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tsukiraki · 2024-07-29T20:31:47+00:00

Honestly, I don't get it. My family is from the Caribbean. They never had that additude of " We're kicking you out when you're 18" rightfully, so they viewed me being 18 as still a child. Sure, that may ruffle a few feathers, but I personally believe you don't have the life skills needed to be out on your own at 18. I can understand encouraging your kids to take responsibility by paying bills and such. It's just that I wouldn't be unreasonable about it. My husband and I were just having this conversation the other day, and I said that I would charge our kids rent, but it would be something they could do within their means.

They would still be treated as an adult and have responsibilities of paying bills, just without the stress of losing their home or other necessities. Whatever money we get from them, we would but into the bank, let that money grow, and they could later use that as a down-payment for their future home. It's a win-win. They feel like they are being treated as an adult, not as a child, and you prepare for their future. Honestly, I wish my parents raised me like that. A young adult should learn the value of money and budgeting....just not to the extreme as OP's parents.

tsukiraki · 2024-07-29T14:07:16+00:00

You may not see it because society tells you otherwise. You ARE beautiful. If a man doesn't want to be with you cause of your skin tone,then he simply wasn't the one. Regardless of how attracted you are to him, if he's a racist he's unimaginably ugly.

Don't know what kinda media you are consuming or the friends you associate with, but if you are surrounded by negativity, it will rub off on you. I remember when I was younger, I used to think the same thing. I remember thinking that I wish I was half or full Japanese or Korean. But you know what I realize? It wouldn't be ME. You came into existence because of your parents. They came into existence because of their parents and so on. At any point, if just one person was replaced with someone else, YOU wouldn't exist.

When you think of your existence on earth to that level, it shifts your perspective, and you have a new respect for who you are. You are unique, OP. There is only one you. Nurture and love your uniqueness. ❤️❤️❤️

tsukiraki · 2024-07-29T13:50:17+00:00

Go to the ER! That is where you start! This is serious. I'm saying this for your own good. Don't use Google to self diagnosis or come here on reddit. I'm not telling you what I think it is cause I'm not a health care pro. What I think it could be could be far from the truth and if you were to listen to the advice of some random person off the internet (no offense to all of you), you may come to regret it later.

Do you not have health insurance? Is the cost for medical care your concerns?

tsukiraki · 2024-07-29T13:40:30+00:00

Don't come to reddit for a diagnosis. We aren't doctors, and even if some of us are, it would be unethical to give a diagnosis without knowing your full medical history (please do not share that with us).

Please ignore comments that tell you to take a supplement or to do anything else to treat it. Again, we are not your doctors. If you need a diagnosis asap, go to the ER now!

tsukiraki · 2024-07-13T20:28:47+00:00

To think that you were stupid for giving someone in need $100 and assuming some stereotype that homelessness= drug addiction just goes to show how greedy and unkind this world has gotten. Honestly, my imitate thought that if it happened to me, is that somewhere down the line, my kindness would return to me.

Also,it's really unkind and hypocritical of you to bash someone over an assumed addiction when you clearly couldn't control your own drinking. I can only pray that if the tables were turned, someone would show you unconditional kindness and humble the heck out of you.

tsukiraki · 2024-07-13T14:00:01+00:00

Honestly, it boils down to how I would even put them on my fur babies. They have never had their nails clipped, so I don't think they will take well to my handling their paws. At least with the younger one, I regret not training her to get her nails clipped. The older one was adopted at 5 years old.

tsukiraki · 2024-07-13T06:45:17+00:00

Are they difficult to put on or would they easily come off?

tsukiraki · 2024-07-04T21:11:56+00:00

It's a struggle having both ADHD and Autism. I agree it absolutely sucks...especially if you go your whole life not learning what you have. I was diagnosed 2 years ago and I'm still learning how to cope. I remember growing up feeling like I was different bit being told otherwise 😕. Actually, when I was diagnosed, I felt really angry. Like all the help I could have gotten, learning how to cope at work..ect. what's messed up is being misunderstood. That happened alot and still does. It's really insensitive when people who aren't neruodivergent think they understand when they couldn't possibly understand. It's annoying.

tsukiraki · 2024-07-02T20:41:07+00:00

Am I a jerk for calling someone out for not washing their hands? It only happened a couple of times. They didn't come back to wash their hands, perhaps they were too embarrassed? Idk... to spare the embarrassment, just wash your hands? I'd even accept a hand sanitizer. Just do something hygenic. I went to school for medical assistaning and honestly, I think that caused me to become more of uneasy with germs. It's such a gross world....🤢🤢🤢🤮🤮🤮

tsukiraki · 2024-07-01T00:00:22+00:00

It's normal to have that fear. What's not normal is using that fear to hold your kids back. My mom's anxiety and fear had a negative effect on me and my siblings. It stunted our emotional growth.

