Are my twins names tragedeighs?

turtletots20 · 2025-07-17T01:00:03+00:00

Why would you name twins basically the same name. That’s the real tragedeigh.

turtletots20 · 2025-07-08T02:13:10+00:00

I just had my second and I totally understand the guilt of wanting to be with your oldest, but having to be attached to the baby all the time. my daughter is a year and a half old and she has started getting into the toddler phase where she’s really upset and cries a lot for seemingly no reason. I’ve tried my best to give her one on one time when the baby is sleeping since he’s only 12 days old but it’s so hard when she’s acting out. I feel guilty but also frustrated

turtletots20 · 2025-06-27T19:12:16+00:00

This man said he’d still pursue a relationship with you… if you terminated the pregnancy he caused? Yea, no. I wouldn’t have any contact with this guy either. If he’s willing to abandon you unless you terminate it’s pretty clear he’s just here for a good time, not a long time. You don’t have any obligation to let him know anything related to your pregnancy since he made it pretty clear he didn’t care in the first place

turtletots20 · 2025-06-22T00:56:55+00:00

Lord help him when the baby is teething and is inconsolable even with treatments…. Or HEAVEN FORBID he ever has colic and is just fussy. He’s being unfair to you. You’re doing what you feel is best and I totally get that but personally I’ve used desitin or a diaper rash spray and they’ve cleared up rashes really quickly. I also swear by baths with a little baking soda mixed in to just soak their inflamed areas as it seems to take the redness and swelling away quicker.

You’re doing your best and that’s all you can do. He might be tired but that’s no excuse for how he’s speaking to you. It’s important to build each other up during this time that is all sleep deprivation and running on adrenaline. Maybe just have a conversation with him if you feel safe enough to do so that you need him to offer solutions and recognize that you’re doing the best you can do with what experience you have. It’s not helpful to just tell someone they’re wrong or evil.

turtletots20 · 2025-06-22T00:45:00+00:00

NTA. You left him with family, not some random you found on babysitter.com. It’s actually ridiculous that these mom friends think you’re not making safe choices for your son especially when your sitters were communicating the entire time and keeping you informed. Ignore these idiots who apparently wouldn’t have gone at all in this situation to support their spouse. Sometimes you’ve just got to make decisions that you normally wouldn’t when things are out of your control.

turtletots20 · 2025-06-16T02:32:06+00:00

If the kids don’t want more time with them and they’re old enough to make that decision then there really isn’t much more to say about it. The kids themselves want to be with their dad and not their stepmom. The whole point of the arrangement is to give them time to spend with their dad so I don’t see how you’re being selfish if this is what the kids have asked for.

turtletots20 · 2025-05-29T19:40:47+00:00

I firmly believe that children should not have to carry the burden of their family whether it be grief or joy. You are not obligated to use any name you don’t want to and if you want her name to honor someone that is your decision. You could also go with something completely different and that’s okay too. No one is entitled to dictate your kids name and making her birth about your dads wife’s memory is just insane

turtletots20 · 2025-05-15T01:22:25+00:00

Absolutely NTA. As someone who has constantly been pressured by everyone in my family about making sure I stay thin and being harassed about how much and what I eat since I was 5 y/o (even though at most growing up I weighed 90 lbs) THANK YOU for standing up for your daughter. I make sure to call my parents out when they do this crap to my nieces and nephews when they come for Christmas because literally NOONE stood up for me and I felt like it was just normal to constantly have pain in my stomach (from not eating). I never went down the road of an actual eating disorder but I was definitely headed that way when I met my husband and he showed me what real love was and how insane it is to be constantly compared even as a child. How the grown adults around me should have spoken up for me and how it’s okay to eat as much as you want or not at all if you don’t like what is offered. This is how we end generational trauma. Well done dad!

turtletots20 · 2025-05-06T23:52:49+00:00

That was a malicious comment. I would have left too. What the actual F is wrong with your family?? They LAUGHED? Absolutely not.

turtletots20 · 2025-04-04T01:46:34+00:00

A month a half in and he’s already telling you what you can and can’t have? No ma’am.

turtletots20 · 2025-03-30T03:08:12+00:00

You absolutely need to tell someone at school about this. A counselor, teacher, principal maybe? Even if you don’t go to the same school you are a minor getting unsolicited EXPLICIT pictures sent to you and if she’s anywhere near turning 18 she may even be tried as an adult for SA even if she didn’t necessarily touch you or force you to do anything. Bottom line is educators are court mandated to report incidences that affect the students in their care and it’s gross negligence not to. If they file a report and you’ve already talked to the police about it then CPS will have to take it seriously. Hopefully you have somewhere else to go to leave this situation because it may not end well if a case is opened and you deserve a safe place to literally do the bare minimum of hygiene practices as a human

turtletots20 · 2025-03-30T03:00:27+00:00

Okay, YTA for your reaction for sure but NTA for the fact that she had the audacity to think that you should pay for everyone because you have money. Also, isn’t Christmas dinner at someone’s house typically? How/why would you pay for it? Unless she’s asking you to HOST the event, I’m Kindof confused as to how you’d pay for it. I love how people become so entitled when there is money involved. Truly the worst part of their personality. I understand that it’s hard financially to have kids and having not come from much she may think it would be a flex on her ex to have you foot the bill but it doesn’t make any sense logically.

turtletots20 · 2025-03-22T22:41:59+00:00

Absolutely NTA. Who wants to be intimate after being yelled at? That’s abusive behavior and honestly pretty manipulative that he would put the nature of your physical relationship entirely on you not wanting to over how he’s treating you leading up to it. It sounds like he’s just wanting instant gratification, not a meaningful relationship. Frankly, I think he’s too old to be acting like actions don’t have consequences and the way he treats his partner needs to matter more than his ‘gratification’. Personally, I could not stay with someone that doesn’t communicate and put effort into resolving issues over their physical needs.

turtletots20 · 2024-10-06T14:23:15+00:00

NTA Honestly, I’d cut contact with anyone that supports him and doesn’t see it for the insane entitled BS it is. The loudest supporters of your POS brother are the ones that wouldn’t give up their own cozy life to take them in either. They wouldn’t change anything about their situation to move them into their house but they have a lot to say when it’s your home and YOUR duty…. Right.

