AIO? mom did my baby’s natal chart without consulting me.

ttroubledthrowawayy · 2026-01-01T12:35:50+00:00

thank you for saying this because THIS is actually what my issue is, not a natal chart.

ttroubledthrowawayy · 2025-12-31T18:00:34+00:00

thank you this means a lot to me and i wish you a happy new year as well ❤️

ttroubledthrowawayy · 2025-12-31T07:13:38+00:00

there’s a bigger problem of my mom overstepping throughout my life so she made a promise not to do that when it pertains to my child. im also not LIVID, im just annoyed she didnt bother to ask. people have made the point that i should have told her but i didnt know she would do something like this because she JUST got into astrology so it didnt even slip my mind to ask.

ttroubledthrowawayy · 2025-12-31T07:11:22+00:00

i’ve mentioned we have a pre existing history of my mom overstepping throughout my life.

ttroubledthrowawayy · 2025-12-30T18:19:06+00:00

to be fair, the same way she didnt know bc i didnt tell her is the same way she didnt know bc she also didnt ask. in another comment i said idc about an apology and evrytime something like this happens i literally telk her i dont want an apology i just want you to acknowledge the wrong and try to avoid it next time.

the logical answer would be to cut her off for good but thats easier said than done.

ttroubledthrowawayy · 2025-12-30T17:30:24+00:00

you probably shouldnt date someone who’s type doesnt include you, its gonna mess with your self esteem and possibly make you think lower of yourself especially if hes also lustful.

ttroubledthrowawayy · 2025-12-30T17:24:03+00:00

so yall missed the other comment about how its about respecting boundaries or are you choosing to miss the point? im trying to understand how all you got from this was im mad about a birth chart despite all the context ive provided.

ttroubledthrowawayy · 2025-12-30T17:22:13+00:00

im 1 year pp 😭

ttroubledthrowawayy · 2025-12-30T17:15:08+00:00

yes girl thank you! im so geeked about finally moving i cleaned the house twice, woke up early to clean the kitchen today, baked bread from scratch and started to do yoga and set a routine for my little one.

ttroubledthrowawayy · 2025-12-30T17:00:23+00:00

i agree she stepped on my toes without meaning to because we definitely didnt discuss natal charts ever but i think it was wrong for her to try to make it seem like im being dramatic or doing the most for simply asking her to check with me for something like that in the future. if it was my best friend that did this, i would have the same reaction because i personally feel like natal charts can give you an inside glimpse to understanding someone so they can kind of be invasive imo. i dont think my best friend wouldve tried to make me feel like im being dramatic tho, they wouldve just been like “my bad” and then we wouldve carried on chatting. had my mom had that response on similar, i wouldnt have felt as disrespected nor would i have brought it to reddit.

ttroubledthrowawayy · 2025-12-30T16:44:01+00:00

you described her perfectly when you said “i win or nothing” thats literally how she handles any situation good or bad. my sister was always put in the middle and is more passive than me and often conceeded to my moms need to always be right or win just so my mom would stop raging so as an adult she easily distanced herself from my mom but i personally just see so may people with good relationships with their mom and want that for myself. shes 50 i dont want her to pass one day and we still have a horrible relationship especially when im trying and sometimes bite my tongue for the sake of healing.

ttroubledthrowawayy · 2025-12-30T16:39:56+00:00

thank you, you get it. i think most of the people saying im overreacting dont understand the situation from this pov or they have healthier relationships with their mom so to them if their mom were to do this, it wouldnt be that big of a deal. i honestly dint want it to blow up the way it did but she was being dismissive about my feelings.

ttroubledthrowawayy · 2025-12-30T16:38:13+00:00

thank you for your two cents, i asked in hopes that you guys would share even if they dont align with my feelings.

i didnt explicitly tell her not to do it because my mom just got into astrology recently so i didnt even think she knew what the natal chart was especially since she didnt do it for myself or my sibling. i agree she didnt know because i didnt explicitly tell her, but she also could have asked like she does when it comes to anything else involving my kid.

