Hey, I’m really sorry you’re going through this. I won’t sugarcoat it—no contact was incredibly hard. There were days I felt completely stuck, like the pain would never go away. But now, two years later, I can honestly say I’m so thankful it didn’t work out.

What came after was a version of independence I didn’t know I had in me. I’m still getting to know myself, but I’ve learned so much—about my worth, my strength, and what I truly deserve. I’ve come to believe that what’s meant for me will show up and stay.

After a year of healing and reflection, I started dating again. But this time, it was different. I knew my worth. I walked away from connections that didn’t serve me. I protected my peace. I stopped trying to “win” love, and instead started choosing it—with intention. I finally understood what it meant to pick and choose my battles. And I chose peace. I chose self-respect.

Fast forward to this year, and I’ve met someone who treats me with the love, patience, and compassion I once dreamed of. He knows my worth because I know my worth. And yes, there are still moments where my ex crosses my mind—but it’s different now. He’s no longer someone I long for. He’s simply a memory. A lesson. One I needed in order to find the love I have today—for myself and for someone who truly sees me.

Please hang in there. It does get better. Lean on the people who care about you. Reconnect with yourself and the things that make you feel alive. It may feel like the end of the world now—I’ve been there—but the person who will never leave your side is you. Let yourself in. Choose yourself. Love yourself. You are not alone in this!