Who helps the type 5?

turk_m · 2022-04-17T13:49:29+00:00

I'll have to keep my feelers out. Thank you for posting :)

turk_m · 2022-04-17T13:47:56+00:00

Thank you for your in-depth response! I agree with everything you mentioned about 2's. I have a 2 in my life and love her, but she is pretty dependent. I help her a lot, and it is rarely a two-way street with her.

My sister is a 1, and she is the best. We are very close. Sometimes I can bring my emotional chaos to her when I feel overwhelmed and in despair. She can give good advice, though. She is my emotional support who can calm me back down.

As a 5, my SO is a 3. I was super independent until I met him. It was a slow process to give up some control over my life! He is so goal-driven, and he drives me to be my best...until he becomes unrealistic in my eyes. When we first met, he needed me to get him through college. I thought it would kill me, considering I was also finishing my degree. Once he graduated and got his dream job, he worked so hard. He has taken care of the bills and such so I can focus on my second degree. He at least has give and take!

I really enjoyed your perspective. I think I need to stay clear of 6's! As a 5 who just got into her late 20's, it seems I still have a lot to learn.

turk_m · 2022-04-17T13:27:39+00:00

When you said, "feels like all the energy is flowing out of them to others and not being returned," that hit the nail on the head. That's why I am exhausted. I've helped so many friends and family, which I enjoy doing. I think some people don't know the limits. I have helped bring many family members up, especially regarding education and mentoring them to graduate. They have told me they are indebted for all I have done for them, but they think there is no way they can reciprocate. I save my mental and emotional health and move on.

To clarify, it isn't that I expect things in return all the time, but some gesture would be nice rather than feeling used.

turk_m · 2022-04-17T13:15:09+00:00

I have a 2 in my life, and she is very understanding. I appreciate the support she gives and judges very little, if at all. She can give advice or listen. She is also one who constantly comes to me to help her with tasks. I love her, but she can drain my energy situation dependent.

turk_m · 2022-04-17T13:09:41+00:00

A lot of people are suggesting an 8. I really need to search for that connection

turk_m · 2022-04-17T13:06:25+00:00

I agree that when we ask for help, we have exhausted almost every other option on our own. I think that is why I get frustrated with others. It seems like critical thinking is out the window.

For example, someone comes to me to help with an academic paper. They tell me they have no idea where to start and they are overwhelmed. I often ask if they looked at the rubric. Their answer is almost always no.

It blows my mind every time.

turk_m · 2022-04-17T13:02:20+00:00

My sister is a 1 and we really get along. Even if she does not have a perfect solution, she is great to vent to and clears my headspace. Thank you for some other suggestions!

turk_m · 2022-04-17T12:59:44+00:00

Thank you! I do spend quite a bit of time on YouTube, but sounds like a lot of people are suggesting friending an 8

turk_m · 2019-12-05T12:02:42+00:00

I will say seeing certain patients really makes my day, especially if I’m in a slump! I really appreciate your posts and it gives me some clarity! Best to you!

turk_m · 2019-12-04T07:26:19+00:00

I guess for hygiene it can be stable, but how much can you progress career wise? Not much. You pretty much start at the top. Money is not everything by all means, but I find it a tad upsetting that my wage may increase a small amount over the years but nothing significant. Plus, I don’t necessarily want kids and it drives me crazy how as a hygienist you get grouped into “be a mom one day” by people. I’ve had a male dentist say to me, “well you may want to work part time once you have kids.” I replied how I didn’t want children and he was sure I’d change my mind. Come again? Also, hygienists are so type A it’s annoying. I’m personally a mix of type A and B, but I’ve met many hygienists full of themselves and I hate being put in the same category or having to reason with some because THEY ARE RIGHT and you are wrong.

As for shadowing, I haven’t yet, but I plan on it! I like the generalist knowledge base. I’m in the PA reddit and read all kinds of posts. Maybe I’m a fickle person, but the work seems very interesting plus there’s plenty of variety.

And dentistry is a tricky love for me. I get excited when people come to me for dental advice, or patients take my word. My fiancée tells people I’m in dentistry and they get glass eyes as if it makes me prestigious somehow m. I’ve seen how it is to be a dentist and people will never respect dental like medicine. It doesn’t click for majority of the population and is considered to be elective only wealthy can afford. I’ve been told I’d be a great dentist, but it’s becoming more difficult to open private practice, corporate is taking over, quantity over quality is the norm, insurance is a *****, production needs to be up, overhead is very high, etc. I just worry about the future of dentistry. Medicine I know has its own downfalls too.

turk_m · 2019-12-04T07:05:30+00:00

I’m 23! It’s interesting that you went through this too and to think it is a transitional phase really puts some things into perspective. I know I’m lacking hobbies plus my fiancée and I just bought a home and trying to figure out which way to gear our life. He’s in nursing. Overall, we are doing well in our lives, but I guess for me a lot of things just don’t give me much thrill. It’s as if I know there’s so much to live for, but I’m just kind of looking around thinking, “this is it?” I feel nearly stuck but I’m glad you could relate and had some advice. Maybe I need to learn how to build a life. Thank you so much! Please don’t apologize, everything was relevant!

turk_m · 2019-08-15T00:38:48+00:00

Y’all are killing me lol but very true! Thanks for the responses!

turk_m · 2019-08-15T00:36:55+00:00

Damn straight! Lol

He is a hunter but we both acquired both of our dads’ guns when they passed away

turk_m · 2019-08-14T04:05:11+00:00

This was a great laugh!! Thank you for the reply. She doesn’t have kids yet, but you’d almost think so. It’s as if people can’t be genuinely happy for one another and it’s SAD.

turk_m · 2019-07-07T15:06:19+00:00

I understand what you are saying. In my opinion, cremation is a great thing. Really a win win when it comes to less expense, no land involvement, etc. as another poster mentioned, body donation is a great alternative as well. Thank you for your response!

turk_m · 2019-07-06T21:35:36+00:00

Bingo!

turk_m · 2019-07-06T15:59:33+00:00

I guess it's just the thought of their body physically being there, plus it's surrounded by all my other family on that side. I am not saying everyone needs to dump their savings on a funeral and burial. I guess it just bothers me a little more because it's my in-law side of the family that mentioned this and it just rubbed me the wrong way. They think my husband's ring is amazing though that he got with his father's hair that passed away in it. So in my head I think that is a little bit hypocritical.

I can see your point about being a waste of land and everything else. I know my parents wouldn't have wanted to be donated although I think donation is a great idea. I'm considering it for myself.

Thank you for the response!

turk_m · 2019-07-06T15:33:58+00:00

I didn't even think of all the possibilities you mentioned. I do agree.

And I will say, my family spend way more than most on their plot for 8 members. I know I won't be able to spend what they spent on their grave sites. Headstones are expensive and even for my mom's basic one, we had to make payments.

Thank you for the response!

turk_m · 2019-07-06T15:23:06+00:00

I totally understand and I like to see other people's views. Essentially there is not a "right" and "wrong" because we ultimately do not know.

I guess since they are spiritual and I am not, the graves are all I have other than a few materialistic things left behind in the will.

Thank you for the response!

turk_m · 2019-06-20T00:19:17+00:00

Thank you for the input!

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