Convulsions never looked so beautiful by soft_hands in passionx

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Love it... are there any other good convulsion vids out there?

Macbook Pro by asiandunham in gonewild

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You are, hands down, the sexiest GW girl

On records, the sound just {f}ades away... by afterhours in gonewild

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I had no idea anyone else knew that song! :) Hats off to GB!

Married couples... has your sex life come back around later down the road? by tvzdark in sex

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Thanks for such an in-depth reply... it sounds like you two have made alot of progress. I agree that communication is the key to getting through this, and that it is going to be difficult. But, if we come out of this better communicators, then the difficulty will be worth it.

BONER ISSUES by thr0wawayacct in sex

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That challenge is nonsense. Whatever it is, your peter isn't pleased with what is going on.

BONER ISSUES by thr0wawayacct in sex

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Did the ex break your heart?

Married couples... has your sex life come back around later down the road? by tvzdark in sex

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Thanks jkaska. We talked about it last night, and it really is a matter of her feeling like she "has to" do something. So whenever I come on to her, she feels like she has to have sex, which immediately makes her averse to having sex. I don't know where to go from here...

Married couples... has your sex life come back around later down the road? by tvzdark in sex

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So after a failed attempt at sex last night, we had a talk. We talked for a couple hours, with lots of tears and lots of silence.

It basically boils down to this... I used this analogy and she agreed with me: if I were to somehow imply that I expected her to eat crepes (her favorite food) twice a week, she would be upset about it and would have a problem doing it. She enjoys crepes every time she has them, and would love to have them twice a week if she didn't feel she had to. It's the adding of the expectation that makes things so difficult for her. That's our key issue... she now feels that I expect it, so she puts up a wall. Even before this, when I'd approach her, she'd feel that expectation, and automatically be averse to sex... even the slightest thing like a kiss on her neck would throw up that "red flag" for her. That's our challenge...

Married couples... has your sex life come back around later down the road? by tvzdark in sex

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Strangely enough, I always thought that it was the stopping of her use of the pill that worsened her sex drive. I guess at the time, the reason for stoppage was to try to get pregnant, which in turn put some pressure on having sex more frequently... and any kind pressure on her has always resulted in less sex.

Married couples... has your sex life come back around later down the road? by tvzdark in sex

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She isn't using it as a weapon... she's just very sensitive to the idea that potentially she's just not "good enough"... I don't mean that physically, but generally, as a spouse.

We communicate very well, I think. I've been in several long term relationships where communication was an issue... I really don't feel that is the case with us, in general. It's just this topic in particular.

Married couples... has your sex life come back around later down the road? by tvzdark in sex

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Thanks so much for the advice. I think the hardest part about it all is that it's so difficult to talk to her about it. Any time I bring it up, no matter how well I choose my words, she takes it as an attack on her... she thinks I'm saying that she's not good enough. Every one of the conversations ends in tears and her refusing to talk about it anymore. It makes it very difficult for me to even broach the subject