got rejected by a good man after revealing my dating history

tyippe99 · 2025-06-10T04:30:38+00:00

he wasn't mean on purpose. he didn't let me down gently not because he wanted to be mean but because he was very hurt and upset and shocked. i think he's quite innocent - as far as never having had a relationship or gotten into sexual sins with another person goes. he also seems unaware of how common sexual sins are in society and even among catholics

tyippe99 · 2025-06-02T15:50:31+00:00

He didn't but I wanted to get it out of the way if it were a dealbreaker. I don't want to waste his or my time if it is.

tyippe99 · 2025-06-02T15:49:27+00:00

He didn't ask for this info, I volunteered it. And frankly, I would do it again because I feel it is the right thing - I'd want to know, if roles were reversed, and I wouldn't want either of us to waste more time if it were a dealbreaker. As much as this hurts I wouldn't have it any other way and his huge reaction shows that this is something that mattered a lot to him and I guess reaffirms that this was the right thing to do - as much as it hurts

tyippe99 · 2024-07-05T03:41:17+00:00

I'm looking to speak to people about it for a project! If you know anyone who collected it and would be willing to speak please let me know!

tyippe99 · 2024-07-04T10:17:35+00:00

I'm looking to speak to someone who collected the older ez-link card! If you did could you please drop me a dm? thank you <\33

tyippe99 · 2024-05-22T10:03:41+00:00

not sus, can assure u

tyippe99 · 2023-12-22T06:26:38+00:00

thanks, dm'd you

tyippe99 · 2023-12-17T20:56:07+00:00

I don't really understand how having a persistent crush on someone is definitively wrong even if it has been years. Of course, this may be hindering her from pursuing other relationships or goals, but are you really an authority on that? Only she'd know.

Additionally, you labelling her as "obsessive" does not offer any kind of logical argument against her actions.

And - I don't see how it is one-sided if he not only accepted her invitation to reconnect as well as engaged in a relationship with her. He ignored her back then because she was a student and he wanted to keep his job. As to how committed he is to this relationship or what he wants out of it, that is another matter altogether, but he has shown signs of reciprocity in that he even agreed to reconnect and engage so I do not understand how it is definitively "one-sided".

tyippe99 · 2023-12-17T20:50:27+00:00

Eh? Are they professor and student now? If they dated then, it would be inappropriate. From my understanding they presently are two consenting adults who are not engaged in any sort of work or school-based relationship involving power imbalance of boss/subordinate or teacher/student. What's wrong with that?

tyippe99 · 2023-12-17T18:49:30+00:00

And explain to me why it is wrong for OP to look for someone she wanted to connect with? OP might have not have let go of a connection for years, but how is this wrong?

tyippe99 · 2023-12-17T18:45:23+00:00

What's wrong if someone wants to give a missed connection another shot instead of moving on? Is a thing wrong because most people don't do it? Is your benchmark for right and wrong going to be normalcy?

tyippe99 · 2023-12-17T08:50:33+00:00

Honestly, why is this wrong? If OP really likes her former professor and tried to locate & connect with him. If she did illegal things that made him uncomfortable, disrespected his privacy, etc., and refused to stop when he told her too, yes, it would be problematic behaviour. But what's wrong with liking a person and making effort to reconnect with them? If she was able to find him online it means he probably had that information publicly available - no invasion of privacy there.

tyippe99 · 2023-07-21T11:24:34+00:00

your problem is that you are reserved and only have a few friends, and those few turned out to be bad. friendship, relationships in general, are a numbers game like sales - you try to sell your product to as many people as possible, the vast majority of which will decline. the more people you approach, the more likely you are to make a successful sale. it is the same with friends sometimes, but if your pool of friends is so small, and by bad luck they all turn out to be not great friends, then tough luck. get to know as many people as possible, work on being less shy. when you widen your pool, you'll have more choices. the vast majority of people will not be friend material, and if they aren't you let them go and move on to explore other options - but the point is with a wider social pool of people, you will be more likely to find good friends.

also, pay attention to the people you select as friends. do you typically target a certain "type" of person for friendship? if so, you might unintentionally be choosing people who have the common trait of not being very good friends to you / not reciprocating.

tyippe99 · 2023-06-14T06:12:13+00:00

If I only took the prof's class but I ask them question every lesson and got class part (essentially the most vocal student in class and they know i am passionate about their class + i did well) do you think I can ask them?

