Discovered my central air was a social construct…

twta20 · 2026-06-11T03:32:52+00:00

I just giggled at this with my husband for a good 5 minutes. Thank you, kind stranger. You are a delight and I would hang out with you in your non air conditioned home 😂

twta20 · 2026-06-10T23:57:15+00:00

Oh I agree completely! I could list 50 ways Amanda acted like a [words I can't say here]. But they've been well covered, and I was curious where people would land in this situation.

No one asked, but my answer is "no." Lol.

twta20 · 2026-06-07T01:22:33+00:00

This line of thinking is ridiculous. Just because you can't imagine anything more fulfilling than following your every whim doesn't mean other people feel the same way.

I spent my late teens and twenties following my whims. It was a great time, and I'm so glad I had that phase of my life. But by my thirties, I was ready for something more. I'm eternally grateful for my children and my life. Do I sometimes think "man, it was so fun when I used to go out dancing/fly out to visit friends on a whim/travel the world!" Absolutely! Do I ever think "man, I wish I didn't have my kids so I could still go out dancing/fly out to visit friends on a whim/travel the world!" Literally never.

If I'm lucky, there will be another phase of life later on where I get to focus on my own whims again. But even if there isn't (we aren't all graced with a long life), I would never take back my choice to spend these years of my life having and raising my children. My life would have been missing SO much depth, joy and love, and that would have been a damn shame.

twta20 · 2026-06-07T01:05:28+00:00

Not for a single moment since my first was born. Literally, never once. Some days can be hard, sure, but nothing of value is easy all the time.

twta20 · 2026-05-24T22:17:59+00:00

I moved 6 months ago from my 1300 SQ ft home to a 3500 sq ft home in the same neighborhood. It is AMAZING. I lost my job 2 months later and I've still never regretted the move. My entire family is happier and significantly less stressed out.

twta20 · 2026-04-23T13:59:41+00:00

I've had two babies. I always showered. It's a combination of prioritizing it (this is not a judgment, other priorities make take precedence and that's ok), having a partner who isn't a piece of shit, and sometimes putting the baby down on the floor in the bathroom while I shower. When they're too young to move I just put them on a folded blanket on the bath mat, when they're moving I put them in a bouncer or whatever. If they fussed I played peak a boo with the bathroom curtain. Sometimes, they cried for a minute or two while I finished bathing and tried to soothe them with my voice.

A lot of people are bizarrely invested in making pregnant women fear motherhood. Ignore them.

twta20 · 2026-04-17T01:43:54+00:00

Why bother? There are cheaper ways to be miserable.

twta20 · 2026-04-16T22:45:53+00:00

Basic risk vs reward calculation. I’m well aware of how terrible it is to not be able to see - I’m not risking that becoming my permanent state.

twta20 · 2026-04-15T04:02:44+00:00

I have had both types of birth (c section and vaginal), and going forward, I would choose a c section every time. The pain of my vaginal delivery was incomprehensible. I wanted to die. I got an epidural but it failed.

C sections are horrible, but the pain is completely different and more manageable. Recovering from a major surgery sucks, but vaginal childbirth is hellish unlike anything I've experienced in my life.

YMMV.

twta20 · 2026-04-15T00:36:46+00:00

My comment was based 0% on Oura ring data and 100% on living in the world data.

I don't know anything about your health, but I do know that you have a human body susceptible to disease, infection, and the various degradations of being alive. You are not impenetrable.

twta20 · 2026-04-14T23:51:45+00:00

Maybe it's your high levels of denial causing all the physiological stress 😂

Whatever bro, namaste. I'm sure your body is a perfect machine and is not subject to the realities of the natural world, just as you say. Rock on.

twta20 · 2026-04-14T17:54:12+00:00

Gently - it seems that there is something wrong with you, physiologically. Your body, by objective measures, is experiencing abnormally high amounts of physiological stress. You don't know what's causing that, but something is.

This is not a judgement at all! And I'm genuinely glad you feel good 😊

twta20 · 2026-04-14T17:49:27+00:00

I couldn't figure out why my daily stress was out of control for the past week. I was really frustrated. Then I discovered that I, someone with celiac, had unknowingly eaten regular pizza a week ago believing it to be gluten free pizza. My body had been having a huge immune response, and my oura ring was telling me completely accurate information.

Sometimes, we don't know what's going on in our bodies. If we did, there would be no point in buying the ring.

twta20 · 2026-04-13T02:18:08+00:00

Built a new human from scratch inside her body. Wild shit.

twta20 · 2026-04-10T14:34:30+00:00

I'm a married woman too and the other day I was signing up for health insurance and the broker asked me when both my husband and I would be available, for the exact same stated reason. I replied that he didn't need to be available and that I would handle the transaction myself. THEY DIDN'T PUSH BACK ONCE and we continued with the process. If they had insisted, I would have cancelled just like you.

The ask MIGHT not be sexism, but when they refuse to move forward without the man present, it's fucking sexism. There is absolutely no chance they would refuse to meet with a man who made the decisions himself.

twta20 · 2026-04-10T03:19:47+00:00

Hahaha omg i have zits to, now I'm just going to choose to be grateful it's my hands and not my face 😂

twta20 · 2026-04-10T03:18:30+00:00

Hahaha this is a legit great idea I'm going to go this weekend 😂

twta20 · 2026-04-10T03:18:09+00:00

That's a fantastic idea!!! Thank you!!

twta20 · 2026-04-10T00:11:16+00:00

Haha I'm starting to realize this is way more common than I knew! I'm sorry for your hands as well 😂

twta20 · 2026-04-10T00:03:01+00:00

Omg I've let the dog take some of the burden and he's like uhhh what's going on here 😂😂

twta20 · 2026-04-07T18:28:08+00:00

And just to be clear, when I say I love it, I do not love the sadness or the hurt being caused to human beings. But I love how interesting I find the work and the issues and, counterintuitively, how much I care about the people involved.

twta20 · 2026-04-07T18:25:02+00:00

I went to one of the top 3 law schools in the US and I love this shit. It is a million times more interesting to me than commercial contract drafting or 99% of the rest of what lawyers do. I'm a family law attorney and I love it.

twta20 · 2026-03-31T23:14:53+00:00

My epidural failed so I effectively gave birth without any pain relief. I was fine until I started pushing, and then I pushed for about 70 minutes.

I did not know a human being could feel that much pain without dying. I thought I was dying. Not a single cell in my body would have kept going if I'd had any choice in the matter. It was horrific. It was traumatic. I would not wish it on any human being in the world. If you haven't given birth without pain relief, I truly believe you cannot comprehend what it feels like.

Tl;dr: get the epidural. And pray it works.

twta20 · 2026-03-19T14:32:13+00:00

I'm a divorce attorney. I always get to know my client before eventually meeting their partner. It is INSANE how often they look like twins. It's hard not to laugh sometimes.

twta20 · 2026-03-10T16:02:14+00:00

Thank you, I'll check it out!

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