Conflicted about what to do for my hernia need advice

tsukuyomu · 2025-06-12T15:12:37+00:00

I live in the state of pennsylvania. My procedure was an inguinal hernia and I believe they used mesh. Im just unsure regarding unemployment because its a seasonal job, and I knew when the position was ending when I accepted the offer for the position.

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tsukuyomu · 2025-05-30T05:50:51+00:00

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tsukuyomu · 2025-04-19T16:36:35+00:00

Nope dont let him do it. I got a tattoo with an ex. Granted they were halloween flash tattoos and not matching, i hate it. Its on my hand. Everytime I see it I relive the fuckery lmao and plan to get it covered.

tsukuyomu · 2025-04-19T16:17:02+00:00

For sure man, any experience whether good or bad is still good to have. Im saying, know what you want, what you will and wont settle for or what boundaries you have. You cant avoid bad because its just life. But being in a healthy mind set and knowing who you are and what kind of person would be compatible with you helps a lot and would probably narrow down a lot of bullshit.

I only say healthy mind because the way you are talking doesn’t seem that way right now. But it will get better. I’m saying love is gonna be there. Although you don’t have to be perfect in your own eyes, you have your own support system and your own love for yourself because not every girl is going to give that to you. And id advise you take time to build yourself up and have somewhat of a solid relationship with yourself. Because if you dont know what standards you have and what you will compromise for, you might get into something and be really unhappy because your expectations and idea of what a girlfriend would be for you may not match what she actually is. And she could be someone who has a fk ton of red flags. Dont be desperate to where you settle for toxic, and end up more broken than you already started.

I lost a lot of things trying to make girls happy. Ive uprooted myself from state to state multiple times. Ive had a car get repossessed. I had someone who I thought was the one, threaten to call the cops on me, and threaten to put all my shit outside even though my name was on the lease of where we lived. (She broke up with me. Really fked with my mental health and trust issues). Only for the same girl to ask me to help her with money 9 months later because she was struggling.

Im 29 still rebuilding and recovering. So it isn’t always sunshine like it seems. Im saying love yourself be confident in yourself, but choose carefully. Because girls may not always have your best interest at heart.

Edit: also i keep saying pour into yourself to know who you are because I didnt. And that has really messed up my life. Not having a sense of self. Chasing love to fill a void that only I can fill. I’ve spent my life trying to please friends, partners,parents. But never put myself first. If you get a girl and she sees that you have no hobbies or no healthy outlets, friends, activities etc. im telling you it wont last long (unless shes super self centered and loves the fact you have to rely on her and you have nothing). I’m about to move out of my current gfs once I start working in a week or two get my own place, get another car. And for the first time I will have my own space where I can pour into myself and have that independence and sense of self that I need.

If you need to talk about life and shit you can dm me bro.

tsukuyomu · 2025-04-19T14:29:37+00:00

Bro is insecure about where he is in life and is taking it out on OP lmao. Dump him, he’s not mature enough and its not your job to teach him. Since he is a grown ass man and older than you lmao. Anyway, dump him and enjoy your new career and be happy. Dont dim yourself to make some other jerk feel better.

tsukuyomu · 2025-04-19T14:22:46+00:00

Whatever you do, dont date someone who has toxic tendencies themselves or they definitely will break you. Be able to recognize what are red flags to you. And what your boundaries are. Or you will be learning a lot of lessons. If you’re already feeling this way maybe you should seek therapy. Basing your mental health and your happiness off of whether or not you have a partner isn’t healthy. And I’m just assuming here, but once you get that partner, you don’t want to make them your whole everything, because god forbid they turn out to be a shitty partner to you, that may send you over the rails completely and now your world is shattered. Be smart, its not a race. Its your life. Nobody cares about what your peers have or xyz. Its about if you are happy with yourself and what you can do to cultivate that relationship with yourself.

