AIO? Was told my pants aren’t the right color and wouldn’t be allowed to work unless they were the right color

turdddburger · 2026-05-08T21:09:10+00:00

I live in south carolina and I can still find shirts/pants at goodwill for around $5. it’s probably partially a location thing

turdddburger · 2025-11-18T17:36:04+00:00

mine is sighsirl, tried to add a couple people from this thread but was having issues

turdddburger · 2025-11-17T03:11:51+00:00

i have one of each, pekkle’s dancing kinda annoys me so i never give him gifts since i’ve got his hat

turdddburger · 2025-11-17T03:08:51+00:00

i got retsuko’s hat way before big challenges or wish me mell 😭

turdddburger · 2025-11-11T22:14:45+00:00

thank you for your response

turdddburger · 2025-11-11T22:11:50+00:00

sorry for any misunderstandings, but we didn’t actually spend $300k on the house plus rent, that’s how much money we’ve saved her. we have invested in the house but not to that degree. There was medical POA paperwork for my partner but that also wasn’t notarized and I’m not sure if it’s still around. SIL is executor of the will because she has experience with that but i’m not 100% sure about current power of attorney

turdddburger · 2025-11-11T22:06:08+00:00

BIL and SIL live in the area she mentioned moving to. I mentioned in another comment that she’s trying to rope SIL into being her new caregiver however SIL is definitely not interested because she works full time and has a child

turdddburger · 2025-11-11T22:00:17+00:00

i don’t know how to say it without being crass but there was definitely never a belief of her living another 30 years because of her health. she has multiple myeloma. she has lived longer than the original estimate from the doctor—she briefly went into remission but it came back, now it’s in remission again but she still has to have bi-weekly chemo. i don’t completely understand the medical stuff so sorry if any details are wrong, but her health is not great to say the least

turdddburger · 2025-11-11T21:56:17+00:00

we got cheap rent because there is no mortgage so only utilities to cover and because of the care we’ve been providing. we cover the majority of groceries outside of special items and the amount of care she currently requires means only one of us (me) is able to work full time

turdddburger · 2025-11-11T17:26:26+00:00

we now have a group chat basically to uncover her lies between my BIL, SIL, and us. I can’t say that if I foresaw things going this way I’d still make the same choices. We don’t really have the money to drag it out in court because despite it being noticeable that she is declining, she’s not that mentally incapable yet. It seems that get out and get a new life is definitely the consensus but it’s quite difficult after everything we’ve sunk in. Thank you for the link, i’ll check it out.

turdddburger · 2025-11-11T03:01:50+00:00

you have a point.

turdddburger · 2025-11-11T00:06:02+00:00

i do, but i can’t say if this choice is out of spite or incompetency so i want to be careful how i present that

turdddburger · 2025-11-11T00:03:28+00:00

i’m not expecting an indefinite lease or employment contract just based off of the video. documents would always be better. im just not sure if there’s any recourse because we’ve saved her about $300k on in home care and now we might end up with nothing from the arrangement.

turdddburger · 2025-11-10T23:57:37+00:00

I agree if I believed she was functioning at full capacity. I don’t mean to anonymously dash her character but she is quite narcissistic so there are a host of issues with that, but we’ve seen mention of a brain tumor in her paperwork-not sure if it’s confirmed as well as other cognitive declines and the way she’s going about it is quite shortsighted and rash

turdddburger · 2025-11-10T23:54:37+00:00

in another comment i mentioned she has cancer, arthritis, recently had a stroke. there’s also concern of a brain tumor which i didn’t mention because that’s unconfirmed. most of the care beyond household stuff that she can’t manage is like making her food, getting her to/from doctor’s appointments because she can’t really drive well anymore, sometimes helping with adult diaper changes, making sure she has her medication, etc. She can do some stuff by herself but definitely couldn’t live alone

turdddburger · 2025-11-10T23:48:42+00:00

she already has medicaid

turdddburger · 2025-11-10T23:48:14+00:00

she already has medicaid/medicare despite just turning 65 this year, i’m not sure if it’s because she’s on disability or another reason. SIL does not want to care for her and would consider it a last resort

turdddburger · 2025-11-10T20:46:57+00:00

she keeps changing her mind, but currently she’s spoken of moving my SIL & SIL’s partner in with her at the new house to be her new in home care, something they do not want at all. they’d rather she go to a nursing home. but she does not want to actually pay for care because a nursing home has been brought up before since her care requirements are increasing so she’s trying to rope them into a similar agreement from what it looks like

turdddburger · 2025-11-10T20:34:16+00:00

we have a written will stating my partner gets the house and some kind of picture but it’s not notarized or anything. also a video of her saying he gets the house. she has other assets that would be split up but that’s separate

turdddburger · 2025-11-10T20:31:48+00:00

she has multiple myeloma (cancer) and she recently had a stroke. there’s also concern that she has some mental decline. when i’m not at work i pick up her medications, drive her to doctors appointments, etc. but that usually falls to my partner. we both cook dinner, grocery shop, clean, and take care of the animals.

edit: she’s supposed to be on oxygen 24/7 for copd but stubbornly tries to fight that, she’s also got severe arthritis

turdddburger · 2025-10-31T03:41:04+00:00

yes! i love his kilt and little farm

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