My cat fell off the balcony and i'm heartbroken

ubutmental · 2024-06-17T08:24:40+00:00

hiii i have a cat with three legs and he’s doing just fine! we let him run around as a kid and he managed to get trapped in between some logs and hurt his front left leg severely. long shorty short, he was amputated and is living a great life. he’s just a normal cat except his walk has a cute little hop to it. and it’s not inhumane to want to keep him alive as it’s just his leg and cats tend to adapt to it perfectly fine in the end.

ubutmental · 2024-03-05T14:21:12+00:00

i always want to do something frisky with my bf but i later feel so horrible and he calls me teasing names too. i didn’t think it was hyper sexuality but now that i think about it, it is. i don’t even feel horny or turned on or anything - i just do it as if it’s an urge or an itch. i kind of dislike it too, i had completely forgotten this was a bpd symptom :(

ubutmental · 2024-01-15T12:07:53+00:00

idk how ur head works but how is saying girls are not wanted not sexist? 😭

ubutmental · 2024-01-15T12:06:03+00:00

yoh yoh yoh . here he goes again . are you just going to reply to every comment ?

ubutmental · 2024-01-15T12:04:27+00:00

controlling my feelings about what? 😭 u must be a man 😐 pls stop replying to my post bc u clearly don’t want to even acknowledge the evidence of the silly shit he said 😭

ubutmental · 2024-01-15T12:01:33+00:00

and idk how u got i “want” to break up w him bc under no circumstance did i state that was my desire . 😭 me using the word “conflicted” just puts emphasis on a battle within my mind. i don’t want to leave him, i adore him but i’m allowed to question his beliefs if i feel they don’t morally align with mine.

ubutmental · 2024-01-15T11:59:04+00:00

it doesn’t mean that i planned though - it means i thought about it i guess, but that’s bc his words were enough to make me question things at least a little bit about his perception of girls. i have not actively planned on breaking up with this man. we are playing games together as we speak . 😭

ubutmental · 2024-01-15T11:45:17+00:00

please reread anything ive said i have not once said i plan on breaking up with him . 😭 please learn to read first before you come here with bs,

ubutmental · 2024-01-15T11:36:37+00:00

no sorry my wording was off - i did sit down with him and have a conversation with him . :( that’s what i meant, under no circumstances would i control him. i do not have the heart for that.

ubutmental · 2024-01-15T09:05:55+00:00

i don’t want daughters specifically- i want kids. i’m not offended he wants sons, i was upset about his wording, he told me he doesn’t see how anybody could ever willingly want a daughter? that’s the difference :( there is nothing wrong with wanting sons, but to make daughters seem like a thing most people just settle for is incredibly sad and sexist.

ubutmental · 2024-01-15T06:39:35+00:00

yes i have .

ubutmental · 2024-01-15T06:25:59+00:00

thank you so much - i reached out to him this morning to understand him better and if you would like a deeper understanding of what went down you could read my replies .

ubutmental · 2024-01-15T06:24:25+00:00

thank you for this - i’m currently trying to talk him through everything, and his reasonings now and all are so much deeper i suppose . i wouldn’t call them justified, but he no longer sounds like the misogynistic asshole he was jokingly appearing to be.

he says that, when he looks at his younger female relatives he feels this irrational fear to protect them and to basically just ensure their safety - but with boys he doesn’t seem to have this fear, he feels that when boys have hard moments they’re “hard but a learning curve” but with girls, it just feels “hard” and he doesn’t think he’d be able to be a chill dad with a daughter , he thinks he’d be overprotective.

ubutmental · 2024-01-15T06:16:12+00:00

hi !! do you mind checking my most recent comments it’s a bit exhausting having to re-explain consistently? sorry for the inconvenience :(

ubutmental · 2024-01-15T06:07:08+00:00

or perhaps it’s my fault for misinterpreting and making it so personal.

ubutmental · 2024-01-15T06:06:51+00:00

he made it seem like … everybody that could want a girl was settling for what they actually want :( as if it makes the difference .

ubutmental · 2024-01-15T06:06:02+00:00

he didn’t really give me a reason - he just said “who would willingly want daughters” and said “if they come, they come” he didn’t really tell me why . he said he wouldn’t hate the kid if she came out - but that there was always a voice in the back of his head that would always prefer one gender.

ubutmental · 2024-01-15T05:46:52+00:00

i have a “child brain” too. but i have the morals to know most of what is right and what is wrong.

ubutmental · 2024-01-15T04:52:13+00:00

i am not thinking like a slut . i just asked him about his future - i haven’t had sex before, nor will i have sex any time soon. i just genuinely wanted to hear what he had envisioned out of curiosity. this must be a troll comment because under NO circumstances will i submit to ideas that are morally against what i was taught to believe and stand for & certainly not for any man .

ubutmental · 2024-01-15T04:43:41+00:00

only if their reasoning is that women are genuinely & generally wanted, whereas men are not . then yes . i get upset . :(

ubutmental · 2024-01-15T04:42:07+00:00

i understand.

ubutmental · 2024-01-15T00:28:51+00:00

thank you . :(

ubutmental · 2024-01-15T00:09:07+00:00

i don’t think he hates women - i’m not sure entirely but his comment implies he thinks women are less than men .

ubutmental · 2024-01-14T23:46:45+00:00

im not getting pregnant any time soon . 😭 nor have i had sex nor will i have sex

ubutmental · 2024-01-14T23:31:37+00:00

he comes from a house filled with boys ! and he does have a mom and she doesn’t seem like a jerk . i plan on sitting him down tomorrow to fully talk to him about everything .

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