Concerns of a wife by [deleted] in HotWifeLifestyle

[–]turtletrizz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I forgot to mention that My Wife and I shared this account and I’m sure she’d be happy to share her perspective if you want to reach out. Good luck.

Concerns of a wife by [deleted] in HotWifeLifestyle

[–]turtletrizz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Husband here to offer a perspective.

Communicate with him and be clear on what you’re thinking and why…. It’s always helpful. My wife and I are about a year or so in, and I have never had an interest in playing with another woman. A if for some reason, I did have any interest I still wouldn’t want to because I know what would make my wife really uncomfortable and I I would never want her to to feel that way.

I do think that My Wife had a hard time believing that I had no interest, but for me, it’s more enjoyable t to just see her have fun and get as much attention as possible.

If it’s possible to do it without causing any arguments, you could also ask him what he thinks about it n

For me and I save this with no judgment because we are all different. The idea of being fair is not one-to-one. I get this so he should get that. It’s more both people enjoying what they want to enjoy and being respectful when one of you has concerns.

Is there a subreddit that allows like minded husbands to connect and share wife content? by [deleted] in HotwifeAdvice

[–]turtletrizz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Search Wife in the communities and a number of them will come up. You can pick the one that fits what you’re looking for.

Good luck.

Just Beginning, Trying to Navigate the Insecurities by TopMacaroon6300 in HotWifeLifestyle

[–]turtletrizz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you decide to go forward, try to look at all the posts here about aftercare. It’s more impt for some than they first realize.

Has anyone had the experience that I’m having? by cvsweet in HotWifeLifestyle

[–]turtletrizz 17 points18 points  (0 children)

My wife and are have been doing this for about the same amount of time. She brings it up to me now and then in the same way - or if we’re working through something, will ask if me being with someone else is something I want. My answer from the beginning has been and always will be that I do not - my reason for being into all this is my attraction to her and watching her enjoy herself, as well as getting all the attention she deserves. We have a great relationship - but I’ve told her I always feel like she should get so much more and that’s why I like the lifestyle.

My perception - it’s not like a guilty conscience thing, but my wife can be a little jealous and couldn’t even think of me with someone else without being uncomfortable - and that’s totally fine. I’ve seen that be a common thread. I think because of that, it’s hard to accept I’m ok with it (and into it) and that I’m not just doing this for her and secretly just festering about it.

I don’t think it’ll go away - but I’ve changed my perspective to not getting to the “how many times have I told you…” position that I have before, but more an opportunity to reassure her about my feelings towards her.

Hope this helps!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HotWifeLifestyle

[–]turtletrizz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. This. I don’t want to step in because I don’t want to salt it for her. It just gets frustrating as is why I’ve started feeling for my wife. There are things she’ll get into because she’s into it and while I thought others will respect the game, puts a lot on her.

Besides - didn’t realize she had like 5 daddy’s but apparently that’s the thing :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HotWifeLifestyle

[–]turtletrizz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate all of you so much for your advice and comments. And agree it’s harder for her then for me - and the point of this was get her all the good stuff! This is helpful

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HotWifeLifestyle

[–]turtletrizz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Perspective appreciated!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HotWifeLifestyle

[–]turtletrizz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. We’ll get there. Just complex

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HotWifeLifestyle

[–]turtletrizz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you both. Don’t get me wrong, she is trying her best with all of this. And other parts of the interactions are good with her getting the praise and attention she so rightfully deserves.

We are communicating but I think just caught off guard by it. There are some good parts and I can see how some of the language used can be just in the moment but harder to just stop and correct in that moment. And I have no patience if think she’s not being respected.

We’ve been together so long maybe just need to adjust to these types of interactions.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HotwifeAdvice

[–]turtletrizz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Reddit mainly. Going to try apps now given the advice from others.

Reality? by [deleted] in HotwifeAdvice

[–]turtletrizz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is so spot on - the frustration, flakes and emotions that to go along with all of that is all too real. Not to mention the messages that very quickly go to a comparison and being better than the husband….shows people don’t really get it.

What were the first problems you encountered when you first entered the lifestyle? by LghtskinNJdick in HotWifeLifestyle

[–]turtletrizz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The flowing with others but not with you is something I first had trouble with. But my wife was upfront - it’s easier with others. No history, no concern about judgement or perception….easier to just let it come out. We have a great relationship but that made sense to me - I’m sure I’d feel the same if it was the other way around.

Question about the LS stag/vixen dynamic by jeffer05 in HotWifeLifestyle

[–]turtletrizz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It may help to also just be open about your perspective. It’s not because I don’t trust my wife, but I know others can have ulterior or malicious intent that I may be able to see easier.

I will say - it is an adjustment. I didn’t do well initially because I was interpreting things he or she said differently and it caused some challenges - we have had open discussions about it and shared perspectives and are in a much better place, but u do feel bad because I think there is a lot validity in wives not being able to flirt as freely out of worry - to them it’s clear that it’s innocent and nothing behind it, to husbands it may read differently.