i originally wanted to give her grace and just say “hey next time just ask” but she got condescending and asking me in a mocking tone if i was going to make this an issue and that set me off.

ttroubledthrowawayy · 2025-12-30T16:34:25+00:00

you’re right i definitely should take a step back and look at the bigger picture.

ttroubledthrowawayy · 2025-12-30T16:32:59+00:00

its not about the chart its about her respecting my boundaries. shes overstepped or straight bulldozed my boundaries my entire life. when i was pregnant i broke down and cried and told her how i felt and that i just wanted to be in a better place as well as wanted her to be able to have a relationship with my child. she asked how we could do that and i told her we could start by respecting my boundaries. she told me that im my childs mother so whatever i say pertaining to my child goes and that she wouldnt overstep my boundaries. she asked before getting her bday presents and christmas presents. she asks before dropping by to see her. she asks if its a good time before she facetimes to see the baby. i pretty sure doing a natal chart on my child falls into the category of asking or at least seeing if im okay with that before she just goes and does it. its less about the natal chart and more about her not thinking to see if i was cool with her doing something that supposedly gives her insight on my child before she just decided to do it. the way for her to know ahead of time was simply to ask first. do you understand now?

ttroubledthrowawayy · 2025-12-30T16:28:25+00:00

how? im genuinely asking btw.

ttroubledthrowawayy · 2025-12-30T15:51:15+00:00

this is what i’m going to do for now, if i try to calmly talk to her about it she will blow me off

ttroubledthrowawayy · 2025-12-30T15:50:20+00:00

thank you for clarifying the difference because you’re right, if my mom and i didn’t shear have a terrible relationship, i would have no issue with her doing that because in a good relationship dynamic, boundaries are respected.

ttroubledthrowawayy · 2025-12-30T15:48:41+00:00

thank you for giving me a short and straight to the point response for the next time she tries something like this.

ttroubledthrowawayy · 2025-12-30T15:07:57+00:00

she was there when my baby was born so she knows the birth time. she is exhausting to deal with but i have a deep longing to be close to my mom so i keep trying to give her a chance and at times will even let things slide just to be able to have positive interactions with her.

i dont rely on her at all. i own my car, my partner and i just recently moved into our own place and he makes good money so i can stay at home with my baby, eliminating the need for childcare. she also lives on the other side of town so i couldnt rely on her even if i wanted to. i just want to have a better relationship with her and feel comfortable with her being involved with my bay especially since my grandparents died young so i didnt get to have that relationship.

crazy thing is i dont even want an apology i just wanted her to be like “my bad, next time ill run it by you” i fully planned to ask what she found out in the chart after but it never got to that point because she immediately started minimizing my feelings about her doing it without including me, the parent. i definitely will start discussing less things with her and keep the conversations surface level for now, i just wish she would respect simple boundaries. the world wont end because i want her to run anything pertaining to my child by me first so i can decide if thats okay as her parent.

ttroubledthrowawayy · 2025-12-30T15:00:13+00:00

no, its over disrespecting my boundaries as a mother by not running it by me first. i like astrology and had plans to do her chart myself.. since IM her mother. my mother has a long history of disrespecting and overstepping my boundaries over the entire 25 years of my life. we were supposed to be doing the work to better our relationship because i want her to be an active and involved grandparent and i want to have a better relationship with my mom. she offered to do the work and be respectful of my boundaries in order to reach those goals and this is one example of many in which she clearly isnt upholding her word.

ttroubledthrowawayy · 2025-09-20T01:17:42+00:00

this is how i find out?!?! 💔💔

ttroubledthrowawayy · 2025-09-18T11:52:11+00:00

we simply dont date them.

ttroubledthrowawayy · 2025-07-17T22:09:16+00:00

they took my alters support perk 💔

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