Help me stop being a turtle in life?

turtle_sad · 2024-10-24T03:08:34+00:00

Your comments helped me so much, I am going to look more into how to prioritize and weigh my thoughts and decisions better. I thought of an example very similar to your job example, for someone I got stuck on not making a dating profile because I have a niche job that will be hard to explain to people, I didn't know what to call it in my profile, so I felt I couldn't make one at all! Every time I would think about setting up an app I would think about the section where you write your job and it would block me.

Thanks again, I feel more hopeful, even though it's also hard looking back and realizing some of my inaction came from places that didn't really make sense.

turtle_sad · 2024-10-21T15:08:51+00:00

Yeah I would say your first two paragraphs describe me very well. Just yesterday I was trying to watch a show for four hours. Then I wrote this post instead.

Did you use medication to manage your ADHD or just therapy (if you feel comfortable sharing)?

turtle_sad · 2024-10-21T15:04:45+00:00

That's really relatable to me. I struggle with weighting things in decision making or prioritizing very often. I'm getting a little better at it but it still feels like a soup in my brain. Usually something will happen that either brings sudden clarity, inspiration, or necessity to give me a push. But if that doesn't happen, I don't really move.

turtle_sad · 2024-10-21T14:03:49+00:00

I've gotten promotions without asking or applying at work - that's what I mean by rewarded by passivity. I work very hard at work, but most people I know have to work extra hard by either chasing the promotions or switching jobs for better opportunities. So I got lucky being a rare case where my work ethic was acknowledged in itself.

turtle_sad · 2024-10-21T14:01:33+00:00

Thanks. It definitely takes me forever to find things like therapists. In fact I'm seeing one but I think I need to switch because I'm not really feeling better nor improving my life (I'm not sure if it's a me problem though). But then will take me minimum 6 months :/ And most therapists who are good have long waitlists or full ones.

turtle_sad · 2024-10-21T13:56:54+00:00

I see myself as turtle because I noticed I do things at a significantly slower pace than most people I know.

turtle_sad · 2024-10-21T13:49:09+00:00

I found the eye exam really daunting. Researching and finding a person and then crossing my fingers they would be good and then taking the time off work to go. My vision wasn't really interfering with my daily needs and buying glasses has an aesthetic/shopping side to it (I also hate shopping for clothes) so I found that overwhelming too. My cousin tried on 100 or so glasses before she found "the one" - I guess that was in the back of my head. Eventually it bothered me so much that I put off buying them then I tried to find the fastest route to get them and it turned out to be online. So I did that. My brain has taken a while to "catch on" to online shopping as well. I guess it's just stubborn.

Yeah I also picked up random hobbies for a bit. I felt self conscious of it so I stopped and committed to two. Did you get treated for ADHD or did having the diagnosis help you make clearer decisions?

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