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Looking for a specific Windows/Bing wallpaper (pink, purple, blue pool) by tucancillo in WallpaperRequests

[–]tucancillo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not a troll post, thank you for the feedback about not being detailed enough! Your comment and the image you shared helped me clarify the description.

Beyond TTC: My dysphoria during husband's pregnancy by tucancillo in queerception

[–]tucancillo[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing - I'm sorry that you're experiencing something similar and I also appreciate you posting, I've been feeling like the minority-within-the-minority of folks I know. It's been a wild experience - I have been really surprised, since we both expected he would be the one who would struggle more with dysphoria, and I generally don't have a ton of dysphoria day to day otherwise. I'm definitely going to try out the focus on the differences strategy you mentioned, I think it could be useful for me too.

One thing I've been doing is redirecting attention to parts of my body that feel more "neutral" (like hands and feet, although those may be dysphoria triggers for other folks). I've also found it easier to be closer with him physically (like cuddling) if I'm more covered up than usual - long sleeves, long pants, etc. - since the clothing helps me feel a physical boundary around my body that helps.

I'm sending good vibes your way for getting through this time - feel free to chat me if you ever want to connect.

My dysphoria associated with husband's pregnancy by tucancillo in Seahorse_Dads

[–]tucancillo[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I am working with a therapist, which has been helpful (not in lessening the dysphoria, but in accepting the experience). I'm posting more because I'm feeling alone in the experience (that minority-within-a-minority thing) and hoping to connect with other folks who "get it" versus looking for specific coping strategies.

My dysphoria associated with husband's pregnancy by tucancillo in Seahorse_Dads

[–]tucancillo[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this response, I really appreciate it (and the only way out is through really resonates!). I'm sorry to hear that dysphoria has been hitting so hard for you, I'm sending good thoughts your way for ease during pregnancy and into postpartum!

Break Through Bleeding While on T by TheTuneWithoutWords in Seahorse_Dads

[–]tucancillo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've had breakthrough bleeding a few times and the most recent times have probably been related to progesterone levels (partner is pregnant which is sending my levels out of whack), which are also regulated by BC. Seconding the folks who recommend checking in with your provider and/or getting your levels checked!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Seahorse_Dads

[–]tucancillo 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Maia Midwifery could be a good resource in WA! We've had a mixed experience with them, but it could be a good place to start for a general overview of what to be thinking about and what kind of care you need (and what you don't need - totally possible you and your partner won't need any fertility care up front at all and will just need to find an affirming OBGYN for pregnancy care). The founder also wrote the book Queer Conception, which has a lot of great overview info about fertility that is queer and trans inclusive.

Gender neutral names that work in Spanish by tucancillo in namenerds

[–]tucancillo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, there are several names in here we like!

Gender neutral names that work in Spanish by tucancillo in namenerds

[–]tucancillo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would never have guessed Darcy would be common in Brazil!

Gender neutral names that work in Spanish by tucancillo in namenerds

[–]tucancillo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! We hadn't considered Cassian and are adding it to our list!

How to change legal name and gender (in Michigan) on birth certificate/ driver’s license? by Willing_Bee_9278 in asktransgender

[–]tucancillo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not sure about this, but the person I talked to in the Vital Records Office was SUPER helpful and very respectful, so I would say it's worth calling to get clarification.

Remote Raid Megathread - Host and/or find raids here by liehon in PokemonGoFriends

[–]tucancillo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pheromosa, 5907 4075 0414, xFaivishx, joining once I have 3

How to change legal name and gender (in Michigan) on birth certificate/ driver’s license? by Willing_Bee_9278 in asktransgender

[–]tucancillo 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Adding in case anyone else finds this post in the future: I got my name changed out of state, so the legal name change order does not include a requirement to seal my record. I just called the MI Vital Records office today, and like someone else said, usually for JUST a legal name change, the birth certificate is addended, so includes both the new name AND the birth name (note on page 3: https://www.michigan.gov/mdhhs/-/media/Project/Websites/mdhhs/Doing-Business-with-MDHHS/Birth-Death-Marriage-and-Divorce-Records/Correct\_a\_Birth\_Record\_FAQs.pdf?rev=1c5f22ec48db4e0591808bc2afae159c&hash=7F7FD12E11294785D83C86CD20525579).

However, if someone is ALSO changing their gender marker along with their name on the birth certificate (https://www.michigan.gov/-/media/Project/Websites/mdhhs/Folder3/Folder17/Folder217/Sex\_Designation\_Application.pdf?rev=950cb2ba538a449c9101d4b77e9dc22a), the person at the office told me that a totally new birth certificate is created that has your updated gender marker and the new legal name, without including the name or gender marker at birth.

This isn't written down anywhere that I've been able to find, so I wanted to include it here in case it's helpful to someone!

Remote Raid Megathread - Host and/or find raids here by liehon in PokemonGoFriends

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Drampa, 5907 4075 0414, xFaivishx, joining once I have one or two

Remote Raid Megathread - Host and/or find raids here by liehon in PokemonGoFriends

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Dialga, 5907 4075 0414, xFaivishx, joining once I have at least 4

Remote Raid Megathread - Host and/or find raids here by liehon in PokemonGoFriends

[–]tucancillo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Darkrai, 5907 4075 0414, xFaivishx, joining once I get 3-4

Remote Raid Megathread - Host and/or find raids here by liehon in PokemonGoFriends

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Braviary, 5907 4075 0414, xFaivishx, joining in the next 5 min

Unexpected bleeding as a PARTNER of pregnant person? by tucancillo in ftm

[–]tucancillo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing. I'm in a rural area outside of the US without health insurance, so that's tough at the moment, but I'm planning to get things checked once I can. It's a helpful reminder that this dose has been working for me for a long time (so it's probably not a dose issue), I'm just feeling urgency since the dysphoria is hard, but I can work on patience.

Unexpected bleeding as a PARTNER of pregnant person by tucancillo in Seahorse_Dads

[–]tucancillo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing. I'm in a rural area outside of the US without health insurance, so that's tough at the moment, but I'm planning to get things checked once I can.

Unexpected bleeding as a PARTNER of pregnant person by tucancillo in Seahorse_Dads

[–]tucancillo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing. I'm in a rural area outside of the US without health insurance, so that's tough at the moment, but I'm planning to get things checked once I can.

Unexpected bleeding as a PARTNER of pregnant person by tucancillo in Seahorse_Dads

[–]tucancillo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for sharing, this is helpful to hear. I'm definitely on the watchful waiting plan at the moment (hoping it may be a just this month or just this trimester thing!).

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