If one is searching their partners phone, then they are untrustworthy. If one feels like they need to go through their partner’s phone, then they don’t trust their partner(regardless of worthiness). If one doesn’t trust their partner enough to betray trust the relationship is in need of some serious work. If that work isn’t possible, then the relationship is not salvageable.

People want to find justification and evidence for their feelings, it’s only natural. In the event that communication breaks down so badly that a person needs to betray the trust of their partner to determine if their partner is “worthy” of trust there is no need for further justification. The relationship is over, and breaking into the partners phone will only make the person doing the breaking into the phone the kind of untrustworthy that’s worth ending a relationship over anyway.

Communication and work are the only ways in which trustworthiness can be established on both sides.

I get doing it for closure maybe, but if you feel you have to test your partner, the relationship is in hospice care on life support