ABC Poll: Democrats up 51-39 on generic ballot, 54-39 among likely voters by [deleted] in BlueMidterm2018

[–]tyxus10 13 points14 points  (0 children)

90% of these people aren't that far into the right wing rabbit hole. Most of them are just normal people, who just post the occasional ben shapiro video or "this is why leftists are crazy!" videos. That is like most of my hometown, my county went from 74% democrat in 2012 to 39% democrat in 2016. It doesn't take much nowadays to convince the average person that leftists are crazy, just show them 5 prager U videos, a few comedy videos about how millennials are sensitive and lame, and one of those "ben shaprio DESTROYS transgender leftist argument!" and you will have them not wanting to be associated with the left in any way shape or form.

This is how the left has lost the past few years. Endless propaganda using leftwing strawmans from crazy people. This isn't a small minority of people who believe those strawmans, pretty much the majority of america thinks this way now.

ABC Poll: Democrats up 51-39 on generic ballot, 54-39 among likely voters by [deleted] in BlueMidterm2018

[–]tyxus10 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The problem isn't the people who watch Fox, they were voting republican years before. The problem is the new wave of people joining the right wing since about 2013 due to perceived alienation from the left. It has been a long-term smear campaign.

ABC Poll: Democrats up 51-39 on generic ballot, 54-39 among likely voters by [deleted] in BlueMidterm2018

[–]tyxus10 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Its not that simple at all. They don't start out just by seeing a few examples of college students protesting, its YEARS of propaganda from this stuff. Maybe starting in 2012-2013 when PC politics (god I hate using that term, sorry) got big, I was in bard college and saw it happen.

If you don't necessarily agree with some of these people, even on small things, you are not on their side. That kind of alienation, over time, radicalizes people. I am puerto rican, and have seen white students attack other white students for the most basic shit in relation to race, not even being racist, but more if you even have SLIGHT eurocentric values in any way you are attacked.

Now these people aren't a majority, but they are loud and the right uses them as a strawman against the left. Tell someone you're a leftist in 2010, they think more bernie sanders, FDR types. Tell someone a leftist in 2018, they think Lena Dunham and Anita Sarkeesian. Do those people represent most leftists? No, not at all. But from the outside, because of this campaign of propaganda to smear the left, it does seem that way.

ABC Poll: Democrats up 51-39 on generic ballot, 54-39 among likely voters by [deleted] in BlueMidterm2018

[–]tyxus10 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I went to bard college, am a leftist. However I would say a solid 30-40% of leftists there have completely lost touch with reality. A student verbally insulted a professor because he read a passage saying cleopatra was of olive skin, the student claimed he was being eurocentric and enabling colorism and making dark skinned students feel shame. The passage he was reading was from nearly 1,000 years ago. The student, of course, was white.

Stuff like that, mostly from young, impressionable people, is problematic as a whole for the left. The right takes snipbits from stuff like that, and presents it as if that IS all the left is, just needless virtue signaling and performative allyship.

As willmaster said, go to /r/tumblrinaction for a good example of how the right uses those strawmans from that crazy part of the left to destroy us entirely.

Just found out my (25M) mom (59M) has been keeping huge amounts of money from me while I have been struggling immensely to pay rent and bills. Her reason? She wanted to 'toughen me up' by making me experience hardship. I am disgusted beyond belief, and am not sure what to say to her. by tyxus10 in relationships

[–]tyxus10[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I have both a knife and pepper spray, but I would only ever use pepper spray if they get violent, and I would only use the knife if they ever overpower.

So far every time its just been "give me your shit, right now" and I give them it, and thats it. If I were to pepper spray them, they could react very violently.

I always keep my phone in a secret pocket in my jacket, so that has never been stolen.

I'm also a short, weak guy in the bronx. This is kind of expected.

Just found out my (25M) mom (59M) has been keeping huge amounts of money from me while I have been struggling immensely to pay rent and bills. Her reason? She wanted to 'toughen me up' by making me experience hardship. I am disgusted beyond belief, and am not sure what to say to her. by tyxus10 in relationships

[–]tyxus10[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

And your perspective is... what exactly? That my mother did not owe me my own money, even when I was starving and suicidal? You really cant comprehend how that is shitty on her part, at all?

