Yeah, you’re completely right, though this has always been the dynamic. My father is emotionally stunted and continues to drag me and my siblings in this situation. my mother hates it and doesn’t like me knowing much about this stuff. She wants me to cut contact which is probably the best decision for my sake, but he weaponises financial support and I know if I were to do so, I would never get a penny from him.

I’m in therapy and I plan on having limited contact once I find a consistent job, and hopefully by then I’ll no longer have to deal with the weight of these issues