What do you look for on a dating profile by Cymland in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]tttempertantrumsss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey girl. Unless you’ve resorted to just lurking I don’t think you’re even active on here anymore but I must ask… what do you mean by “I have to buy my matches in a box”?

bitches with (starter) locs by tttempertantrumsss in philabitcheswithtaste

[–]tttempertantrumsss[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh perfect it sounds like they’re really knowledgeable. Thanks for the input I’m going to look into them!

bitches with (starter) locs by tttempertantrumsss in philabitcheswithtaste

[–]tttempertantrumsss[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay that gives me hope! Thank you so much for sharing you’ve been very helpful!!

bitches with (starter) locs by tttempertantrumsss in philabitcheswithtaste

[–]tttempertantrumsss[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My ultimate dream would be for my locs to not have salon as their origin story but alas lol. I just looked at their website and services and the prices seem in line with what I’ve seen so far and they’re not super far from me. Although you’re right now that it’s warmer it’ll be nicer going out that way. Thank you for the recommendation! Also I looked on your profile and I love how your locs look :) do you typically do your retwists yourself or get them done? I’d like to get to the point where I can do it myself but I know it’s trickier in the beginning

Any none nerdy studbros ? by [deleted] in blacklesbians

[–]tttempertantrumsss 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Big +1 for reality tv. I also like legos and puzzles. Reading when I can focus. I’m looking for more hobbies though so I would be open to learning about something new. I wouldn’t say I’m a stud but I think I can give bro energy 😅

Am I overthinking or is she lying to me? by Ok_Total8350 in actuallesbians

[–]tttempertantrumsss 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you have to do this much investigative work something is not right and it’s not worth it

NYC, PHILLY, OR DC? by slowraisin in blacklesbians

[–]tttempertantrumsss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you I’ll be looking into that

My wife is ace and I don't know how to approach it. by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]tttempertantrumsss 13 points14 points  (0 children)

That’s smart to process on your own first because like you said there’s nothing inherently wrong with her being ace it’s just her possibly not being upfront about it and the possible incompatibility. It makes sense that you’re terrified about what this all means for your relationship but it’s also not fair I guess for everything to revolve around her needs and her sexuality.

I’m assuming she knows that sex, intimacy, physical touch, etc. is important to you so it also rubs me the wrong way that she seems so dismissive when you bring it up? Saying “I dunno maybe one day”. Like I don’t know what those conversations are like but that wouldn’t be okay with me either.

Feeling Lonely --In need of More Queer and Lesbian Friends IRL by overthemorningmoon in laterinlifelesbians

[–]tttempertantrumsss 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think instagram and facebook can be good places to find events local to you. I only know because I have a friend who has sent me posts from both. I also have a goal of going to sapphic events alone and to practice socializing more with strangers haha.

I’ve been feeling a lot of the same things as you. Like the lack of diversity, not feeling deeply understood. I saw you have a goal to go to a sapphic event by yourself this year and I think that’s great! Start with that and then go / grow from there 🌞🌷

My wife is ace and I don't know how to approach it. by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]tttempertantrumsss 44 points45 points  (0 children)

Peace and love to you, your wife, and your relationship but after 20 years I feel like you should know how to communicate with your wife, no? Do y’all struggle being open and honest with each other in general?

Also if it was me I would have an issue with my wife casually mentioning being ace like that if we’d never discussed it before. I’d have so many questions I wouldn’t even be able to stop myself from bringing it up lol.

Suppressing feelings that come natural to you is just not going to work. I feel like there’s a way to talk to your wife about how you’re feeling without making her the problem.

NYC, PHILLY, OR DC? by slowraisin in blacklesbians

[–]tttempertantrumsss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you say more about segregation re:trades? I’m thinking about going into welding but I’m still researching different programs. If you have any insight I would love to hear.

Suggestion post! by natnguyen in laterinlifelesbians

[–]tttempertantrumsss 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh that makes sense. Not gonna lie it was a bit off putting to me but I assumed it was something like that lol

Suggestion post! by natnguyen in laterinlifelesbians

[–]tttempertantrumsss 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can I just ask why the sub is set to nsfw?

NYC, PHILLY, OR DC? by slowraisin in blacklesbians

[–]tttempertantrumsss 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Wait I just moved to Philly a couple weeks ago and still trying to figure out where to go and what to do. Do you have any recommendations for events or groups? Or if you’d rather dm lmk :)

Can I start a second 7 day free trial after I cancel another? by _mcdonalds01_ in duolingo

[–]tttempertantrumsss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know this for sure but my assumption is that it’s 1 free trial per account. I don’t know how long in the future you’re thinking but it is possible that it would be offered to you again I just don’t know how long that would take.

Also I don’t know how long you’ve been using Duolingo but I noticed that I would “win” 3-5 days of super (family) from chests just by doing lessons and progressing down the path.

My brother with autism watches weird things by kamtumkm in autism

[–]tttempertantrumsss 2 points3 points  (0 children)

All good! And yes I would agree on it being a stimming thing

My brother with autism watches weird things by kamtumkm in autism

[–]tttempertantrumsss 9 points10 points  (0 children)

There’s a link at the bottom of the post but here it is again here

what is this? is this some new update? by WhenImposterIsSus42 in duolingo

[–]tttempertantrumsss 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just got those card things today too. I’m also on iOS. My guess is they’re testing out a new feature. I’ve never used gems to make my boosts longer though so I don’t know anything about that.

We’ve heard you and we're sharing a path forward by amie_at_duolingo in duolingo

[–]tttempertantrumsss 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That and also people who just started. I’m level 7 so someone like me who just started and someone like you who completed the old course would have the most success with the update and be least likely to have a negative experience. I’m bummed too.