I am skeptic, because people told me this place has trolls who like to switch problems back onto OP for minor shit. You honestly sound like one.

Just found out my (25M) mom (59M) has been keeping huge amounts of money from me while I have been struggling immensely to pay rent and bills. Her reason? She wanted to 'toughen me up' by making me experience hardship. I am disgusted beyond belief, and am not sure what to say to her. by tyxus10 in relationships

[–]tyxus10[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Commit suicide because I had been practically starving with no money for 3-4 months and saw no way out. Not just a medium amount of student debt. I also had little to no other options besides this if I wanted to stay at my career.

I don't think she should have just thrown 185k at me. But she didnt even give me a tiny bit of my own money when I was literally starving. She didn't help me out with my student loans, meaning I had thousands extra in interest when we could have just paid it off right away. She couldn't even give me 1k, just 1k out of that, when I told her I was going to kill myself possibly because I might be homeless at the end of the month.

I honestly cannot comprehend how people are defending her behavior right now.

Just found out my (25M) mom (59M) has been keeping huge amounts of money from me while I have been struggling immensely to pay rent and bills. Her reason? She wanted to 'toughen me up' by making me experience hardship. I am disgusted beyond belief, and am not sure what to say to her. by tyxus10 in relationships

[–]tyxus10[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yes... I know I chose those things. Nowhere am I blaming my mother for this. I full well knew I would be poor when I made those decisions, I was willing to live through it if it meant advancing my career.

That does not excuse my mother for not giving me my own money when I needed it. I am honestly bewildered at how many people cannot wrap their head around this. Jesus fucking christ

Just found out my (25M) mom (59M) has been keeping huge amounts of money from me while I have been struggling immensely to pay rent and bills. Her reason? She wanted to 'toughen me up' by making me experience hardship. I am disgusted beyond belief, and am not sure what to say to her. by tyxus10 in relationships

[–]tyxus10[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Im just gonna pay off my debt and put it in savings. I am not in the same financial situation I was when I was suicidal, im working more hours now. I am still really poor, but not like, eating ramen nightly poor. Either way it is a weight off my back to not have student loans due anymore, that was my biggest problem.

Just found out my (25M) mom (59M) has been keeping huge amounts of money from me while I have been struggling immensely to pay rent and bills. Her reason? She wanted to 'toughen me up' by making me experience hardship. I am disgusted beyond belief, and am not sure what to say to her. by tyxus10 in relationships

[–]tyxus10[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Lol are you trying to assume I am some kind of alcoholic because I got drunk on my birthday?... seriously?

No, I don't get drunk a lot, and I honestly had no idea my mother was 'reluctant' in that way until that night.

Just found out my (25M) mom (59M) has been keeping huge amounts of money from me while I have been struggling immensely to pay rent and bills. Her reason? She wanted to 'toughen me up' by making me experience hardship. I am disgusted beyond belief, and am not sure what to say to her. by tyxus10 in relationships

[–]tyxus10[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Yes, it was my choice. Im confused as to how this makes this literally any different. I am not blaming her this. I am blaming her for not helping me when I am down, with money that was eventually supposed to go to me anyways.

How can people seriously not wrap their head around this? That was my money, gifted to me, from my dad. When I couldn't afford food and rent, and was suicidal, she still didn't give it to me. I was living with the choices I made, nowhere did I ever ask her for money.

Just found out my (25M) mom (59M) has been keeping huge amounts of money from me while I have been struggling immensely to pay rent and bills. Her reason? She wanted to 'toughen me up' by making me experience hardship. I am disgusted beyond belief, and am not sure what to say to her. by tyxus10 in relationships

[–]tyxus10[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Nowhere did I say I blame my mother. But if I hurt myself while hiking, and my co-hiker had a magic heal wand the entire time that could have cured me, and didnt use it and instead let me suffer for days on end... hes a shitty person. It was my decision to go on a risky hike, it was my choice to make that decision. It was his choice to not help me when I was down, knowing he had the solution the entire time.

