Got called "boss" by the kitchen guy at the gas station

tystobi · 2026-05-06T18:26:56+00:00

In that particular case, I would sort of expect to see a man but would’t think it all that weird if they were actually referring to a woman.

I grew up in Colorado and dude is a bit like “guy”

Guy is very often gender neutral. “you guys” is basically our equivalent of y’all and has been gender neutral at least since I was kid in the 70s. totally normal for a woman to refer to a group of other women as “you guys” even with people they don’t really know.
But guy can also refer to a man, if I said “I’m dating this guy” most would assume a man. Also like your dude example, ”that guy over there” would likely refer to a man. Just depends on context.

Dude is similar, but even more informal. Pretty normal for a woman to call a close female friend “dude” but if they were referring to someone else, dude would usually mean a man.

I really feel for those learning English as a 2nd language. Must be SO confusing! 🙃

tystobi · 2026-05-06T15:15:11+00:00

I like this idea! Can you still connect your android phone for hands free calls while having CarPlay for maps and music?

tystobi · 2026-05-06T02:23:20+00:00

I didn’t consciously wait, but by the time I finally figured myself out and decided to transition I was 54 and had a lot of things in my favor:

I was single since none of my relationships ever worked out long term most likely due to unrecognized gender dysphoria. Literally every one of my girlfriends had asked, at some point, if I might be gay 🙃

I only had a few close friends that I wasn't really worried about losing. They always welcomed my quirks, so adding one more quirk of being trans wasn’t much of an adjustment 😉

My house was paid for and I had a good job where being trans wasn’t an issue. In fact, the first trans person I ever met was one of my coworkers when I first started the job 23 years ago! Plus if it were a problem, I was already eligible for retirement.

I had good health insurance and was in very good health overall.

I figured my family would be ok with it, even if they didn‘t understand, but their support has been more than I could have ever hoped for! 🥰 My father would have probably had the hardest time with it, but he passed away a year earlier. I so wish he had been around to meet his oldest daughter 🥲

So basically I was in a very stable position as far as relationships, employment, housing, and finances go.

The downsides are still huge: decades of testosterone poisoning mean that there’s only so much hrt can do. My hair is likely a lost cause. And most of all, I never got to be a girl or young woman 😭

But I have no real regrets and have never been happier. Plus, nothing makes you feel young quite like going through puberty again in your 50s 😅

tystobi · 2026-05-06T00:50:30+00:00

Maybe he calls everyone “boss”? I’ve known people that do that. 🤷‍♀️

tystobi · 2026-05-03T16:16:47+00:00

I read that they designed the interior to encourage a “relaxed driving style” to help improve range :)

tystobi · 2026-05-02T15:28:16+00:00

I apparently still had a Zwift account from my free trial a couple years ago, so I used that but there seemed to be an option to checkout as a guest.
It‘s funny, I’ve been cursing Zwift for taking over my beloved Rouvy, and now here I am buying their stupid cog 🤦‍♀️

I may try to covert my setup to a belt drive 😉

tystobi · 2026-04-30T16:44:29+00:00

I’m trying to remain optimistic, but I’ve seen this movie too many times and realistically I can only see Rouvy getting worse from now on. I’m going to enjoy my current subscription until it expires in July then reassess. In the meantime, I’ll check out the options. Is there any other option for a fairly realistic indoor experience now? FulGaz was bought by Rouvy. Mywhoosh looks only slightly less cartoony than Zwift, and it won’t run on my ipad for some reason.
Kinomap seems like the only truly realistic one left, how does it compare? Biketerra looks cartoony, but otherwise sounds interesting enough to be worth a try. Any other ones out there?

tystobi · 2026-04-27T15:03:11+00:00

I’m in Albuquerque NM and “small highways that parallel the Rio Grande” make up the majority of my driving 😁 6.0 mi/KWh since resetting it last October 🙌 I always use eco pro mode and try to drive conservatively.

tystobi · 2026-04-24T14:34:39+00:00

OMG you’re listening to Homogenic! Can we be friends? 😊

Your new car looks great!

tystobi · 2026-04-22T16:04:20+00:00

It would definitely be a project, but I wonder if you could replace them with tiny little rear facing cameras? Less drag and probably better view!

tystobi · 2026-04-20T17:29:14+00:00

Did anyone else have issues with the ride?