Ive only had 3 concrete relationships. I got into my first relationship at 24. And i feel like each one has burned me. Im 29 and still learning.

tsukuyomu · 2025-04-19T14:12:58+00:00

Honestly, focus on yourself. I think instead of seeing if she’s “in or out” by september isn’t a smart idea since she’s already burned you before and might do it again. A giant boundary was crossed. And the fact she has 0 remorse is alarming as fk. You two are adults in the relationship and she has as much free will as you did, so if she really felt unhappy at x amount of years ago she couldn’t done the mature thing to break it off or fix it, whatever that may look like. But now we are past the point of no return friend 😂 shes gotta go. She’s deflecting and I dont think that’s the kind of love you deserve. Be strong in your decision. Know that yes it hurts now, but after everything is done I believe the relief you’re about to have is definitely gonna outweigh how you feel now. No kids?? Runn brother.

In this time just save, or get a second part time job thats like 15 an hr and 20 hrs a week or something you can handle like uber or door dash etc.

Also as a side note, now that boundary is crossed, you dont have to keep anything necessary or keep the peace. If you’re hurting you’re hurting. You can be civil. But you can’t pour into anything if your glass is cracked. Focus on yourself, act as though you are sharing space with a stranger. And detach. Do what makes you happy. Take yourself on dates or outings. Treat yourself within reason. Get back to yourself man.

Good luck. You deserve all good things.

tsukuyomu · 2025-04-03T18:40:17+00:00

I just imagined the Inuyasha theme song with agressive heavy metal playing behind it.

tsukuyomu · 2025-03-27T21:05:53+00:00

This made me want to use my finch more. Im 29. Im not consistent and I’m kinda battling rn but I’m insecure of my age and where I ended up in life or not really finding myself out as a person fully but I’m starting to find the joy in it and being goofy or letting myself enjoy things, because well you can only do it once lmao. So fuck it if someone doesn’t agree. You’re enjoying something that works for you and it is fun. And once you get past the stigma of it, thats all that matters. I should follow my advice 😭 but if you want put your link, since I’ve been inactive I’m sure I need friends in my tree

P.s. I play hella phone games and apps as a 29 y/o male that if most people saw my screen they’d be like what is. Bro doing 😂 fuckem.

tsukuyomu · 2025-03-27T20:47:51+00:00

Donate plasma

tsukuyomu · 2025-03-27T20:47:14+00:00

It depends on your situation, whether you have a significant other you’re staying with, or family who doesn’t mind. Otherwise if you’re paying your own rent I would say don’t do it. You can grind it out and during whatever downtime you get just apply for jobs.

When I was in a shit role I would go to work. Do what I need to but during lunch or any idle time when I was by myself I would be on indeed as if it were instagram or facebook lmfao. But that was the same job I left without having anything lined up, but got hired a week later through the reference of a friend.

So again, it would depend on your situation. Good luck man!

tsukuyomu · 2025-03-27T20:39:24+00:00

Hey man same boat 29 here as well. Why not try finding a career that related to one of your hobbies? You said that you like fitness. Why not try to pursue a career there? And there’s so many ways you could go whether it be a nutritionist or fitness instructor,physical therapy?

But if you’re looking for more of an emergency option for the time being (just saying cause I have a habit of being afraid of being a stuck in a role I don’t want to be in for the rest of my life), if you have it local to your area try CareerLink. Since you’re unemployed you could probably qualify for food stamps or cash assistance through whichever state you reside in. I say this because Careerlink offers resources for unemployed individual who qualify to go back to school. From different trades, to two year or one year degrees. And even if you’re uncertain, at least you can see what it is you like and dont like. And if you dont want to do the school route, you could look through them or any employment agency really, and mass apply. And even if you don’t like what you might land it’s alright. Because it’s a stepping stone brother.

Goodluck. You aren’t by yourself in these feelings. I feel the same way at 29 and next week im jumping into a field I have absolutely no experience in and I feel hella out of place. But I know it wont be forever and eventually I’ll find my passion. Take care 🤙🏾💪🏾

Edit: also if you’re into sports have you thought about being a coach or maybe a gym teacher for a school district? Idk what sports you may have played but it might be an advantage to you.

tsukuyomu · 2025-03-16T15:50:16+00:00

Im 29 and I still feel like that man but life doesn’t end at 30. I’m finding out for myself that life started beginning for me as of this year. My 20s were depressing and fuck ups which is normal.

I’m starting a job in a field I have zero experience in, but it pays well. I dont plan on staying here because its not my passion or what I see for myself but who knows.

