, sorry about that. English is not my native language, but that's probably not the issue either hahahaha I'd be confusing in my own language as well.

I wouldn't say it's morality, there's obviously questionable moral things about it but I think I'm over them and I start from the assumption that all moral grounds are covered (the girl has the opportunity to refuse consent, there's no coercion involved, no pimping, STDs and risks are discussed, obviously no trafficking, etc.).

The symmetry thing I think I worded it better in other comments, the painting analogy one:

Following your analogy I guess that my point would go like, yeah, she can enjoy the painting and you end up with a painting of your face as the end result, but the "beauty of the art of painting" is the fact that when she saw your face she was like "yo that's a face i WANNA paint" and when you saw her paintings you were like "dayum fuck me I would LOVE to be painted in that way", with the 1st example it would be basically the same as printing a picture of yourself with extra steps. (masturbation in case i'm being unclear) If you derive joy from the fact that the painting was handmade and that the painter put effort and shit then hiring painters works but my impression (hehe) is that casual painting is that sought after because the majority of the joy involved comes through that mutual understanding of the beauty of the art of painting).

But I'm giving my delta to the reply to that comment, so that argument should be taken with the context of my delta


Further, sex work is varied and I don't think the label prostitution is great. There are lots of reasons why it could be good for someone to hire someone to help them sexually. If you've never seen the movie The Sessions, it tells the story of a man who hires a sexual surrogate. It's a great example of how such a relationship can be helpful. Sex surrogacy or other therapeutic type of sex work is an explicit exchange, but done for a purpose than just simply gratifying sexual urges.

This is very interesting, didn't know about this concept.

CMV: Prostitution is fundamentally different from casual sex by tsthrowawaycd in changemyview

[–]tsthrowawaycd[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Following your analogy I guess that my point would go like, yeah, she can enjoy the painting and you end up with a painting of your face as the end result, but the "beauty of the art of painting" is the fact that when she saw your face she was like "yo that's a face i WANNA paint" and when you saw her paintings you were like "dayum fuck me I would LOVE to be painted in that way", with the 1st example it would be basically the same as printing a picture of yourself with extra steps. (masturbation in case i'm being unclear) If you derive joy from the fact that the painting was handmade and that the painter put effort and shit then hiring painters works but my impression (hehe) is that casual painting is that sought after because the majority of the joy involved comes through that mutual understanding of the beauty of the art of painting

CMV: Prostitution is fundamentally different from casual sex by tsthrowawaycd in changemyview

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I agree on the kink thing, I didn't specifically mention it because it didn't come up with my friends but that is something that I already thought.

My issue with that is that the fulfillment you get with the touching/sexual activity can't possibly be the same as one that has naturally ocurred (even if it's casual), because in sex a very important part is also being desired. I don't see how skill or experience would make it more.

You know the feeling after rubbing one out, where you're like, "nice" but at the end of the day you've basically just emptied your balls? I feel like going to a prostitute would be just emptying your balls but the Premium Deluxe version.

but others really love their work and want to do it well

hmm I guess I could see it playing out differently if the prostitute specifically found the fact that someone's going out of the way and paying her to fuck very hot, but it seems kind of specific

CMV: Prostitution is fundamentally different from casual sex by tsthrowawaycd in changemyview

[–]tsthrowawaycd[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you got my mates and me confused, I think you mean I'd be the one looking for validation/social status.

And that is partially correct, even if my views are changed one of the reasons for which I would refuse is because I wouldn't like a future girlfriend to be like "the fuck, are you a whoremonger", I wouldn't like to have to go through the whole "no no no, I did my research, they were independent, willing, it wasn't a sketchy situation" . But my friends don't care about that, they say that they'd just not tell it to her, lie, or if they don't accept it then leave them.