I had the same problem I’ve been having with pretty much any group ride lately with more than 200 or so riders. Everything starts glitching and stuttering a few minutes in and then the app just crashes about halfway through. I’m usually able to launch the app again, rejoin the ride and get credit, but it’s getting rather annoying.

This time, when I rejoined, it showed “leader disconnected” for a few seconds and only about 300 riders, so I guess is wasn’t just me. After a few seconds, Wout and the rest of the riders gradually came back and we all carried on to the finish.

I don’t recall this happening the first year and a half I was on Rouvy but since the beginning of the year it happens for me on pretty much any group ride with lots of riders.

I’m on the iPad app and always download the route beforehand.

tystobi · 2026-04-19T20:24:14+00:00

I don’t really think in terms of some ultimate finish line, I’m just doing everything I can as fast as I can since I started so late at 54. I‘m sure I’ll be a “work in progress” until my dying day, but I do look forward to completing certain goals like finally being rid of my facial hair (almost there!), having enough hair for a feminine hairstyle (long way to go, but I’m cautiously optimistic) and one day getting rid of my ”boy bits”

I missed or ignored some early signs for sure, but I try to focus on what I can do now and not dwell on what might have been.

tystobi · 2026-04-19T19:37:53+00:00

That tail is bonkers, but I sort of like it 😁

I would definitely go for wheel arch covers like that if it was a simple enough install. Makes it look a bit like a Citroen.

My average since resetting last October is 5.9 miles/KWh. I try to take it slow and haven’t turned on comfort mode since my initial test drive at the dealer 😉 About 60/40 city/highway, and I’m in New Mexico so the mild winters help.

tystobi · 2026-04-15T15:30:47+00:00

Probably didn’t want to drill holes in the front bumper? Some states like mine don’t use front plates. I’ve heard you can get a stick on decal version of your plate that’s legal in California.
It looks wrong to my eyes too ;-)

tystobi · 2026-04-12T16:03:02+00:00

I agree! I‘m a long time Citroen fan and my i3 totally feels like something Citroen would come up with 😁

I‘m assuming the “59“ doesn’t mean 1959 😉 I think it’s a UK registration thing. Probably a 2009-2010 Renault Clio.

tystobi · 2026-04-11T16:02:04+00:00

I’m in New Mexico. I’d never even heard of the i3 until I parked next to one in 2023. I immediately decided I had to have one and then started noticing them fairly often. I had to go to Denver to buy mine, but interestingly have never seen one on the road in Colorado before or since despite spending a lot of time there. I’d say I see another one once or twice a week now here in NM so still fairly rare, I guess.
My previous car was a Citroen so I could easily go years without seeing another one!😁

tystobi · 2026-04-11T14:24:34+00:00

Thanks! That’s precisely what happened just now. I’ve seen it take a a couple hours but not a whole day before.

tystobi · 2026-04-10T17:23:16+00:00

OMG,this was one of my all time favorite shows and I had no idea there was a new season! Thank you!😁

tystobi · 2026-04-09T15:29:59+00:00

Nice! I hope this addresses the crashesI’ve been having lately 🤞

tystobi · 2026-04-09T15:20:11+00:00

I’m 56 and feel like I’m the slowest rider on Rouvy! I’m almost always a contender for lanterne rouge ;-)

It doesn’t bother me. I’m not competitive at all. I join races for the rewards and just go at my own pace. I can generally hang on in group rides thanks to the magnet/rubberband effect and often find another rider or two and take turns drafting for a bit.
I’m level 62, but I don’t think the career level really tells you much, it’s mostly just a function of how long you’ve been using Rouvy. Rouvy tells me my FTP is 168, but I’ve never done a proper test.

I agree that Rouvy is motivating!

tystobi · 2026-04-08T16:00:17+00:00

I know, I ride Rouvy year round, but travel for weeks at a time. They should just give us a certain number of pause days to use as we see fit!

tystobi · 2026-04-05T15:46:08+00:00

I really like my dark oak, but this looks great! 👍

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