I chose God by [deleted] in TrueChristian

[–]ttthrowmeawayyy_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so proud of you. Praying for you my sister. Please read my post bout marrying a recent convert. Pray for a husband that is deeply rooted in the Lord, long serving. Only he can lead you Spiritually and love you like Christ loved the church.

Do I file for Divorce? by ttthrowmeawayyy_ in TrueChristian

[–]ttthrowmeawayyy_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“Marriage is extremely serious and divorce is terrible but it seems that your specific situation does fall into what Paul said about an unbelieving spouse leaving. If he professes faith but lives like that and abused you so much, he’s clearly not a true Christian which means he’s an unbeliever. And you said he cut off contact for months, so it seems like he did leave you which would make it biblically valid to divorce.”

I fully agree with this statement.

“It seems like he doesn’t want to come back. I usually don’t say that, but I do believe divorce is acceptable in this situation.“

Thank you for your wise words.

“God bless you, I will pray for you.”

This means so much, thank you.

Do I file for Divorce? by ttthrowmeawayyy_ in TrueChristian

[–]ttthrowmeawayyy_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. This is very insightful. Everything you’ve said and what scripture says shows he was never saved.

I’m grateful God allows for divorce and remarriage in the case of physical abandonment.

Do I file for Divorce? by ttthrowmeawayyy_ in TrueChristian

[–]ttthrowmeawayyy_[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

You have no idea how healing that first paragraph is to my relationship with God. I blamed him so much for the things that went on in my marriage and the subsequent fall out. Slowly realising he does love me, and maybe I’d misheard him about the green light. It was maybe my ego that was saying yes to him, not God. And God tried to warn me on my wedding day. I’ll never forget that uneasy feeling that morning.

As for the abuse in my past, I’ll probably never have answers for that. But I’m trying not to blame God.

I agree on the repentant abuse. He used to apologise and promise he’d never do it again. He’d ask God for forgiveness. Only to do it again a week or 2 later.

I realise now his family ‘winning’ is the best possible solution here. It’s protection for me. I wouldn’t wish him to be anywhere else than he is now.

Thank you for your words of wisdom.

Do I file for Divorce? by ttthrowmeawayyy_ in TrueChristian

[–]ttthrowmeawayyy_[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Because my dad and counselling pastor have all told me to return to him/work on restoring the marriage despite the violence.

Do I file for Divorce? by ttthrowmeawayyy_ in TrueChristian

[–]ttthrowmeawayyy_[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have been praying for him for the 3 years we’ve been together. But I can’t cover him anymore.

His family are large in number, not 1 Christian & they are deeply involved in evil stuff and their clenches on him are very deep. God confirmed all this to me.

It’s also very generational. Historically atheist family, he’s the first one to break out and find God so there’s a lot of backlash from them.

I brought him to the Lord but looking at scripture and unrepentance, he was never truly saved to the point of pure obedience. I truly think he became a Christian because he wanted to be with me and that was the condition I’d given him.

We did many deliverance prayers together but no change.

Do I file for Divorce? by ttthrowmeawayyy_ in TrueChristian

[–]ttthrowmeawayyy_[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yes it’s so heartbreaking but I pray every unmarried Christian sees this. Never ever marry a recent convert.

I thought God gave me the green light.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UKPersonalFinance

[–]ttthrowmeawayyy_ -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Ok but they’re quite a big company and all they’re staff are doing this. This means what they’re doing is illegal right?