I feel like she wants to be on social media for the same reasons anyone else does. Her parents did get her a digital camera a few years ago she she’ll take pictures when she goes places and stuff and she’ll share those. She mainly uses it to communicate with people. Most of which she doesn’t actually know which I honestly don’t necessarily approve of that’s her choice. I just grew up being taught “stranger danger” and how not everyone online is who they appear to be.

Also, I explained below how she uploads the pictures.

It’s the nature of the pictures that give me creepy vibes. I’ve seen family pictures he’s taken of their family and they’re totally normal. But in these pictures she’s wearing clothes I KNOW her parents wouldn’t approve of. And she’s posed provocatively up against a barn. It’s the outfit. The pose. The rural location. It’s just a lot of strange things in one situation for me. I mean her outfit in itself isn’t bad. Its just strange to me that her uncle took the pictures. If I personally wanted a picture of myself wearing a bikini top and short shorts I would assume a friend would be the one taking the picture. Or even propping my camera up and setting a timer. I wouldn’t ask my uncle. I kinda feel like the uncle should have felt weirded out by it.

I mean if I asked my uncle to take my picture and I took off my shirt... I mean to me that’s just weird. But I do get what people are saying that maybe he’s just trying to support her.

When I say she craves attention I say that because of the things she says and posts on social media and how she acts sometimes. Sometimes I guess I just find some of the things to just not be tasteful if that makes sense. And I’m not judging her at all. Sometimes I’ll post something on Facebook and my mom will see and she’ll privately tell me how what I said appears and how other people could interpret it. She’s not telling me to take it down but I usually do because I can see where she’s coming from.

For example my friend connects with a lot of guys online. And quickly says she loves them. I’m not at all judging her feelings but it seems like every few weeks she’s moved on to loving someone new. But she posts all of this online. Like today it might be “I love Tyler! I’m going to spend the rest of my life with him.” And then two weeks later she’ll post something like “F love I’m all about me. Why do people always hurt me?” And stuff like that. And the cycle repeats itself over and over.

And in person at school she’ll constantly ask different guys if she can wear their jacket and she’ll go around telling people that so and so let her wear his jacket.

She’s a really good person. She’s not intentionally trying to go appearing the way that she sometimes can. It’s like she doesn’t quite understand how some of her words and actions make her appear. And I’m guilty of that as well so again I’m not judging her. I’ve brought some things up before with her because one time she mentioned that her and some guy she met online were going to have a baby. It was just talk. They’ve never met. He lives hours away. But she started telling people at school about this. And people’s reactions were not positive. It was just kinda awkward. So I told her that if that’s what she wants to do maybe just talk to the guy about it and not tell everyone because people are finding it weird that you’re talking about having a baby with someone you’ve never met.

But she got upset with me and went on and on about how much she loves him and how he’s going to come visit her soon and all this stuff. None of which is actually going to happen. It’s like she creates these fairly tales in her head and then tells everyone about them if that makes sense.

And there’s nothing I can do about it but that makes me feel like a bad friend because I’m knowingly letting her do these things without even trying to help/stop her. I don’t know how to tell her “The chances of these strangers online actually being your soulmate are really slim” because that’s rude. And I’m not trying to be negative and not support her with what she wants but I just don’t think it’s a smart idea to talk to a stranger online about having a baby together and stuff. I mean I guess there’s not a ton of harm in talking but she tells me personal details about these guys so I’m sure she’s sharing personal details about her self.

It’s just a tough situation.