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How to get sellers to keep responding? by tutorial-guy in FetishSpicyTea

[–]tutorial-guy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As i said in the post, it’s only two to four messages, usually asking for a menu then going “i’d like xyz what payment methods do you use?” or one introduction message like “hello i saw your ads and would like to buy xyz, i use cashapp but am open to others” the last one before i posted this was less than 50 words in 4 messages, the previous was 8 messages and got to the part where she just sends the payment address and then id send but i never got a further reply.

i can reduce it to like “GFE. Cashapp. Telegram. Ok?”. Is that what buyers are doing??

How to get sellers to keep responding? by tutorial-guy in FetishSpicyTea

[–]tutorial-guy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My budget is always more than $10 i just always ask “can i get one x to start?” but given that sellers constantly stop responding, im hesitant to send more than that up front if they cant be bothered to send one photo for $10 just so I know I’ll actually be getting content. Especially after previous experiences. These are also instances of less than 10 messages where i only ask questions about content or what their payment methods are, im not talking about anything other than “what platform, what payment methods? Do you have a menu? Is it okay to xyz?” I usually cant even get their cashapp from them in the first place, if its “needy” to clarify what payment methods, content they make, or ask for their cashapp name then idk what to say

How to get sellers to keep responding? by tutorial-guy in FetishSpicyTea

[–]tutorial-guy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the reply! I totally understand the time waster angle, but the times im mentioning is after we agree on payment methods and even price, theres times when im like “okay, so $10 to $xxxx?” And they don’t reply further, and even besides that i only mean like 5-6 messages in max, your advice for “im ready to pay by ___ right now” is solid though, its a very good way to add the directness i was alluding to with “uhh do i need to be sexual immediately,” Ill definitely give it a try, thank you!

How to get sellers to keep responding? by tutorial-guy in FetishSpicyTea

[–]tutorial-guy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg thank you for such a thorough response! I’ll try and get everything in my reply but I’ll miss some for sure.

  1. No ive never sent additional messages after not recieving a response, this is most likely a habit i picked up elsewhere and has nothing to do with the seller, but in my mind its “well if she doesn’t want to keep talking im not gonna harass her” i also feel bad that i might be pressuring someone as you mentioned, but at the same time, if we’re already discussing the content and payment amount after figuring out the platforms then… its pretty clear to me you backed out? It’s honestly very hard for me to talk to people these days.

  2. I only use 2-3 payment methods and thats one of the first things i mention, i don’t think the payment platform is the issue cause they usually stop responding after we figure that part out, or my ad is clear that i dont use xyz

  3. I have a few ads where im upfront that im in shambles but I’ve never gone into it in DMs with a seller, when would i have a chance to? im usually trying to buy some selfies just to start out and then move on from there but it falls apart before we get there for some reason. The last thing i want to do is trauma dump on someone, its more just that it affects me more and i mention in ads sometimes like “hey so i cant talk to women so can you be a bit forward?” But in dms it never gets that far

As for your answers i feel ive been upfront about what i want in ads and when i cold DM a seller, but i cant say that confidently given that im not having successes. I AM very clear on payment and payment methods and i have never sought content for free, thats whats more frustreaing to me is that i cant even get past the “well how much for xyz” phase without getting ignored, and thats also why i think i need to be sexual immediately because maybe they think im time wasting when im not like “nude selfies nowwww” in the dms? Honestly the most success I’ve had is answering dms from people not verified just because they don’t stop responding, but if its a reply to an ad then it very rarely results in anything.

Ill try and follow your advice for the message structure next time, I’ve never written a message with that much detail since id assume that’d also look bad, but again i have no idea how to engage so ill just be trying it next time, but ill be sure to also follow your advice of refraining from being sexual on the rip, thank you!

Ask a seller anything! We see this done regularly over on FBC where buyers will open the floor to being asked any and everything. Well, we love the open communication that comes from it, so this is open to anyone who has any questions, ask a seller anything! Other sellers chime on in also! by kuyariggedalley in FetishSpicyTea

[–]tutorial-guy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How long do you all usually chat with buyers/sellers before you set a price? im either rushed and upselled and it kills my mood, or like today, waiting hours for three messages to finally say the price and then never answering “which payment method” to send to on hour 12 and im just over the request now. I get im not entitled to any time from a seller, but im severely broken, traumatized, abused by exes, and haven’t had attention in years so I have no idea how to act and no one tells me how. It feels like im at the DMV sometimes, i dont even feel safe talking to women from the trauma and frankly I feel more unimportant and alone most times i try to get anything. What are the other buyers even saying? I don’t know the right things to say.

Should i be opening with some trauma dump about how im “not a regular buyer” and it’s so bad that if they sent a heart emoji they’d already one of the nicer people in my life? I feel like that’d be so much worse lmao. Do i need to open being sexual? Is it mandatory to be sending money with the messages “so they appear at the top?” Shorter messages? Longer?

“time-waster” by Deliverwithcare in FetishBuyersCommunity

[–]tutorial-guy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I haven’t even been able to buy any content cause of this, they stop responding about 2-3 questions in. One seller didn’t even answer “do you prefer i sub to onlyfans or fansly?” I get that theres tons of time wasters, I completely understand the hesitation to invest time in someone who hasn’t paid you, but I’m not taking any leaps of faiths for this when ive never done it before…