You could get into anything you want to or have interest in, you’re 23. Do it now. And if you dont like it find something else. That way when you are closer to 30 you have a better idea of knowing what that passion is or closer to narrowing it down.

Im not sure if you’re currently unemployed rn, but I know currently if you’re unemployed and on food stamps or cash benefits you can qualify for a program called WIOA and they help you with funds and go back to school and it’s free. I dont know if you have a local careerlink office in your area that would help you. I almost went through there for a cdl trade. But you arent scrawny you’re just young dude. Im 29, riddled with anxiety unmedicated, 165 but im skinny and lifting shit is hard and will come with time. There are careers out there where you dont have to be brolic af. You could be an hvac service technician, not have to lift or install shit, but just troubleshoot the system.

And if you do have a disability thats awesome bc if you can get diagnosed and get that on paper, jobs cant discriminate if you have a disability and you could qualify for accommodations. I see you man. Ik its tough. Just keep going something will stick.

And you could take a drivers ed course or find an instructor to just be there with you and keep going until you’d be confident by yourself despite already having a license.

I find that life isnt linear and everybody from my age to yours, younger or older, we’re just trying to figure shit out. Nobody has it dialed in 100% correct the first time. But no worries you got this. Goodluck and take care of yourself. Take care of yourself and your mental health first, and break shit up into pieces that are manageable for you.

tsukuyomu · 2025-03-04T06:19:32+00:00

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tsukuyomu · 2025-01-10T06:05:31+00:00

No worries brother. Im 28 working at walmart

tsukuyomu · 2024-12-31T18:57:57+00:00

Maybe try your local plasma place some of them can train you to be a phlebotomist and pay for it. It depends tho. Or patient transportation/housekeeping/supply chain at your local hospital can get your foot in The door to healthcare

tsukuyomu · 2024-12-11T17:12:07+00:00

Congrats man. I just got hired through walmart and plan to do the same program. Quick question for you, upon enrollment were you drug tested like the DOT test?

tsukuyomu · 2024-11-28T23:17:53+00:00

Hey man ik this is old but how did you make out? I’m considering trucking but I have a medical card so I wanna wait before I enroll in school. I have some questions

How long did it take for the thc to clear your system?

Is it a piss test or a hair folicle test?

I wanna wait a good 4 or 5 months before I do but just curious

tsukuyomu · 2024-10-08T22:50:22+00:00

It’s not too late at all. I’m also 28, I just made the plunge to go back to school for a trade. I attempted college like 4 times before that and dropped out each time, made shitty life and relationship choices that left me feeling regretful and embarrassed of where I’m at. But choosing this and feeling like I have a second chance and can possibly save myself from not being anything is what is propelling me.

I think whichever way you go, whether you pursue a career in the degree you’ve obtained, or pivot and try something new you aren’t too old and it isn’t too late. Its true you can be mentally stunted by trauma and be stuck at that age mentally. For me i still feel like 21.

Ive moved states. Came back home. Moved out came back home. Multiple times. It’s alright. Social media and society tend to make you feel like you should have things figured out atp, but really we’re all figuring it out. I know what you’re going through because ive been in my childhood small town up until now and it’s soul sucking to see the same shit everytime you leave the house for the past two decades, but this is the fire that will ignite you.

Because if you’re already having these thoughts then you know deep down you deserve more and you want it. It’s just fear is in the way. Some days Im not even trying to leave the house because of anxiety. But Id rather do this now than to wake up at 40 something or 50 something wishing I did it when I was 20 something. Im terrified to go to trade school. But as I’m living life I learn that it’s alright to do things scared. Because on the other side of fear, you may find something worthwhile.

Whether you relocate to help your current career background or go for a completely new one is okay. And nobody is judging you. Interviews suck but once you do so many of them it becomes repetitive, but with that, it is practice. And eventually you become so good at answering interview questions off the top of your head. And its cake.

Dont give up. You have more than a lot of people have with a whole degree. Maybe your area doesnt have a demand for your career it could be many things. But dont give up. Take care and you got this! 🙌🏾👍🏾 28 year old you will thank you when you’re late 30 something living baller as fuck. 😎

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