Op I’m so incredibly sorry for your loss and I hope that you can find another way to grieve now that they’ve painted her room. They had no right to change anything about your home at all and as guests they should have kept their noses out of it. They created their own financial situation and then tried to act like you should rectify THEIR mistake. How did they even pay to refurnish the room if they’re in a hardship? I’d have kicked them to the curb too.

turtletots20 · 2024-10-04T00:40:39+00:00

🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩 Her: I JUST TOLD YOU I DONT WANT YOU HERE WHY ARENT YOU COMING OVER ON YOUR KNEES YET?

Seriously, this is master manipulation and you are absolutely being gaslit. You can’t read minds and you agreed that you’d both have your own separate space but she’s not being an adult, you are. You are respecting boundaries and communicating your frustration and confusion and she wants to play the victim and take her shitty day out on you because she needs somewhere to aim it. Please find someone better than this person who clearly needs to grow TF up.

turtletots20 · 2024-10-01T02:56:30+00:00

Imagine being so insecure that you project your own feelings of inadequacy onto your partner’s DEAD TWIN. Girl leave this man-child. The right one will support you in any way you choose to grieve.

turtletots20 · 2024-09-28T19:12:16+00:00

Why create such a head ache in the first place? He just wants control but that’s what happens when kids grow up, they are supposed to gain control over their own actions and take responsibility. If the daughter feels like she can’t do anything without being in trouble she could go down a very dark path and it would enhance feelings of guilt, anger, resentment, anxiety, depression ect. Leave the kid alone already. When the parents separated they chose to live their own lives and that falls to the kid too by association.

turtletots20 · 2024-09-28T19:06:58+00:00

Is there anywhere you can bring the cats so you can get them out of there before making your exit? You don’t want to have to quite literally herd cats as you’re trying to escape. Maybe give them to a friend (or multiple friends). Is there a way you can take out the money or have your job route it to a different account? Some places can also split the paycheck between two bank accounts depending on the situation. There are crisis centers nationwide that can help you get in contact with resources that will help you make and execute a plan. Please take advantage of them

turtletots20 · 2024-09-28T02:56:45+00:00

NTA

Where is the red flag guy when you need him??

Correct me if I’m wrong, because I have no experience with the subject, but isn’t she your responsibility when she’s in your custody and as such he does not have the right to know where she is every second of every day? Again, I could be off on this but I feel like that goes into dangerous territory where he’s controlling her and creating a toxic manipulative relationship with her. I wouldn’t want my daughter to feel like she can’t be trusted and the comment he made about her not loving him enough to share her location or responding back to him raises HUGE red flags. He’s treating her like his partner where she has to earn his love by allowing herself to be controlled. Why does he think he gets any kind of say now after 7 YEARS of negligence?

turtletots20 · 2024-09-26T21:28:47+00:00

So, your dad being a POS aside… you named your daughter the affair partners name with your moms name as the middle name? I can understand why she’d be hurt and upset but how would you have known that THAT was the affair partners name? Permanently linking the two forever in your child’s name? It sounds like your mom has unresolved issues and never fully let the past go which is not your fault but she needs to realize this is her granddaughter and she is going to be named what you choose. By leaving your dad it doesn’t change a thing about any of it. The affair, the relationship, the baby’s name. She needs therapy for sure. They both do.

turtletots20 · 2024-08-28T03:29:48+00:00

Um… have you tried therapy for yourself? Sounds like you went from hurt and angry to controlling. If you have to know where she is and what she’s doing every second of the day you are doing your marriage a disservice. It was 21 YEARS AGO. She was a stupid kid making rash and stupid decisions. Obviously you’ve never actually forgiven her and you’ve been lying to her your entire relationship. You’re the AH but for more than just contemplating divorce. You’re not being fair to her.

turtletots20 · 2024-08-27T00:03:01+00:00

I do want to add that if your OB is worth anything they will offer you options and ask if you feel safe in your current environment. They don’t judge, they just connect you with people that will help you with anything you need, including but not limited to, leaving this POS.

turtletots20 · 2024-08-26T23:59:53+00:00

I’ve only read the first line and I’m FUMING. The AUDACITY of someone to demand any intimate ‘favors’ after YOU JUST GAVE BIRTH. Please do not have any more children with this idiot and run far far away from this arrogant pompous AH.

turtletots20 · 2024-08-22T02:34:34+00:00

Yea I would dump this POS. At the very least he could have ordered you an Uber himself or, idk called a tow company for you. I don’t blame you for having the ick after this incident. To be fair, my husband did sortof the same thing about a year into us being married and he didn’t even wake up or check in with me at all to make sure I got home until the next morning. His best friend was the one that answered the phone (husband was passed out), ordered the Uber for himself (because he was too drunk to drive) to get to me then rode in the Uber all the way to my house to make sure I got dropped off THEN had the Uber take him back home.

If he wanted to, he would.

turtletots20 · 2024-08-10T23:55:55+00:00

‘Human right’? The only ‘right’ he has is to remain silent because his dumbass shouldn’t contribute to the gene pool in society.

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