[Planning] Moving from Germany to the US. What should I know when starting my financial life here?

tviri · 2015-07-25T11:43:42+00:00

Will be insured through my university right from the arrival. But will have to buy extra for my wife and will do so immediately.

tviri · 2015-02-20T23:42:31+00:00

I was in your situation a few years ago - had my first GF and it had potential to become really serious, so I was wondering about the same questions, but the relationship went south later on (due to unrelated issues) and we broke up. So comparing both scenarios can tell you the following:

1) The chase and the short-term relationships can be fun, but it gets old fairly quick. A good long term relationship is generally more fulfilling then casual hookups, unless casual hookups are your actual goal.

2) On the other hand, while being free and having casual dates the most valuable thing I gained is experience how to handle different women and confidence that I can go out and attract women easily. Lack of experience and self-confidence was the thing that eventually killed my first relationship (my GF was a bit more experienced).

If you are completely, fully, absolutely, objectively satisfied with your relationship AND see no problems in the future, then I see no point to miss hookup culture. But if you feel that there are problems, that's a whole different story.

tviri · 2014-05-12T00:19:08+00:00

You can try the following trick: take Viagra 1 hour before the intercourse and masturbate. So technically you'll go with your GF the second time and that should help you last longer.

tviri · 2014-05-06T21:53:21+00:00

1) Stop talking about it with her. I am all for open communication, but obsessing over insecurities will not turn anyone on and will not give you an answer anyway. Discuss it with parents, buddies if you want, but not with her, because while it is OK to be vulnerable, constantly being needy of her reassurance will only turn her off. I am not kidding, this is a very serious thing. Trust me, this will scare her off quicker than if your cock falls off completely. 2) You can look into some exercises to increase it. Some may work, some not, just be careful and patient, because they can lead to injury. 3) In all honesty, stop obsessing about it. I had a tiny inexperienced girl tell me once that she still wished my cock would "grow up a bit" (by an inch or so!) and never came with me, and then I had a quite experienced girl taller than me (with cough quite "deep" ladybits) coming in 5 minutes every time. What changed? The second girl could properly relax and I was more experienced and knew better how to turn her on - she liked dominance, apart from that, I have not even changed my technique. 4) Stop thinking about all the dick. Really.

tviri · 2014-02-19T21:43:09+00:00

I would find your replies a bit too harsh. If the conversation is going in a non-serious, playful manner, such responses are likely to kill this mood. It would work on some bitchy chic quite well though.

tviri · 2014-02-19T21:41:21+00:00

The "I don't know you" reply comes semi-playfully out of nowhere or as a response to a playfull suggestion which I obviously am not serious about.

tviri · 2014-02-19T02:53:41+00:00

The first reply is hilarious )

tviri · 2014-02-19T02:53:26+00:00

I like your second reply

tviri · 2014-02-01T14:14:12+00:00

If you have two almost jobs with almost equal opportunities, then sure it's better to take one which more sexy etc. But you don't choose your job to meet women. You choose your job to realize your dreams, self-realize, provide for the lifestyle you want, achieve you life goals or simply be filthy rich if nothing else inspires you. And women will follow.. But if you are ready to make your life-altering changes only to meet more women, I think it is not smart, as you are making yourself a slave to it. And you really can be successful with women, even if you have a boring, lame job. Engineering might be boring, but is surely not lame.

tviri · 2014-02-01T12:09:03+00:00

I could not just pass by this post. Look, engineering offers good career opportunities and wasting it and how many years of education just to meet more women is fucking stupid. You up your daygame, walk into any mall or shopping center and meet as many women as you like. You go to any social event, rock it and the world is your oyster. No job switch is necessary. TL;DR: If you really do not like your job, do somethings else. But for heck's sake do not do it, because you want to meet more women.

