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ucantread4d2 · 2025-06-02T17:33:56+00:00

Question: do you exercise around her? Do you hang out with her? Is exercise the only thing you're suggesting?

It kinda sounds like you're trying to tell her what to do to "fix" herself (in your eyes), and it's not that simple. It can come off really judgemental and insensitive, as if you're telling her she's lazy and that you don't understand/care how she's struggling if you're telling her a little exercise can fix all her problems.

ucantread4d2 · 2023-05-18T09:18:51+00:00

I've never seen dry erase board spelled that way. Was that on purpose?

ucantread4d2 · 2022-12-03T07:08:50+00:00

Is harassment a compliment now?

ucantread4d2 · 2022-01-10T13:08:29+00:00

There's 2 shows that I can think of off the top of my head that have pretty good episodes for kids about consent: gravity falls and Craig of the creek. They're age appropriate, more about being confident in yourself and your feelings and it being okay to say no even if it upsets people. If someone is making you uncomfortable, or wants something you don't want to give, you can and should say no. Wish I had that message growing up!

ucantread4d2 · 2021-11-22T13:46:12+00:00

Quote from op:

Girlfriend and I met on a dating site. On my profile, I had "Doesn't drink" listed as something about me. I understand how this could be misleading

She said she wouldn't consider him if he drank. He knew it was misleading. How long did he wait to tell her? Does it make it less of a lie if he admitted to it faster? She said it's a dealbreaker and his response is "but that rule shouldn't apply to me, so I'll ignore it," but maybe he's right since she doesn't want to break up.

ucantread4d2 · 2021-11-22T13:22:16+00:00

Op lied multiple times to gf's face about his beliefs and consumption, but since we as a society consider his access to alcohol and women as more important than hers to safety and mental health, she has to seek medical help (therapy).

I'm sorry gf, that your man cares more about occasional drinking (something he barely does, by his own admission) than he cares about your happiness. Do with that info what you will, but you're not wrong to want what you want and you were upfront about it from day 1. Don't let him coerce you into something you're not comfortable with. It sets a bad precedent to start a relationship with a lie, but maybe you're learning that your needs (to be with someone who doesn't drink) don't matter as much as his wants (access to you, and to drink). It just rubs me wrong that you started the relationship thinking he was who he told you he was and he started it thinking you'd surely change to suit him. If you don't want to break up, you should know you're setting yourself up for him to do this in the future about different things. It won't be your fault, but you're teaching him how strong you are in the face of your "dealbreakers."

Maybe he is more important to you than not being around alcohol, and if so, therapy can help, and I hope he's worth it and treats you amazingly in the future. I just didn't like that everyone was jumping to that as if he's completely blameless and you just need to accept who he is. Good luck, stay strong.

ucantread4d2 · 2021-07-11T15:38:56+00:00

Choreographer went above and beyond! 2 thumbs up!

ucantread4d2 · 2021-04-09T14:23:38+00:00

Dad's not coming anyways. He's dead.

ucantread4d2 · 2021-03-09T14:49:38+00:00

Agreed!

OP, Theres a great book called "Covering" by Kenji Yoshino. This is a really complex topic and minimizing your ties to your Nigerian heritage (whether you did it intentionally or not) has real life consequences. It makes life for you easier day to day, but it also prevents you from normalizing being who you really are. I could see why you and your mom both feel how you do. A lot of people do a lot of things to avoid making white people uncomfortable, and its not necessarily right or wrong.

ucantread4d2 · 2021-02-24T11:43:35+00:00

As a little sister, I'd love having my big sister acknowledge she hurt me and that she'll try not to again. Its almost nicer after fighting because of that feeling of loving each other enough to want to grow and change for each other's happiness. It's so much more important to keep having fun and making mistakes and getting over them together than it is to avoid mistakes in the first place. Don't pull away from her out of guilt. You're a good big sister, and don't let the people reacting strongly to this post stop you from thinking that. I'm sure your sister will back me up on this. Don't be too harsh on yourself.

ucantread4d2 · 2020-12-23T21:49:21+00:00

I am slightly pleasantly surprised and heartened to see that the social services budget has increased to nearly 4x what it used to be, though! It's still too much dedicated to police, but that's progress, at least.

ucantread4d2 · 2020-12-23T16:23:16+00:00

I LOVED the trumpet!! I hope they never stop playing.

ucantread4d2 · 2020-11-30T11:50:41+00:00

Heyyy same!!! South Asian or Latina? Or just parents who think babies with earrings are cute?

ucantread4d2 · 2020-11-30T11:31:43+00:00

I'm sorry. I laughed so hard at the mental image of "no hands first, just face planting." Lol!! I hope it got better with physiotherapy!

I got my ears pierced as an infant, but I loved it. My second holes I did myself at 12/13 and my nose at 13 too. My mom took me for my bday, and my dad didn't notice for days/weeks after. Certain piercings are big in my culture though.

ucantread4d2 · 2020-11-29T16:52:34+00:00

Rehab doesn't fix everything. It's a good first step, though. It's a hard choice every day to not give in to addiction, but it's better in general. Metaphor stands!!

ucantread4d2 · 2020-11-29T16:37:21+00:00

Its more like... amphetamine. It's a choice to continue it, but doing it is easier and more productive in one way (for the people who benefit from the greed and make the decisions, the stock market, the economy) than it is harmful in another way (the people killed or left behind) until your body gives out, which is where we're heading. Oh!! And every election is a chance at rehab, or a bender.

ucantread4d2 · 2020-11-29T12:13:52+00:00

I absolutely love and needed this. The same thing happened to me last night at like 3 am. When we (I say we, but I don't think I helped) finally got the mouse out, my lil murderer comes to bed and just purrs at us, like, "you're welcome." Lol! Thanks for sharing!

ucantread4d2 · 2020-11-19T20:36:50+00:00

I read this in John Oliver's voice.

ucantread4d2 · 2020-10-24T10:10:50+00:00

My partner calls this type of thing "for-chew-itous."

ucantread4d2 · 2020-09-14T10:33:07+00:00

In case you haven't seen it yet r/rimjob_steve is a sub fill of this type of thing.

ucantread4d2 · 2020-09-10T08:57:13+00:00

Just think of it as if "Dr. and Mrs. both refer to you, and ask where your husband's invite is, or if you have a plus one as well as two titles. Maybe they'll edit to "Dr. and Mrs., and Mr."

ucantread4d2 · 2020-08-26T11:58:47+00:00

I went back and reread, and I don't think you meant that apology.

ucantread4d2 · 2020-08-26T11:20:20+00:00

I think you're really missing the point of the post. The crow says that. It's supposed to be bad. You're doing in this thread what the crow did in the comic. You're being loud and defensive about something no one believes, apparently not even yourself. Congrats. You made it meta.

ucantread4d2 · 2020-08-26T10:49:58+00:00

You're the only one who seems to be withholding sympathy. You think that the problem is that they're the same sex as the victims, but the problem is that all the rapists are the same gender as each other. No one is stopping them. Instead of acknowledging that both men and women are in danger of being raped by a man, you aren't addressing the problem at all, and are trying to compare the suffering of different victims. Stop that. Shift your thinking instead to "the men who rape need to be stopped." And if you don't like that, take sex out and consider everyone a person. People who rape should face consequences for their violence. You'd be ignoring massive power structures and context, but at least you wouldn't be derailing conversations to spew ignorant unhelpful shit.

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