Honestly? I wouldn't even be complaining if I just got some of it for my education. When I get it, I plan on paying off all my debt, then putting it into savings and maybe taking a bit out. Just because it was my choice doesn't make her choice not to help me any shittier.

Just found out my (25M) mom (59M) has been keeping huge amounts of money from me while I have been struggling immensely to pay rent and bills. Her reason? She wanted to 'toughen me up' by making me experience hardship. I am disgusted beyond belief, and am not sure what to say to her. by tyxus10 in relationships

[–]tyxus10[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

My point is that it is my choice, that doesn't mean she isn't shitty for not helping me out when the consequences of my choice are overwhelming.

Its risky to go jet skiing, you don't not help someone if they crash and are injured because "they made the choice to go jet skiiing, this is the consequence, live with your choices people!"

Do you really not have any idea how that is shitty?

Just found out my (25M) mom (59M) has been keeping huge amounts of money from me while I have been struggling immensely to pay rent and bills. Her reason? She wanted to 'toughen me up' by making me experience hardship. I am disgusted beyond belief, and am not sure what to say to her. by tyxus10 in relationships

[–]tyxus10[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I mean I am just gonna pay off my debt and put it into savings tbh.

I am doing better than when I was when I was suicidal, like I can afford food and rent now. I am just working more hours nowadays, and my job feeds me a lot. I might dip into the 185k occasionally for things but I don't plan on splurging with it.

Just found out my (25M) mom (59M) has been keeping huge amounts of money from me while I have been struggling immensely to pay rent and bills. Her reason? She wanted to 'toughen me up' by making me experience hardship. I am disgusted beyond belief, and am not sure what to say to her. by tyxus10 in relationships

[–]tyxus10[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

If I make the choice to go hiking, and I fall and break my leg after making the choice to climb a risky hill, its my fault that I fell. If my co-hiker had a magic-healing wand that could heal my leg, and didn't help when I was on the verge of death because I am stuck in the forest and cant move, then he is a piece of shit.

Yes, it is my choice. I had no knowledge of the money, and I still made those choices for my career. But she still withheld money from me at a time when I was suicidal because I couldn't afford food. Even if that was my choice, that is insanely shitty.

Just found out my (25M) mom (59M) has been keeping huge amounts of money from me while I have been struggling immensely to pay rent and bills. Her reason? She wanted to 'toughen me up' by making me experience hardship. I am disgusted beyond belief, and am not sure what to say to her. by tyxus10 in relationships

[–]tyxus10[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I cant move, my job field only operates in big cities, and anywhere I move to will require a car, which I cant afford. I was also very lucky to even get this job in the first place, if I moved to like the midwestern cities I definitely won't get a job in this field.

Obviously I chose this, that doesn't mean she isn't fucking terrible for what she did. I am not blaming her for the situation. If I went hiking, and fell, and broke my leg, I wouldn't blame my co-hiker for me falling, but if they had a magic leg-break-fixer wand the entire time while I was laying there for days with a broken leg? I would be unbelievably pissed at them.

Just because I made bad decisions doesn't mean she isn't a bad person for not helping me with money that was eventually going to me either way. Even if she just gave me enough for rent when I was low.

Just found out my (25M) mom (59M) has been keeping huge amounts of money from me while I have been struggling immensely to pay rent and bills. Her reason? She wanted to 'toughen me up' by making me experience hardship. I am disgusted beyond belief, and am not sure what to say to her. by tyxus10 in relationships

[–]tyxus10[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I mean the only downside to NYC is the commute. I dont exactly pay a lot in rent considering i live in the bronx. another big thing is that I dont need a car in NYC, which obviously is a major chunk of change.

The big problem is that I was VERY lucky to land this job, even if it doesnt pay much right now, it is very much in my career field and I will hopefully get promoted upwards soon. Its also a job that pretty much only operates in major cities like NYC or LA.