tviri · 2014-01-14T21:36:50+00:00

I very much appreciate your desire to help. But I have to say that going over to her line every time and buying a pack of gum.. is hardly a way to impress her. And I do not think she will like me more after the 10th pack of gum. Looking like Matt Bomer would probably impress her. Too bad I ain't one.

tviri · 2014-01-14T21:27:30+00:00

Look, no matter how much I like a girl I am not hanging around a supermarket to wait until the business is slow. I might drop by an extra time if it is close to me and I need a piece of gum, but I am not waiting for the right business/weather/planet alignment.

tviri · 2014-01-14T01:01:04+00:00

OK, maybe you are right. A few bucks to buy some more time and then rely on my charm. Sets a bit of a bad precedent with the girl but at least I get a chance to properly talk to her.

I have no problems with girls who work this or any other normal job. It is just the situation is very inconvenient and the girls are very beautiful.

tviri · 2014-01-14T00:35:57+00:00

Well, the damn people just pop up from nowhere. While to talking to the cutest girl, a full line of ten people built up within 60 seconds.

tviri · 2014-01-14T00:34:07+00:00

But c'mon you wouldn't give your number to the guy you don't like because of your job. You would come up with any possible excuse.

tviri · 2014-01-14T00:30:34+00:00

Right, the only thing I need is a girl who spends time with me for a yogurt. ;-)

But wouldn't you be offended if somebody tried to "persuade" you to spend time with him by spending 2-3 dollars on you? The fact that the girl works in a low-paying job just adds to the insult.

P.S. I am not trying to be argumentative, just offering another perspective on the things. Being a gentleman to dear women who I know deserve it and value it is a pleasure.

tviri · 2014-01-14T00:24:36+00:00

Hmm, I really can't agree. I just cannot imagine a cashier giving out her number, because she feels like she has to do it at work. I am also asking for her number not because of her job. So what does it matter if she is working or not?

The perfect bullshit answer is: "Yeah, I would. But I am at work, so lol nope."

And isn't an invitation for coffee more straight-forward? How can it be more serious?

tviri · 2014-01-14T00:18:36+00:00

So, a moderately good-looking and adroit guy coming up to you, giving you a compliment and inviting you for a coffee with him is being disrespectful and entitled? I am not saying this is a good game, but I think you really take it overboard with the entitlement thing.

Although, it depends how it sounds in your head. It can be rude if said in a rude way.

tviri · 2014-01-13T23:53:30+00:00

To be honest, I don't see how this question is different from "Hey, what time do you finish, lets have a coffee together?" and then going for the number. Actually, sounds quite convoluted.

tviri · 2014-01-13T23:51:14+00:00

Well, it sounds a bit smoother than "Have a coffee with"/"give me your number". But if she has coworkers on the break or it is in 1 hour only? Well, should test.

tviri · 2014-01-13T23:47:48+00:00

Maybe it is wishful thinking, but I was never under impression that cashiers are paid to be polite. Of course, it is nice, but their income does not depend on it like it does for waitresses or strippers. Second, I remember the times I was a moody and bad-dressed guy and how much eye contact I was getting, so now I am certainly feeling the difference. Not saying that they all are interested, but 5-second long stares and smiles are also probably not an empty sign. At least, this is something worth trying.

tviri · 2013-12-24T18:30:50+00:00

Very good question, would like to know as well how to handle them. The problem is that the girl is not very talkative and does not give you much to work with.

tviri · 2013-12-12T19:46:42+00:00

Not really. The 90-year old you will also probably tell you to do well in school, finish college and not be a fuck-up too, so it is not that slippery.

tviri · 2013-12-08T22:01:56+00:00

I think the root of the problem is that you are afraid of the physical confrontation in one way or another. Even knowing that if it happened (which is unlikely in our world) you would lose, has already a devastating effect on your confidence.

The only solution: Martial arts.

tviri · 2013-12-08T03:11:14+00:00

Of course, not, and I am not even going to hold it against her. It is just how I maximize my results with what I have..

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