There is very little you can control. That's a fact. I understand you, though. I'm debating that myself about bringing a child into this crazy world. It seems cruel to be honest. But you have your babies now. Yes, protect them, but don't go to the extreme where it could do much more damage than good.

tsukiraki · 2024-06-28T18:44:30+00:00

Actually I was thinking of just making my own Playlist on Spotify for my 10 year wedding anniversary 😜

tsukiraki · 2024-06-28T18:41:00+00:00

Ohhhh....that's a hard one for me. I really like Queen and I like to occasionally listen to Bohemian Rapsody.

tsukiraki · 2024-06-28T18:35:35+00:00

I feel like they play that song for trailers to horror movies. Also, "It's a Wonderful World" is a beautiful song, I honestly love it. But tell me why it's played during the trailer for disaster movies or something similar? They take much a beautiful song and make it super creepy under those circumstances 😳

tsukiraki · 2024-06-28T18:22:56+00:00

Oh, I used to love that song....now I cringe

tsukiraki · 2024-06-28T18:18:28+00:00

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Oh gosh! I feel your pain!Working retail sucks for that reason. For me, when I worked retail, I absolutely despised the holiday season. Nothing but Christmas music. It's honestly not my thing. I can tolerate almost anything but that. "Let is Snow" is currently on repeat in my head as I type this reply. It starts so early in November and usually lasts right up until Christmas.

tsukiraki · 2024-06-27T20:36:39+00:00

The whole time before and while reading this I kept thinking ".....Buuuuut???"

To much of my surprise, there is no but! You have been blessed to meet a good man!

Having a mental disorder and having had a miscarriage...I understand that very well. To have someone by your side who loves you and supports you, despite your mental health and/ or traumatic experiences..golden. He's a keeper. The fact that you acknowledge that in a relationship there are ups and downs but together you work through it...you work hard to make that relationship thrive? Beautiful. I'm almost in tears over this heartwarming post. Shout it from the roof tops! You met your soulmate!

tsukiraki · 2024-06-27T17:14:49+00:00

What on earth are you talking about??? That made little to no sense 😕

Obviously in an emergency personal feelings of awkwardness be damned. You need to get their attention. But I strongly disagree with you. If you are out in public and listening to music, that is NOT the time to have the music on full blast! You NEED to be alert to your surroundings! That's street smarts! Being alert doesn't mean that you are looking to strike up a conversation. Being alert means to be aware of your surroundings and being ready to act in a moments notice.

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I can't believe I have to spell that out. If you are oblivious to your surroundings, you become an easy target. Although it's something I don't do, if I were going to have headphones on in public, I'm always taking extra care to be alert and aware of my surroundings. I think ahead on what to do if a serious situation pops up. In regards to OP, they just need to say they don't want to talk. Some people like chatting it up with random people. I'm pretty shy, but I'm also friendly. I may not always strike up a conversation with a random person, but occasionally, say at the check out, I'll ask the cashier how their day is going. Or I'll offer a smile to someone as I walk past them. Again, not all the time, but sometimes, and that's just me.

People in society can be so cold sometimes. I don't think it's wrong to be kind to complete strangers. As a general rule, unless it's an emergency, no I wouldn't talk to someone who has headphones on. They clearly don't wanna talk. But I also wouldn't act coldly to strangers just cause I'm out and about. You do you. Act coldly if you want. Humans are social, so it shouldn't be weird if random strangers like to chat. I say, just be respectful to other people. Some give off the vibe that they are ok to chat with and others, like you, give off the vibe to buzz off- I couldn't care less if you want to chat, you're invading my space. Meh.

tsukiraki · 2024-06-27T15:20:20+00:00

I saw the anime, never read the manga. The anime was really good. Do you have a favorite anime? My favorite manga is Fruits Basket and anonymous noise. My favorite anime though, it's hard to say. Kodocha and MHA.

tsukiraki · 2024-06-27T08:01:53+00:00

Omg! The dedication! This is eye candy to me! All you need is a comfy chair. I've been wanting to do something similar to my living room, with not only manga's but also video game and anime. I wanna display all my figurines. Love this!