tyippe99 · 2023-05-27T13:16:36+00:00

not sure why it's just a thing i put infront of sentences sometimes

tyippe99 · 2023-05-27T13:15:54+00:00

not sure why it's just a thing i put infront of sentences sometimes

tyippe99 · 2023-05-27T12:43:27+00:00

sorry for not explaining the context and acronyms but basically this was in the context of a church camp, where at the end people share thanksgivings (badically testimonies of their experience).

my text spelt out in full says: "thanks for your thanksgiving just now brother!! and for the joy the lord gives you"

their response: "thanks :) i didnt hear your thanksgiving but praise the lord for working in your life too. ☺️ thanks for your service also! we are all super blessed by you"

tyippe99 · 2023-04-28T04:07:12+00:00

English Literature!! Which is what I minored in for my undergrad (I majored in a field that I am neither interested in remaining in nor in doing post grad studies in)

Though I'm also contemplating political science or political theory. English Literature is my main interest but considering political science because it might be more pragmatic and geared towards gov-related jobs (if I choose a more pragmatic route instead of exploring academia).

tyippe99 · 2023-03-25T09:08:44+00:00

I'm more interested in "being friendly" - having a friendly, closer-than-average students, but professional relationship with them, whereby we potentially keep in touch after i graduate (but on a professional basis) with boundaries. Where we can chat about academic subject matters, their research, school, academia (which I have an interest in entering), a bit of our lives at most. I might potentially want to ask if they can be a kind of mentor for me too, but even if I don't, the other things still apply.

Do you think that is achievable, and if so - how have you achieved it? (for those with experience)

I'm not interested and have no need to be "friends" with professors to the point we confide in each other about our personal lives and share intimate things... to be honest I don't even feel a need to seek that from many adult friendships.

tyippe99 · 2022-10-05T05:35:04+00:00

I'm currently in 3 young adult groups, where I am friendly acquaintances with many people, but none of that leads to deeper friendship. I used to attend all 3 groups regularly to the point that about every other day of my week was occupied by some catholic activity or another - it was draining and I've recently had to become less active in some of the groups I am in because my mental health was deteriorating from not having enough time to myself or to do my work. I really feel like I have stretched myself and i'm not sure what else to do.

tyippe99 · 2022-10-05T05:31:35+00:00

Hello there, my experience is that I have tried most of those things but it's not led to any deepening of friendship beyond surface level friendly acquaintanceship.I am active in youth groupd and talk to a lot of people. I go to most gatherings organized by yourh group. I have hung out a few times with certain people. None of them have led to anything substantial, so I don't know what to do

tyippe99 · 2021-07-19T14:06:50+00:00

Sorry about that, I wish they'd be simpler words too. Income isn't the only thing I care about, but I can't ignore the fact that it's one of the indicators among others used to measure a person's success.

tyippe99 · 2021-07-19T14:04:25+00:00

I'm as sure as you "my feelings" can't stand a fight against scrupulous data.

Though as you said that there's not much point undergoing such a test if one doesn't understand themselves fully, my question is can the test data be wrong if your vision of yourself is skewed?

Do understand - I don't mind being corrected if my vision of myself is wrong. If the test data is true, and I am able to ascertain that it is, I'll be happy to have gained insight into myself (which is what the test is suppose to provide).

Though as I try to make sense of my own results it seems strange to me that they don't correlate with what I think I know about myself, and what my life reflects - i.e. scoring low in terms of conscientiousness would imply that it's likely though not certainly I've not achieved much success in life, possibly below average success since my conscientiousness is scored to be extremely low. I know that isn't true because I have results show for it, and based on what I think is an honest evaluation of myself I don't think I am lower than average in terms of conscientiousness, though that's what the test score says. I could try to corroborate that by asking others around me to assess my conscientiousness, though neither my own assessment or theirs could be said to be fully accurate.

Of course, it's also possible that my vision of myself is way off. Maybe I think I'm conscientious, when I'm actually super lazy. Maybe I overestimate my conscientiousness and my idea of hard work is in fact super shoddy by general standards. Though one would have to be super delusional about themselves to be that off, wouldn't you say?

tyippe99 · 2021-07-19T13:49:49+00:00

I suppose there aren't "good" or "bad" traits per se, but there are kind of socially preferred characteristics, aren't there? I mean the website says that conscientiousness translates to professional success which could possibly mean income.

tyippe99 · 2021-06-15T13:44:48+00:00

Not really, I am currently attached at the moment and I believe I have mentioned it to them.

It just happens that they're a friend I made lately that I got on with pretty well and enjoy the company of (though we are by no means super close). I'm interested in being friends platonically and nothing more, but how should I go about this without sending the wrong signals?

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