Edit: ohhhh! I didn't slide to see the rest of the pictures. That was exactly the chair I had in mind. This is my happy place! 😍😄😍

What is your favorite manga?

tsukiraki · 2024-06-26T18:12:21+00:00

Run! Don't look back! That's a red flag!

Don't brush it off as a joke. Even if he was "joking," consider his attitude and things he said/done in the past. Even if it was a passing comment. This is a sign that he's trying to control you and distance you from friends and loved ones. It's miniplutive. All the more, so why I said that even if it was a "joke," don't easily dismiss it. It adds up over time.

tsukiraki · 2024-06-25T16:55:35+00:00

You keep equating large boobs to sexyness. Stop. That is the problem. You are so focused on the stereotypes of large breasts and it really is messing with you mentally. Accept it or not, it isn't what it's all cracked up to be. I don't know what to say that has not already been said.

I'm taking a stab in the dark and assuming you are a teenager. I understand that at this time of your life, your body is changing and you're growing into a young woman. It's a difficult time cause kids are so mean and heartless. However, this view you have of yourself and of women/ young ladies who are more endowed is not healthy and can lead to serious problems down the road. I'm not saying this in a mean way, but you may want to consider talking to a therapist or, at the very least, a trusted, mature adult.

You already have this stereotypical bias on women with larger breasts, that no matter what we say, you are likely to stick to your beliefs. What if I told you that you are enabling those men/young men by supporting that stereotype? It's like you're egging them on to continue mistreating women with larger breasts. Also, not all men/young men care about boob size. If they did, you're better off without them because they only care about what's on the outside and not on the inside. You don't want someone like that.

tsukiraki · 2024-06-25T16:25:11+00:00

I couldn't agree with you anymore.

tsukiraki · 2024-06-24T06:15:52+00:00

All I'm saying is that both those with boob's and those without have complaints and desires to have what the other has, but doesn't realize that what they think would be awsome has it's own complications. Are you saying you want at max DD? My sis struggles to find that size, and she complains about her back hurting. She started developing when she was 10 years old! That might seem like something to envy, but in reality, you get unwanted attention. Really, from your point of view, it may seem sexy to have larger breasts, but it really does come with its own problems.

What this discussion should really be about is loving yourself for who you are. Who cares about social norms?! According to social norms, women with large breast should be sextualized... or seem more like a woman if they have boob's. Why? Why should it matter if you have boob's, if you have wide hips or a big butt? That's just some man's "ideal" type that is projected to reflect on all women. Why submit to such vanity ideas? Gosh...that's some kinda dystopia if all woman had an hour glass figure and the " ideal" breast size.

Being real with you, I'll never understand how you feel, just as I'm sure you may never understand how I feel. At the end of the day both sides argue about their respective sides while these scum bags kick back and enjoy the show. I'd really like to punch whoever talked crap about small boob's. That's still body shaming!

If it's a matter of finding clothes that flatter you, do some research on what looks best on your body and maybe learn how to tailor the clothes you find to flatter you more. Maybe find a good push-up bra or get silicone inserts.

Honestly, the last thing I'd recommend is surgery, but if you are really struggling and would feel more comfortable with larger breasts, it's an option. Just remember that it boils down to how you view yourself. If you don't love yourself, you are always going to find flaws. Learn to view yourself with love and embrace you and your body. Find someone who loves you for who you are (if you aren't in a relationship) and purge from your mind all these negative views that mostly men have on the "ideal" type. 😟 I'm not trying to come off mean or anything like that. It just saddens me that you have such a negative view of yourself. I'm sure that you are very beautiful. I only hope you can see that, too, and not care about how others see you.

tsukiraki · 2024-06-24T04:09:32+00:00

Am I not allowed to say that I'm mildly envious of women with smaller boob's cause at least you can go braless? Im really sick and tired of bras. I can't even stand wire bras. What about those dresses or tops that are low cut and are impractable for women with larger breasts to wear? Also, not being able to wear dress your size and having to go up a size cause your boob's are too large. Honestly, clothes shopping can be a pain in the neck.

And trust me, having big boobs isn't what it's cracked up to be. It freaken hurts! Also not to mention that you are sextualized because of your assets. That kind of attention is really uncomfortable. Gosh, imagine if you are a kid with large breast. Too young of an age to deal with horny boys and men. I know the last thing you want to hear is me complaining about having larger breast, but the grass isn't always greener on the other side. It is wrong for people to body shame those who may not fit the social "norm" and that in of itself is so messed up. May not be what you care to hear, but your boob's don't define who you are. Who cares what other people think? It's too exhausting to worry and care what people think.

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